Blocked my number
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Anonymous
| My parents blocked my number because I called a few times when I had been drinking. I was drinking too much the past 2 years but no longer drink. I am still blocked. To me blocking someone is final. It's basically saying you don't matter we are done with you even if there's an emergency. How do you advise coping with this? |
Anonymous
| Therapy. |
Anonymous
| AA |
Anonymous
| They don’t trust you. The way that you earn trust is good behavior + time. You may have started to engage in good behavior (not drinking), but not enough time has passed. Focus on your recovery and engaging in healthy behaviors. Stop trying to find blame with them and instead focus on what you need to do. |
Anonymous
| AA. Work a program. |
Anonymous
| It’s not final. It’s one medium of communication that they shut down to place necessary boundaries. Do your work. |
Anonymous
| Write a letter? Apologize? Tell them you are 2 years sober and are in AA? Don’t post pictures of yourself in bars? |
Anonymous
| It takes 2 seconds to unblock someone. They set a boundary. I had to do the same with an alcoholic friend. |
Anonymous
+1 You need to be in a program because you clearly don’t understand how your actions impacted them. You only care about yourself. Until you come to terms with your alcoholism and ALL of things you’ve done, they should have a boundary with you. |
Anonymous
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Snail mail. Mail them birthday cards and Christmas cards.
Commit to AA. |
Anonymous
+1 It's not final. And you cope with it by getting and staying sober, and then apologizing, unconditionally, for what you did when you weren't sober. And then you demonstrate your commitment to the change, so that they can trust that it's real. |
Anonymous
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It could be a mistake. I sometimes get messages on my phone, "Are you sure you want to block all future calls from this contact?" Uh, no, no idea why that popped up. But probably not in your case, since you were drunk dialing.
Send them an email or letter. Apologize for your behavior. Ask them to unblock you. Join AA. |
Anonymous
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Can you just talk to them and tell them what you said here? Tell them you're no longer drinking? If you're wanting to join a support group/program, thankfully there are several good options to AA out there now. SMART Recovery for one is much better; it's actually science based, no "higher power"' thing, etc. https://riahealth.com/blog/aa-alternatives/ |
Anonymous
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Have you owned to your actions during that time, and offered more than just a token apology - taking full responsibility for how your actions impacted and harmed them at the time, and now?
You “no longer drink”, but have they experienced you no longer drinking before? How long has it been, and have you taken any actions to actually work on the things that led you to problem drinking in the first place- eg. Counselling, AA, SMART recovery, She Recovers, etc. Blocking your number is absolutely a reasonable country for them to set. It’s now up to you to repair that relationship, although it might mean you are permanently blocked. There are consequences to drinking, and this is one of them for you. |
Anonymous
| Write them a letter. |