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Anonymous
| to finish with a BJ? Trying to see if 45 minutes is the norm (as my DH states) or if I am really a sucker (no pun intended!). |
Anonymous
| OMG, I can't imagine how your neck (and other things) feel after 45 minutes! For my DH, I guess it takes about 10-15 minutes. |
Anonymous
| I think this is a better conversation ignored. Just somebody trying to get their rocks off. |
Anonymous
| If you need 45 minutes complete a satifactory BJ then YOU really suck (no pun intended) at your technique |
Anonymous
| 45 minutes is hilarious. No. That is not the norm. |
Anonymous
This is a legitimate question-not trying to "get off" and this response, although it could have been worded nicer, is probably correct. I am so secluded, I did not realize there were special techniques. Outside of watching porn, which my dh does all the time, how can I learn these techniques? We are night and day when it comes to our sexual needs and experience |
Anonymous
| 4 miniutes |
Anonymous
| 45 min! I hope your DH is reciprocating! For me 10 min max. I don't even like it, but DH is very generous on me. |
Anonymous
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Call me crazy, but I suspect part of the problem might be all of the porn you say he is watching. It sounds like he may have become "desensitized" and it takes more to get him excited. You should ask him to lay off the porn for 8 weeks and see if this helps.
By the way, I'm not an antiporn freak, but I do think too much of something is bad. |
Anonymous
Ah, I see the issue - your DH is using porn as a benchmark for what is "normal" - not a good thing. In terms of learning techniques you just have to practice and also get feedback from your DH as to what works for him. I do not want to get too X rated , but next time, just imagine that you have an ice cream cone in your hand and go to work - mix in a few lick with a few sucks and focus on different parts of the "cone". Also, NO BITING!! |
Anonymous
| There are videos that can teach you too. Forbidden Fruit in Rockville sells them. |
Anonymous
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Thanks for the tips, advice. I was brought up in a very strict environment and have always been bashful and inexperienced when it comes to my sexuality. My dh is the opposite. I did not realize his porn habit was as excessive as it is. I have told him to cut back since I feel that it is de-sensitizing him and he denies it. Even regular sex lasts forever and he thinks all women would appreciate a man who can go for as long as he does.
It makes getting intimate with him a chore. He would "get" more if it wasn't an hour long session. And to turn things around, I only need 10 minutes MAX. Thanks for letting me know that this is not average response time. I'll work on my technique and really try to get him off the porn (although I have no idea how) I just can't compete with some of the thigns these women do! |
Anonymous
| I dated a guy once who never came from a BJ. I actually took it as a challenge because I usually can make a guy come in max 5 mins as I really enjoy it and usually look forward to it. It never happened. Was quite disapointed. |
Anonymous
| Here's the thing. I think porn is fine -- I think your husband can watch all he wants, but he needs to recognize that neither of you is in a porn movie. You need to communicate as real people and share what each of you wants. And then try to give it to each other. If this communication is really difficult, you may find a sex therapist helpful. |
Anonymous
Are we married to the same man?????? I actually told DH that it isn't fun when I am all dried out, sore, and just finished with the whole thing. |