Is it ok to act single when you are out?

[Anonymous]

I have a few married mom friends who love to go out and flirt and get attention from guys. I admit I used to do this in my 20s before I got married with kids. My friends are in their 40s. They love when younger guys flirt with them. I feel too tired to do this and don’t find it fun at all.

How would you feel if your spouse was out and about flirting and acting single?

I know I would be pissed if Dh and his friends went out to bars and clubs trying to pick up girls.

[Anonymous]

What does act single mean? Exist in public without one’s spouse?

[Anonymous]

If I'm out without my husband, and someone is kind and amusing, I will enjoy that and be kind and amusing in return.

The line is when things get explicit. That would make me very uncomfortable.

I expect the same from my husband. He's allowed to enjoy attention from others and give it in return, as long as the line is not crossed.

[Anonymous]

Get better, more mature friends

[Anonymous]

I think if they’re going out to specifically seek that kind of interaction, it’s problematic. Are they taking off their rings? I had a friend who was out with a group, without her DH, and a guy she was talking to asked for her number. She gave it to him because she felt like she’d led him on (I know, don’t get me started). She didn’t understand why her DH was upset. They divorced a year later.

If you aren’t looking for it and a little banter and harmless joking happens, I think that’s okay if it doesn’t become a habit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think if they’re going out to specifically seek that kind of interaction, it’s problematic. Are they taking off their rings? I had a friend who was out with a group, without her DH, and a guy she was talking to asked for her number. She gave it to him because she felt like she’d led him on (I know, don’t get me started). She didn’t understand why her DH was upset. They divorced a year later.

If you aren’t looking for it and a little banter and harmless joking happens, I think that’s okay if it doesn’t become a habit.

2 women activity seek the attention. They are always drinking, flirting, dancing, dry humping, exchanging numbers with guys. I think they want to know they still have it and being desired is important to them. I get annoyed going out with them because I feel they are out for attention and not to hang out with friends. I have limited free time and watching them act ridiculous is not how I want to waste my time.

I have other friends who are prettier and more attractive. They get attention too but don’t flirt back.

[Anonymous]

As long as they are wearing rings and not wasting the guys time, then flirt away

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think if they’re going out to specifically seek that kind of interaction, it’s problematic. Are they taking off their rings? I had a friend who was out with a group, without her DH, and a guy she was talking to asked for her number. She gave it to him because she felt like she’d led him on (I know, don’t get me started). She didn’t understand why her DH was upset. They divorced a year later.

If you aren’t looking for it and a little banter and harmless joking happens, I think that’s okay if it doesn’t become a habit.

2 women activity seek the attention. They are always drinking, flirting, dancing, dry humping, exchanging numbers with guys. I think they want to know they still have it and being desired is important to them. I get annoyed going out with them because I feel they are out for attention and not to hang out with friends. I have limited free time and watching them act ridiculous is not how I want to waste my time.

I have other friends who are prettier and more attractive. They get attention too but don’t flirt back.

So don’t go out with them? You sound like a disgruntled male poster who is mad the woman at the bar was married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think if they’re going out to specifically seek that kind of interaction, it’s problematic. Are they taking off their rings? I had a friend who was out with a group, without her DH, and a guy she was talking to asked for her number. She gave it to him because she felt like she’d led him on (I know, don’t get me started). She didn’t understand why her DH was upset. They divorced a year later.

If you aren’t looking for it and a little banter and harmless joking happens, I think that’s okay if it doesn’t become a habit.

2 women activity seek the attention. They are always drinking, flirting, dancing, dry humping, exchanging numbers with guys. I think they want to know they still have it and being desired is important to them. I get annoyed going out with them because I feel they are out for attention and not to hang out with friends. I have limited free time and watching them act ridiculous is not how I want to waste my time.

I have other friends who are prettier and more attractive. They get attention too but don’t flirt back.

So don’t go out with them? You sound like a disgruntled male poster who is mad the woman at the bar was married.

I guess for the past decade, I have been in mom mode. I used to work and spend all free time with my kids. I’m only recently going out more with adult friends without the kids. Maybe I’ve just been living in baby/toddler life and this is what other adult women do whether they are moms or not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As long as they are wearing rings and not wasting the guys time, then flirt away

You say that like you think most men care about a ring. I've had numerous affairs and when a woman asks me if she should take off her ring, or if it bothers me, I've always said, hell no. Leave it on. I like it. Nothing sexier than a married woman's hand wrapped around my.. while wearing her wedding ring. Sick, I know.

[Anonymous]

A lot of married women do this and really want to prove they can still get a man. Sad.

[Anonymous]

Not ok. This is what cheaters do.

[Anonymous]

My friends and I aren’t even married and we don’t act like that.

[Anonymous]

Hmm... I wear my wedding ring. If someone enjoys flirting with me or wants to dance with me, that's on them. I'm very happily married, but love to be social. Some of the most fun I've had on bachelorette parties has been with other married guys on bachelor parties. We talk and chat and there's no expectation of anything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think if they’re going out to specifically seek that kind of interaction, it’s problematic. Are they taking off their rings? I had a friend who was out with a group, without her DH, and a guy she was talking to asked for her number. She gave it to him because she felt like she’d led him on (I know, don’t get me started). She didn’t understand why her DH was upset. They divorced a year later.

If you aren’t looking for it and a little banter and harmless joking happens, I think that’s okay if it doesn’t become a habit.

2 women activity seek the attention. They are always drinking, flirting, dancing, dry humping, exchanging numbers with guys. I think they want to know they still have it and being desired is important to them. I get annoyed going out with them because I feel they are out for attention and not to hang out with friends. I have limited free time and watching them act ridiculous is not how I want to waste my time.

I have other friends who are prettier and more attractive. They get attention too but don’t flirt back.

I don’t see any harm in light flirting/witty banter or accepting a drink if a man buys it and sends it over. As long as it doesn’t turn sexual or inappropriate either in talk or actions. And dry humping?? No way. Where are you even going where 40+ yr olds are dry humping on a dance floor?