Lesbian couples married 5+ years with kids…

[Anonymous]

Are you still regularly sexually active? I know we’ve all heard of LBD, but wondering how many of you haven’t experienced it.

[Anonymous]

yes, we are. I know I’m lucky

[Anonymous]

We are not. Been married almost 10 years. I’m happy with my spouse though.

[Anonymous]

We did but it was like that before kids.

We are separated and divorcing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We did but it was like that before kids.

We are separated and divorcing.

PP here - to clarify, I was referring to experiencing LBD.

[Anonymous]

No. We are not sexually active regularly.

At first we worried about it but now we've settled into a rhythm of having sex about once a year while on vacation.

Married for longer than a decade. Two kids.

I try not to worry about it.

Since I started taking anxiety meds I haven't had much desire.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We did but it was like that before kids.

We are separated and divorcing.

Because of the lack of sex?

[Anonymous]

In part, yes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In part, yes.

Were you able to communicate your needs? How did it go?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In part, yes.

Were you able to communicate your needs? How did it go?

Yes. It was (and remains) a very complex situation filled with subjective perspectives. I think ultimately it boiled down to the fact that people change and grow - sometimes further apart, sometimes closer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In part, yes.

Were you able to communicate your needs? How did it go?

Yes. It was (and remains) a very complex situation filled with subjective perspectives. I think ultimately it boiled down to the fact that people change and grow - sometimes further apart, sometimes closer.

I'm sorry for your kids that you weren't able to work it out. I'm going through something similar but my partner and I have a lot going for us and I think and hope that we will be equally motivated to work on the other stuff.

[Anonymous]

We average a few times a year. Anniversary, bdays vacation. I wish it was more but between anxiety meds and finding myself not as physically attracted to my wife as much as I used to, we just don't. In all honesty, I'd like to open up the marriage (with specific rules) but I know even starting that Convo would ruin us. I love her and the life we've created dearly so I just deal with it. Not a huge breaking point for me.

[Anonymous]

What’s LBD?

[Anonymous]

Married a little longer and kids somewhat older and sex maybe once a month if we’re lucky. I love our life and think we’re good partners and really love her, but finding time when we’re not tired or sick or working is a big obstacle. You’re not alone. I sometimes think about opening it up but honestly don’t have the time and don’t think I would be good at balancing the emotions of it all, so I think infrequent sex and masturbation are the best way to go. Sex is good when we have it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What’s LBD?

Lesbian bed death