Fed up with potty training

[Anonymous]

I first tried at 23 months but it was just me doing it anc it was too hard. So I did it Memorial Day weekend and it was meh. Sent her to daycare in underwear and they asked md to send in a pull up. She stopped peeing in the the potty altogether but she’ll sit on it. I spent weekends and nights with her naked and sometimes she would pee in the potty but mostly it’s in the floor or herself. I’ve tried stickers, candy etc. I feel like we’ll never be able to send her to daycare in underwear and get out of the pull-up. I’m ready to pay someone to help me. Any thoughts?

[Anonymous]

Oh and she’s 2.5 now.

[Anonymous]

Find her “currency”. For my oldest it was a see-through mesh bag filled with cars that he could see but not touch. Every successful pee trip allowed him to choose one car. For my second, it was three to five minutes of screen time. She would initiate potty trip and sit there and wait for just a few minutes with my phone as her reward!

Both trained before two but I’m sure the reward - good rewards - system works. My nephew was three and not the least bit interested in using the potty. So my sister bought him a Hot Wheels garage and left it in the box next to his potty. After a week of looking at the pictures on the box, he started to use to potty. After a week or two, he got it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Find her “currency”. For my oldest it was a see-through mesh bag filled with cars that he could see but not touch. Every successful pee trip allowed him to choose one car. For my second, it was three to five minutes of screen time. She would initiate potty trip and sit there and wait for just a few minutes with my phone as her reward!

Both trained before two but I’m sure the reward - good rewards - system works. My nephew was three and not the least bit interested in using the potty. So my sister bought him a Hot Wheels garage and left it in the box next to his potty. After a week of looking at the pictures on the box, he started to use to potty. After a week or two, he got it.

Thank you so much. I said to my husband today “what is her currency”? A term I learned on DCUM! I found one today when she wasn’t responding to the chocolate candy. She’ll sit on the potty but nothing happens. She’ll stand up and pee herself five minutes later.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Find her “currency”. For my oldest it was a see-through mesh bag filled with cars that he could see but not touch. Every successful pee trip allowed him to choose one car. For my second, it was three to five minutes of screen time. She would initiate potty trip and sit there and wait for just a few minutes with my phone as her reward!

Both trained before two but I’m sure the reward - good rewards - system works. My nephew was three and not the least bit interested in using the potty. So my sister bought him a Hot Wheels garage and left it in the box next to his potty. After a week of looking at the pictures on the box, he started to use to potty. After a week or two, he got it.

Thank you so much. I said to my husband today “what is her currency”? A term I learned on DCUM! I found one today when she wasn’t responding to the chocolate candy. She’ll sit on the potty but nothing happens. She’ll stand up and pee herself five minutes later.

Talk about “opening the door inside”. I have no clue why but that phrase really helped my kid get the concept of releasing pee. Also have them blow as if they were blowing out a candle.

Your kid will get there. Keep going and talking.

[Anonymous]

She might not be ready. Sounds like you’ve been at it for a while.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She might not be ready. Sounds like you’ve been at it for a while.

She’s ready. She can hold and release urine. She’s ready.

[Anonymous]

Have you tried underwear under pull ups? My daughter hated feeling wet. She jumped to potty train after two days of underwear under her diapers. Didn’t work at all on my son who couldn’t possibly have cared any less if he was wet or had a huge poop in his diaper.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She might not be ready. Sounds like you’ve been at it for a while.

She’s ready. She can hold and release urine. She’s ready.

Op here

She will hold all morning and all afternoon. Like hours of holding.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have you tried underwear under pull ups? My daughter hated feeling wet. She jumped to potty train after two days of underwear under her diapers. Didn’t work at all on my son who couldn’t possibly have cared any less if he was wet or had a huge poop in his diaper.

Op again. My daughter is like your son. She doesn’t care if she’s wet which is why I hate putting her in pull ups at daycare.

[Anonymous]

You're going to get lots of tips in this thread and I was bad at potty training, so I'm not going to give you any -- others have you covered.

I will say this: potty training went poorly for us. It's not easy to say why. Maybe we started too early and she wasn't ready. Maybe we gave up too easily when it went very, very badly the first time. I know part of it was due to two unforeseen life upheavals that hit in the middle of potty training (death of a close family member, then a job change/move) and set us back on what we thought was progress. All told, it took us over a year from when we first started training to when our child was finally, legitimately potty trained.

And now it's fine. Kid is 4, never has accidents, totally independent in the bathroom, no weird bathroom issues, never gets constipated, even night trained easily with no drama at all.

There were months and months where potty training occupied so much of my available energy and I absolutely felt like it was NEVER going to happen. And yes, we hired a behavioral therapist (who was either helpful, if you ask me, or a waste of money, if you ask my DH) who worked with us on getting to the finish line. If we could have hired a nanny to just make it happen, we would have, but it was not even a remote possibility for us at the time (not due to money but living situation).

Point is, you will get there. Keep at it. There are people on here who will have good advice. You might have to try a few different tacks before you find the one that works. It might be hell but then it will be over, and if you can just keep your head on straight and not totally lose it, you'll come out the other side unscarred, regardless of what some people will try to tell you (I had numerous people on here tell me my kid would basically be a failure at life because she potty trained at 3.5).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have you tried underwear under pull ups? My daughter hated feeling wet. She jumped to potty train after two days of underwear under her diapers. Didn’t work at all on my son who couldn’t possibly have cared any less if he was wet or had a huge poop in his diaper.

Op again. My daughter is like your son. She doesn’t care if she’s wet which is why I hate putting her in pull ups at daycare.

She can’t feel wet in pull-ups.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She might not be ready. Sounds like you’ve been at it for a while.

She’s ready. She can hold and release urine. She’s ready.

Op here

She will hold all morning and all afternoon. Like hours of holding.

She is definitely ready.

[Anonymous]

Your kid is not even 2 and you are fed up? Let it go and perhaps when she is older it will click.

[Anonymous]

Slow, steady and consistent. Not all kids learn quickly.