If your college kid lives with you ...

Anonymous
... do you allow them to bring their SOs over so they can have sex?

We've always had a rule about them staying on the main level of the house and out of bedrooms, but now my college kid is asking me to reconsider. I'm uncomfortable with this and my husband is much more prudish than I am so would definitely not go for it. Just wondering how other parents handle this.
Anonymous
OP
It's your house your rules
I personally would allow however I understand why you would not.

Anonymous
I would say it’s time for your college kid to move out.
Anonymous
Would not allow. They need privacy, and can figure out how to get it.

Anonymous
I guess I just don’t see the issue. I had plenty of sex in college. No rules about that in my house.
Anonymous
Significant other for 5 minutes no. Significant other for 3-6 mos or more, probably yes.
Anonymous
My kid is 22 and in college. He doesn’t have a g/f but I wouldn’t have any restrictions on what part of the house they could hang out in. So I guess they could have sex in his room or even in the basement. My main concern is not policing where he has sex but that he wears a condoms. That and no means no and if a girl is drunk it’s an automatic no. Those have always been our conversations on the subject, I don’t think we’ve ever discussed restricted locations.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Significant other for 5 minutes no. Significant other for 3-6 mos or more, probably yes.


I guess I agree. I don't think any college kid is bringing a hookup home to their folks' house. My son's longterm gf staying over? Non issue.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:... do you allow them to bring their SOs over so they can have sex?

We've always had a rule about them staying on the main level of the house and out of bedrooms, but now my college kid is asking me to reconsider. I'm uncomfortable with this and my husband is much more prudish than I am so would definitely not go for it. Just wondering how other parents handle this.


Living at home after 18 is a bad idea in many ways.
Anonymous
I don’t understand “bring them over”

My college child has a SO, when they visit and sleep over they sleep in the same room if they ate in a long term committed relationship.

If they “go on a date, no they don’t bring home their date.
Anonymous
Sure, she's an adult. I don't police what she does in her bedroom.
Anonymous
When we had adult children living at home, it was just like when you lived with roommates. If you were going out for the evening, it was helpful to let them know. And to say when to expect you back. They had the house to themselves (implied)
Anonymous
If we were out of town or going out for the evening, we wouldn't care what happened while we're gone. Wouldn't need to know about it. No sleeping over.

If a SO visits from a distance away and needs to overnight that's different. But they are staying in separate bedrooms. What happens between midnight - 6am, I don't know about. But when I say goodnight I have the expectation that everyone goes to their separate rooms, and I say good morning when everyone comes out of their separate rooms.
Anonymous
This just feels very disrespectful and wrong.

So no.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:This just feels very disrespectful and wrong.

So no.


Why?
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