Granson not allowed to get vaccinated

[Anonymous]

I keep my grandson several times a week. I taught him 1st grade when schools were closed. We are very close.

My son does not believe in the Covid vaccine. This has been an ongoing issue between us. My son is vaccinated, however.

Today I told my son that I want grandson vaccinated, that this is my only requirement for continuing to keep him (I do not charge for keeping him). I do not want to be the person who takes him somewhere that results in an infection by a new variant. I don't want to risk long haul Covid.

My son is refusing, still. He is telling me that I am forcing him to put my grandson in a place with strangers or with his new stepfather who is unemployed and who I do not know.

My son has to be right. All the time. He has to get his way or he threatens to keep GS from me.

I don't know why I'm writing this here. I just had to get it out. I'm devastated.

[Anonymous]

One of you is going to have to accept the other. If he doesn't get vaccinated... Then you have to actually say "no more free babysitting."

Just be careful for what you wish for.

[Anonymous]

Is your son vaccinated? If he says he is, do you actually believe him?

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry, OP, this must be really hard.

I can't tell you what to do in this situation, but I can tell you what I would do. There is not a vaccine in the world that is important enough to keep me away from my 6-year-old grandson, with whom I am very close, especially in a situation like this. Losing contact with you could be devasting to him, especially given the fact that it sounds like their has already been a divorce in his life.

Please think about that. He needs you.

[Anonymous]

I'm so sorry OP. It's always the idiots who are completely hard-headed.

[Anonymous]

OP here, yes, my son is vaccinated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I keep my grandson several times a week. I taught him 1st grade when schools were closed. We are very close.

My son does not believe in the Covid vaccine. This has been an ongoing issue between us. My son is vaccinated, however.

Today I told my son that I want grandson vaccinated, that this is my only requirement for continuing to keep him (I do not charge for keeping him). I do not want to be the person who takes him somewhere that results in an infection by a new variant. I don't want to risk long haul Covid.

My son is refusing, still. He is telling me that I am forcing him to put my grandson in a place with strangers or with his new stepfather who is unemployed and who I do not know.

My son has to be right. All the time. He has to get his way or he threatens to keep GS from me.

I don't know why I'm writing this here. I just had to get it out. I'm devastated.

This doesn't make sense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry, OP, this must be really hard.

I can't tell you what to do in this situation, but I can tell you what I would do. There is not a vaccine in the world that is important enough to keep me away from my 6-year-old grandson, with whom I am very close, especially in a situation like this. Losing contact with you could be devasting to him, especially given the fact that it sounds like their has already been a divorce in his life.

Please think about that. He needs you.

This but also if the grandson is in public school, he'll probably be required to get it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry, OP, this must be really hard.

I can't tell you what to do in this situation, but I can tell you what I would do. There is not a vaccine in the world that is important enough to keep me away from my 6-year-old grandson, with whom I am very close, especially in a situation like this. Losing contact with you could be devasting to him, especially given the fact that it sounds like their has already been a divorce in his life.

Please think about that. He needs you.

I agree with this OP. We're in a similar situation. Our grandson is extremely close with me and my husband. I'm so disappointed that they aren't getting him vaccinated. There is no way I would stop caring for him. I gave up on arguing with my son for my grandson's sake.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry, OP, this must be really hard.

I can't tell you what to do in this situation, but I can tell you what I would do. There is not a vaccine in the world that is important enough to keep me away from my 6-year-old grandson, with whom I am very close, especially in a situation like this. Losing contact with you could be devasting to him, especially given the fact that it sounds like their has already been a divorce in his life.

Please think about that. He needs you.

Thank you. This is why I didn't press the issue before now. I have a concern that if my grandson were to become ill, my son would blame me for it. I know I would blame myself. The rates are high where we live and unfortunately, vaccination rates are low. There was recently a huge convention of the QAnons not two miles from my house.

But you're right and I will think about it more. Thank you.

[Anonymous]

Have you asked him why?

My husband and I are both fully vaccinated. We have not vaccinated our child who is 5. We will likely give her the novavax version in 2 or so years after it’s been approved. We have chosen not to give her the current ones available not because we don’t believe in them but they were approved under emergency protocol and we would prefer a vaccine that is more fully researched for our child. We have consulted on an ongoing basis with our child’s pediatrician who supports this decision for our child (not speaking for other kids because each individuals health and risk is different.

If a family member or cafe provider mandated we give our child the vaccine we would stand firm by our decision. I am not saying your son is right but you could be more curious around his choice. This is not a black and white issue although so much of the narrative paints it as so.

[Anonymous]

OP, are you worry about getting covid from GS?
GS getting vaccinated will no lower your risk, maybe a little?
You can take him to places that require masks or stay outdoors only.

At home you can open windows, require good hand washing, stay away if he has signs of illness. Get a good air filter and ask son to pay for it!
You can require mask if you are still worried.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry, OP, this must be really hard.

I can't tell you what to do in this situation, but I can tell you what I would do. There is not a vaccine in the world that is important enough to keep me away from my 6-year-old grandson, with whom I am very close, especially in a situation like this. Losing contact with you could be devasting to him, especially given the fact that it sounds like their has already been a divorce in his life.

Please think about that. He needs you.

This but also if the grandson is in public school, he'll probably be required to get it.

I wish. Not the case.

[Anonymous]

He's stupid, but his kids, his rules.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I keep my grandson several times a week. I taught him 1st grade when schools were closed. We are very close.

My son does not believe in the Covid vaccine. This has been an ongoing issue between us. My son is vaccinated, however.

Today I told my son that I want grandson vaccinated, that this is my only requirement for continuing to keep him (I do not charge for keeping him). I do not want to be the person who takes him somewhere that results in an infection by a new variant. I don't want to risk long haul Covid.

My son is refusing, still. He is telling me that I am forcing him to put my grandson in a place with strangers or with his new stepfather who is unemployed and who I do not know.

My son has to be right. All the time. He has to get his way or he threatens to keep GS from me.

I don't know why I'm writing this here. I just had to get it out. I'm devastated.

This doesn't make sense.

NP. Most likely he is extremely stubborn and refuses to admit he is wrong or change his mind. He probably had to get a vaccine to keep his job, but he won't otherwise budge from his denial that the vaccine helps, prevents, or diminishes the effects of Covid. I know people like that, but fortunately for me, I can keep those people at arms-reach or only socialize with them on-line.

Sorry, OP, I don't know what to say, other than to offer my good thoughts to you. Like another PP above said, you aren't going to change him. You can only control your own response. Either you accept his position or you hold your position and see less of your grandson. Those are your two choices.