6 weeks PP & scared to “do it” again…

[Anonymous]

I know, I know…super odd posting haha

Got cleared at my 6 week PP appointment this week to resume “all activities” after my c section. Husband is of course thrilled at this and I obviously want to be intimate with him again but the thought of “doing it” postpartum makes me nervous and I don’t know why! I’m assuming with a c section, nothing will be uncomfortable?

[Anonymous]

Lube and wine.

[Anonymous]

Make sure you share your feelings and anxiety with DH. He should be understanding. Lube and wine will go along way!

[Anonymous]

also scared! even wiping with toilet paper feels scratchy -- how will something else feeel!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Lube and wine.

Haha ok I’ll give this a try. We used pre seed to conceive this baby so that’s all I have but I’m assuming this will work! But I need lube for a c section!? Idk why I figured because it was a c section, I’d have no issues down there with this!

[Anonymous]

I'm going to warn you, even with a c section I had some pretty significant pain for a couple months. Your husband just needs to be patient.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Lube and wine.

Haha ok I’ll give this a try. We used pre seed to conceive this baby so that’s all I have but I’m assuming this will work! But I need lube for a c section!? Idk why I figured because it was a c section, I’d have no issues down there with this!

Unfortunately no. The c section strains the pelvic muscles too. I was disappointed to learn this as well.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Lube and wine.

Haha ok I’ll give this a try. We used pre seed to conceive this baby so that’s all I have but I’m assuming this will work! But I need lube for a c section!? Idk why I figured because it was a c section, I’d have no issues down there with this!

FALSE. Please go see a pelvic PT prior to re-initiating sex. I hate this bs about men going without for x number of weeks. If you had any other surgery involving your vagina, anus, or pelvic region you would not need to have penetration 6 weeks after and no doctor would clear you. You still had 9 months of pregnancy.

If you must, find something else to relax you. If you need wine to have sex, there is a problem, even if it is just mental. Work slowly toward penetration. I know some posters will be like rip the bandaid off but if you pull the scab up and open the wound its not a solution.

[Anonymous]

Man with my c section I was ready to go at like 3-4 weeks (from a desire perspective). So this is REALLY different person to person. I had three c's and with my first we did it at 5, second at 4, and third at 2 (I know this was very stupid don't do this!).

I had really really horrible pregnancies though and getting the baby out honestly felt like I'd had cancer cured so I bounced back really fast.

But honestly I mean I know that is bananas but there was no problems at all with the equipment, it was just about making sure your abdomen is comfortable and him being gentle. Get it girl!

[Anonymous]

C-section you will be fine most likely. I had a vaginal delivery and I was NOT ready down there at 6 weeks. More like 8-10 weeks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Man with my c section I was ready to go at like 3-4 weeks (from a desire perspective). So this is REALLY different person to person. I had three c's and with my first we did it at 5, second at 4, and third at 2 (I know this was very stupid don't do this!).

I had really really horrible pregnancies though and getting the baby out honestly felt like I'd had cancer cured so I bounced back really fast.

But honestly I mean I know that is bananas but there was no problems at all with the equipment, it was just about making sure your abdomen is comfortable and him being gentle. Get it girl!

Just also going to say this doesn't mean everyone is like this or that you should feel obligated to have sex if it is painful! But I think pp talking about going to a PT first is crazy. You don't even know if you have physical issues yet! Talk to your H, make sure he's going to go slow and that he cares about your experience of this moment and that he's prepared to stop if it doesn't go well. And then make sure you do a lot of foreplay and have lube on hand and don't get too attached to the finish line. Getting back on the horse I think is actually important mentally, because new moms you can often kind of totally lose sight of yourself as a sexual being, but it should be on YOUR terms, I feel like my PP wasn't clear enough about that. And you should never force yourself to do anything that hurts (that you don't want to do! haha).

[Anonymous]

I had a C but sex was painful until I stopped breastfeeding. Things just felt too dry and tight, even with lube. Maybe that’s just me and my hormones.

[Anonymous]

I had a c section and had to get prescription cream for my hormones to help with the dryness. Ain’t a walk in the park.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had a C but sex was painful until I stopped breastfeeding. Things just felt too dry and tight, even with lube. Maybe that’s just me and my hormones.

Op here: I’m exclusively breastfeeding, I didn’t even think about that! My best friend had a c section and she said her and her husband had sex 4 weeks PP and it was fine for her so I had high hopes for myself! Definitely going to get some lube just incase. My husband and I haven’t been intimate since March so it’s way over due.

[Anonymous]

I had sex 2 weeks post c-section. (NOT suggesting this, I was being really careless, but it went fine, I can't recall any issues, though it was a while back.) With second c-section, I waited longer, but mostly because I was so tired, and wasn't in the mood. I think this is such a difficult time, emotionally, and such a huge transition, that you should be careful of falling into new patterns. What I really resented was that somehow I ended up as the gatekeeper (he asks, I say yes or no), it really killed the mood for me, but I was so, so tired...