DD is extremely emotional on day 2 of potty training.

[Anonymous]

She’s had a little pee success on the potty but then pees on the floor and gets upset. Before nap she was clearly uncomfortable holding urine and poop but refused to try on the potty and diaper! She wouldn’t even go pee in her nap diaper! Finally she fell asleep and urinated.

Poor little thing. This is my third kid and the older kids didn’t have this emotional reaction. DD is almost two.

[Anonymous]

She’s not ready. And if you push her it will back fire on you.

[Anonymous]

You need to wait a little longer for this kid

[Anonymous]

She’s not even two??? You need to stop. She’s not ready.

[Anonymous]

I have a kid who was like this and yes, we had to wait. When they are having emotional reactions to the process, and especially to not making it to the potty, it's best to back off because even what you would have considered gentle encouragement with your other kids may be perceived as pressure by a more sensitive, emotional child. We ultimately had to just give her a drawer with diapers and underwear and say "you know how to do it and where everything is -- it's up to you." It was hard. But different kids need different approaches.

[Anonymous]

I don’t think you need to stop. It’s a huge change for any kids and some react emotionally. I would gently keep going and find her “currency”. For my oldest it was a little car successful potty trip and for my DD it was five minutes of a video.

Just keep going.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think you need to stop. It’s a huge change for any kids and some react emotionally. I would gently keep going and find her “currency”. For my oldest it was a little car successful potty trip and for my DD it was five minutes of a video.

Just keep going.

Please don’t do this. Your very young child is letting you know she is not ready!!!

[Anonymous]

I disagree with PPs. If you had started earlier she wouldn't be having these emotions. Thousands of examples of 3 year olds refusing to train. You need to figure out why peeing on the floor is a high stakes fail. Likely it was an emotion from you. Turn it into a game. Find some poop books and stickers (etsy). Shaving cream in the bathtub and pee on it. Poop and pee in front of her so its not a top secret mystery.

Everybody poops - taro gomi

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think you need to stop. It’s a huge change for any kids and some react emotionally. I would gently keep going and find her “currency”. For my oldest it was a little car successful potty trip and for my DD it was five minutes of a video.

Just keep going.

Please don’t do this. Your very young child is letting you know she is not ready!!!

I couldn’t disagree more. We kept thinking DS wasn’t “ready” because of his crying and ended up with a serious poop phobia that kept him in diapers until four. More tears than you can imagine.

Just push through, OP. Strong emotions about a change just mean strong emotions about a change.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I disagree with PPs. If you had started earlier she wouldn't be having these emotions. Thousands of examples of 3 year olds refusing to train. You need to figure out why peeing on the floor is a high stakes fail. Likely it was an emotion from you. Turn it into a game. Find some poop books and stickers (etsy). Shaving cream in the bathtub and pee on it. Poop and pee in front of her so its not a top secret mystery.

Everybody poops - taro gomi

Earlier?? She's not even 2

[Anonymous]

The withholding behavior is a huge red flag and can cause a lot of problems down the line.
https://www.janetlansbury.com/2021/05/problems-with-potty-training-constipation-bedwetting-and-preschool-policies-with-dr-steven-hodges/

Agree that she is not ready.

[Anonymous]

Do you have a yard that is at least semi private? We trained ours on nice holiday weekends and they were just nude or pantsless outside all day and plied heavily with water and popsicles.

[Anonymous]

OP here with an update: today she was happy and perfect in the potty! She was so proud of herself and said “just like Mary!” (Sibling). She chose a reward and said she wanted to go again!

Thank you for the responses - especially those you encouraged sticking with it! Hoorah!

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't quit on day 2. When she pees on the floor, just reassure her that accidents happen and show her how to clean up. Keep encouraging her and see if she is able to push through this initial fear. With anxiety, parents are told not to allow kids to avoid the situations that make them anxious because it amps up the anxiety. Same here. Let her work through her fears for a few days. If she still is incredibly upset and not making progress, then you can let her know that you are taking a break and she can try again in a few weeks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't quit on day 2. When she pees on the floor, just reassure her that accidents happen and show her how to clean up. Keep encouraging her and see if she is able to push through this initial fear. With anxiety, parents are told not to allow kids to avoid the situations that make them anxious because it amps up the anxiety. Same here. Let her work through her fears for a few days. If she still is incredibly upset and not making progress, then you can let her know that you are taking a break and she can try again in a few weeks.

Looks like I posted at roughly the same time as OP. I'm glad to hear that your DD had success today!