Family relationships police

[Anonymous]

Why do some posters here jump on each other’s throats with judgements?

Is it because this is an anonymous forum?

I don’t see people in real life acting like this, so why are there so many here? Is it insecurity or some hidden animosity?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do some posters here jump on each other’s throats with judgements?

Is it because this is an anonymous forum?

I don’t see people in real life acting like this, so why are there so many here? Is it insecurity or some hidden animosity?

People are saying what they wouldn't in public but want to but, since it is anonymous than it is easier.

[Anonymous]

That’s the point! What drives them to be so bitter and two faced though?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That’s the point! What drives them to be so bitter and two faced though?

Two faced? Are you sure that's what you meant?

In any event - judgmental? Yes. Bitter or two-faced? I don't know about that. But yes, an anonymous board gives some the feeling that they can 'tell it like it is". I actually appreciate it because your friends and family aren't going to do that for you - they will coddle you.

In every situation, here or IRL, you take what resonates and leave what doesn't. It really does come down to your response. You don't have to engage in the back and forth, but it is helpful to understand the other side - even if the other side is wrong, does that make sense? It may help someone understand the thinking of the person they posted about, a debate they have, an internal struggle, etc.

I see posts on here everyday about childhood trauma with cold narcissistic parents. I went on another post and a parent there said "what do you do when your adult child goes to therapy and lays blame at your feet?". So it's really very well be different perspectives of the same scenario.

And IRL, people are rude, nasty, etc. and you say "they don't do it in public" - but when are you going around asking complete strangers what they think about your very personal situation? So it's not really true that people aren't like that in real life. They exist. You choose to not deal with them. You can do so on this board as well.

[Anonymous]

Did you see that thread about the mother eating the fries?

There is some poster there who is bulldozing every person who doesn’t coded the fry eater.

People like that are very few and far in between in real life.

Maybe it’s a case of the crazies, but there are many posters like that, full of hate and anger.

A bit of teasing and trolling sometimes makes for a fun thread, but there seem to be lots of people with deep mental and emotional issues posting here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do some posters here jump on each other’s throats with judgements?

Is it because this is an anonymous forum?

I don’t see people in real life acting like this, so why are there so many here? Is it insecurity or some hidden animosity?

I think it’s because many people have baggage/resentment from their own family situations/upbringings that they are transferring to the posts.