priv. school non-traditional family
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Anonymous
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I am a single mom by choice (DC created using a donor). I attended an independent school growing up (not in DC but similar to NCS/Holton). I feel I got an excellent education. My child wont have siblings, and we are comfortable financially so can afford private.
My sister's kids attend the same school I did; she and I have talked about how it seems different than in the late 80s/90s. Overt displays of money seem to be more of a thing and, while most of our former classmates have jobs/careers, that a lot of the mom's are often stay at home. This question is probably naive for this board but I am curious to know what people think. From a community standpoint, how would a family like DC and I fit in at area independent schools? |
Anonymous
| You’ll be fine. |
Anonymous
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I don't think it's possible to generalize: schools are very different.
I think that displays of wealth happen at public school too; certainly some public schools have a lot of SAHM. With the rise in remote work / gig work there are also a lot of working parents who are free to attend school events in the middle of the day. FWIW, we are a dual income household and our only child attends an independent, with some financial aid. I am aware of some extreme wealth in the community - primarily a couple families making very generous donations to the school - but a lot of the families seem to live like we do, with maybe more travel or swimming lessons. A family with a SAHP and multiple kids in private school seems to have about the same disposable income we do with two incomes but one kid. |
Anonymous
| Several single parents at our girls private in MD. It's up to you if you want to share how you became a parent. 😊 |
Anonymous
| Find the right school. At our K-8, there are multiple single parent families, some with one child, some with more. No one seems to bat an eye. |
Anonymous
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You're fine.
Don't share the parenting thing - it is no one's business and if you shared it with me I would think you are weird and try to avoid you in the future because that was your lead-in "Hi, I'm Larla and I bought my daughter from a sperm bank" Ugh. Just go with "Hi, I'm Larla and this is my daughter Larlette! We're so happy to meet you and be here!" |
Anonymous
Drop the stupid Larla thing. |
Anonymous
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The single mom thing won't be an issue.
Being of a different economic class can be a little weird at times. We are two feds and live a very simple life. Our kids are accepted and the parents are nice but most are not clamoring to be our friends---mostly because our worlds outside of school are just VERY different. We found it much easier to make parent friends when our kids were in public. Our lives outside school were just far more in align with the other families. |
Anonymous
| Not uncommon at all. |
Anonymous
OP, luckily for you and many of us there are not many people like this idiotic PP. I do agree that it’s nobody’s business. However, if you and I were friendly enough for you to want to share your family dynamics, I would not judge you in any way. I wouldn’t judge a family that adopted or a family that have blended families and multiple parents. I hope you find a lovely school home and thing for the most part that would be likely in the DC area. |
Anonymous
+1 Non issue. |
Anonymous
| Being a single mom by choice is super cool in my book. The PP who said “bought my daughter at a sperm bank” can F off. Wishing you luck. |
Anonymous
No one cares about your book |
Anonymous
| Single by choice and single by divorce are pretty common at a lot of schools. |
Anonymous
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A single mom I know just says, "Her dad is not in the picture,".
To this day, I don't know a thing about how this kid came into the world, and I don't think it matters. Lovely kid. Fun mom. Team players (both) so no more questions are needed and no more answers are owed. Good luck finding the school that feels like home for your family. |