Mother is sending sweets and I'm struggling

[Anonymous]

My mom keeps sending DCs (8 and 10yo) boxes of chocolates and other large amounts of candy in the mail. I am a single mom and recovering emotional eater and don't want this stuff in my house; it keeps setting me back by having it there. She has good intentions, I know. But, can I ask her not to send it?

[Anonymous]

Throw it in the trash when it arrives. I am a person that can't have tempting food around so I either don't buy it or trash it when I've had enough.

[Anonymous]

THROW IT AWAY

[Anonymous]

Ask her not to send it. Tell her you and the kids appreciate her thinking of them, but that you really cannot have sweets in the house, so you'd like her not to send the kids food. Protect your health. If she gets upset, that's her problem. It's your house and you decide what comes into it.

[Anonymous]

Do you work in an office? When I get treats, I bring them into my office. If I get treats FROM the office, I sneak them into a different part of the office (on another floor).

Or, if that's not an option just toss them or give them to a neighbor.

[Anonymous]

Op, of course you tell her. . If she ignores you just throw them out.

[Anonymous]

They’re not for you, they don’t belong to you. Taking them is stealing. Do you teach your children it’s OK to steal if they “just can’t help it”?

[Anonymous]

If it were just to you, I’d say trash them or take them to work, but she is likely to ask the kids about whether they liked the sweets. So I would say,

“Mom, the kids love getting gifts from you in the mail and I am so appreciative of your thoughtfulness in sending them. I’m recommitting our family focus on healthy eating right now, so I am trying to limit the sweets in the house. Can you help me out and stop giving sweets for the time being? The kids would love origami paper, coloring books, or new pens and markers, if you want to send something. This new focus is going to be a little hard on all of us! Let me tell you about where we have been taking family walks to get some exercise….”

Rinse, repeat every time she sends candy. If it continues more than once or twice, then chuck it/give it away.

[Anonymous]

Of course you can ask her not to send them. And if she persists after that, toss them in the trash or give them away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They’re not for you, they don’t belong to you. Taking them is stealing. Do you teach your children it’s OK to steal if they “just can’t help it”?

Troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They’re not for you, they don’t belong to you. Taking them is stealing. Do you teach your children it’s OK to steal if they “just can’t help it”? [/quote

An 8 and 10 year old do not need boxes upon boxes of sweets, nor do they get to decide what gifts to keep.

[Anonymous]

She’s doing it to f$& with you. Show me one normal grandmother who sends large amounts of sweets in good faith.

[Anonymous]

How often is she sending these boxes and what quantity. My answer would depend on your answer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My mom keeps sending DCs (8 and 10yo) boxes of chocolates and other large amounts of candy in the mail. I am a single mom and recovering emotional eater and don't want this stuff in my house; it keeps setting me back by having it there. She has good intentions, I know. But, can I ask her not to send it?

What helps me is thinking of the treats as my kids' food and zi would take out a bit for them and throw the rest away. Thank you mom

[Anonymous]

I would suggest other things she can send, or suggest she send edible gifts less often.

I wouldn't deprive the kids of all treats and force them to eat like the typical DCUM mom. And I wouldn't set the example of throwing food away.