Is going places alone a good & viable way to meet people?

[Anonymous]

Looking for friends. Is going to coffee shops, restaurants bars, pubs alone a good way to meet and strike up conversation with other singles?

What's your best tip for finding friends?

[Anonymous]

Look into meetup in your area and see if there are groups in your interests: wine tasting, books, hiking, etc.

[Anonymous]

Not usually. A lot of times when people do those things alone, it’s for travel or peace. Neither of those things are going to lead to you making friends. If someone’s at a bar alone, they might want a FWB but probably not a BFF.

[Anonymous]

Pick up a new hobby like tennis, pickleball, book club, hiking club, photography/art class, cooking. You will make friends with similar interests.

[Anonymous]

Hasn’t been for me. I joined some Meetups instead, and it has been fantastic. I have a circle now, for the first time in my life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not usually. A lot of times when people do those things alone, it’s for travel or peace. Neither of those things are going to lead to you making friends. If someone’s at a bar alone, they might want a FWB but probably not a BFF.

This. I go to coffee shops and lunch alone for peace. Sometimes I’ll bring something short I need to read over for work.

[Anonymous]

I have not had a potentially romantic conversation at a bar or coffee shop in many years. I go to bars and coffee shops alone all the time. Dating apps work much better.

[Anonymous]

Nope. Seriously get a cute and friendly dog and start walking daily in your neighborhood. You will be amazed by the results

[Anonymous]

I used to, and still do, go social dancing (ie ballroom, salsa, etc) alone and meet tons of people, men and women. My skill level was once very low but that didn’t stop the show, in fact it started a lot of conversations!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I used to, and still do, go social dancing (ie ballroom, salsa, etc) alone and meet tons of people, men and women. My skill level was once very low but that didn’t stop the show, in fact it started a lot of conversations!

May I ask where you go social dancing by yourself?

[Anonymous]

Get a pedigree cat
Meet people in the pedigree cat show club

[Anonymous]

No, but it's a great way to have a really nice lunch, dinner, or drink accompanied by your own thoughts, a good book, or your cell phone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I used to, and still do, go social dancing (ie ballroom, salsa, etc) alone and meet tons of people, men and women. My skill level was once very low but that didn’t stop the show, in fact it started a lot of conversations!

May I ask where you go social dancing by yourself?

When I lived in DC I loved loved loved going to Glen Echo. They had a lot of different styles on different nights and it always included lessons beforehand. When it was swing or contra (square dancing but actually suprisingly fun!) they’d have live orchestras play on a big stage and it’d be packed but plenty of spacd to tuck away and chat while exhausted from dance. Not sure how Covid has impacted that but everybody was fun and friendly. There are also quite a few dance studios whose names escape me that would have lessons and then dance nights but the crowd there typically skewed a bit older than Glen Echo.

[Anonymous]

Is "friends" a euphemism? Because it sounds like you don't mean platonic connections.

Yes, it's a good way to meet people. I LOVE going to bars and coffee shops alone, generally, and I'm happily married so I really have to be guarded.

[Anonymous]

Worked great for me.