My embarrassing trigger with my kid, any suggestions

[Anonymous]

Losing stuff, in particular water bottles, is a trigger for me. It has caused countless bad feelings between me and my seven-year-old. The thing is, the particular bottles that I like, which are metal, effective at keeping things hot or cold, and are leak proof with an attached lid and easy to clean, well- they are expensive. Problem is that I rely on them for everything. Swimming pool, beach, vacations. There are many times where he goes with friends or family to the pool or beach etc. and I need to send cold water and I sent it in the bottle. If I personally am not there, a bottle gets lost. They are so expensive to replace. I’m tired of having fights about it and both of us feeling bad. Any suggestions?

[Anonymous]

Sincerely. Does he need cold water? Or just water.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Losing stuff, in particular water bottles, is a trigger for me. It has caused countless bad feelings between me and my seven-year-old. The thing is, the particular bottles that I like, which are metal, effective at keeping things hot or cold, and are leak proof with an attached lid and easy to clean, well- they are expensive. Problem is that I rely on them for everything. Swimming pool, beach, vacations. There are many times where he goes with friends or family to the pool or beach etc. and I need to send cold water and I sent it in the bottle. If I personally am not there, a bottle gets lost. They are so expensive to replace. I’m tired of having fights about it and both of us feeling bad. Any suggestions?

He doesn’t need cold water. Is this a troll thread?

[Anonymous]

Why is he losing them?

My son has severe ADHD, yet has never lost anything to date (now he's 17). He cares about his stuff and double checks to see what he has.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Losing stuff, in particular water bottles, is a trigger for me. It has caused countless bad feelings between me and my seven-year-old. The thing is, the particular bottles that I like, which are metal, effective at keeping things hot or cold, and are leak proof with an attached lid and easy to clean, well- they are expensive. Problem is that I rely on them for everything. Swimming pool, beach, vacations. There are many times where he goes with friends or family to the pool or beach etc. and I need to send cold water and I sent it in the bottle. If I personally am not there, a bottle gets lost. They are so expensive to replace. I’m tired of having fights about it and both of us feeling bad. Any suggestions?

You weird bro

[Anonymous]

Stop using the expensive bottles for the more casual outings. Until your 7 year old can reliably bring these things home, they can't take the nicer stuff out.

Your kid will be ok if their water isn't perfectly cold. I promise. You can also keep a stash of store bought water bottles on hand for the times your kid is running out the door with a friend and you know it's a time they may lose track.

For school, label the water bottle VERY well and at least at our school, it's always come back to us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Losing stuff, in particular water bottles, is a trigger for me. It has caused countless bad feelings between me and my seven-year-old. The thing is, the particular bottles that I like, which are metal, effective at keeping things hot or cold, and are leak proof with an attached lid and easy to clean, well- they are expensive. Problem is that I rely on them for everything. Swimming pool, beach, vacations. There are many times where he goes with friends or family to the pool or beach etc. and I need to send cold water and I sent it in the bottle. If I personally am not there, a bottle gets lost. They are so expensive to replace. I’m tired of having fights about it and both of us feeling bad. Any suggestions?

Buy cheap bottles for him when you are not there. He's 7!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Losing stuff, in particular water bottles, is a trigger for me. It has caused countless bad feelings between me and my seven-year-old. The thing is, the particular bottles that I like, which are metal, effective at keeping things hot or cold, and are leak proof with an attached lid and easy to clean, well- they are expensive. Problem is that I rely on them for everything. Swimming pool, beach, vacations. There are many times where he goes with friends or family to the pool or beach etc. and I need to send cold water and I sent it in the bottle. If I personally am not there, a bottle gets lost. They are so expensive to replace. I’m tired of having fights about it and both of us feeling bad. Any suggestions?

When you are not there, he gets a generic store brand pre-filled bottle of water that you keep in the pantry. If you want cold water, keep a few in the freezer, frozen solid and send him with 2 (one normal, one frozen).

[Anonymous]

He gets a cheap bottle, you get your fancy bottle. I have cheap metal ones so I don't worry about plastics leaching and it's not a big deal if one gets lost.

[Anonymous]

I’m similar with my son who has severe adhd. He doesn’t get to bring the nice water bottles in general. I have a couple plastic ones for him.

[Anonymous]

This has to be a troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why is he losing them?

My son has severe ADHD, yet has never lost anything to date (now he's 17). He cares about his stuff and double checks to see what he has.

That’s unusual for a child with ADHD, especially one 10 years younger than your son. Thank your lucky stars.

[Anonymous]

I am in the same place. He only gets cheap ones- same with lunch bags. I no longer get rid of old crappy ones because he will likely forget the new one at school.

[Anonymous]

I felt the same way until I worked in a school. They ALL lose their stuff, all the time. It's nothing unique to your DC. Sorry, no advice except to write your kid's name on the bottle.

[Anonymous]

Girl if you don’t send your child with a bottle of Deer Park on outings with other people!

I swear people make stuff harder than it needs to be.

Whatever reason you have in your head why he can’t take a disposable water bottle on outings with other people isn’t worth messing up the relationship with your son.