My birthday

[Anonymous]

Today is my 36th birthday and we've been in this game ttc for 6 years. It's really hard today. We Are visiting family. My sil recently had a baby. 4 month old and he's so cute and wonderful and when it was just the 5 of us it was fine. But my mil is here today and boy is it tough. She's constantly saying look at your mommy and smile or you look just like daddy ( we have male factor). Constantly singing and cooking and going on about how amazing it is to be a grandma and I love that for her. I want that for her. It's just been constant since 6am. Inside I'm dying. I know it's selfish and not rational. I don't want to take away anyone else's happiness Im just internally sad it may never happen for us.

Escaping for a few minutes before we do cake and I am/will be grateful for any celebration despite not wanting to celebrate at all. All it signifies is one year older, one more year it didn't work out and one more year my eggs are depreciating.

Just venting. Pls don't come at me for being done with mil and baby. It's not her personally I guess. Just the situation.

[Anonymous]

Sending you virtual hugs and empathy. It is hard. Best wishes to you

[Anonymous]

I’m so sorry. That sounds incredibly hard.

[Anonymous]

Hugs OP

[Anonymous]

It’s tough. The positive about having infertility issues during Covid was that I was given an excuse not to meet up with people. In addition to the new babies, I was also able to avoid the, “are you guys going to have a baby soon?” like questions. Sometimes it was unavoidable and cry when I get home.

It is completely ok to have these feelings. You can be happy for them and sad for yourself. I think you handled the situation the best you could by letting her be happy and you take time to feel your emotions.

[Anonymous]

About to turn 37 and trying for three years. Very depressed right now. I guess we're not alone

[Anonymous]

OP, please consider taking a pause from family visits like these. You need to protect yourself right now and if that means missing some events, that’s totally ok.

[Anonymous]

Op I wish you hugs and luck. I hope you’re getting infertility treatment if you haven’t started.

[Anonymous]

I’m sorry honey. MIL sounds kind of clueless.

[Anonymous]

I hear u. I was in the same position…birthdays are tough. Take it easy & gift yourself a stress free day/weekend.
I became a mom at 39 & it was a journey, but with a great payoff…but a lot of heartache getting there, so I just want to say - happy birthday & take care of yourself.

[Anonymous]

You don’t have to do this, especially on your birthday. Self care! It’s ok to say no or just make better more exciting plans!