How to trust again after being cheated on?

[Anonymous]

I was cheated on in my last relationship. It’s the first time it happened to me to my knowledge, and I’m middle aged. The situation really hurt. I’m dating someone new now, and find that I’m just not open to trusting the way I used to. How have others gotten past this?

[Anonymous]

Trusting the way you use to was wrong.

It’s okay to trust but verify and anybody that is offended by that is not a match.

[Anonymous]

I will never marry or let someone move in. Just keep it fun. At the first sign of trouble bail.

[Anonymous]

I’ve never been able to trust anyone again since my XDH. after a few bad experiences with boyfriends I gave up completely. Now I just focus on my kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve never been able to trust anyone again since my XDH. after a few bad experiences with boyfriends I gave up completely. Now I just focus on my kids.

As in your ex boyfriends also cheated?

[Anonymous]

Maybe be more realistic about monogamy.

[Anonymous]

two guys that I dated after my divorce cheated. I caught both of them. I mean obviously I have horrible taste in men …

[Anonymous]

Any person who chooses to get into a romantic relationship w/another will ALWAYS be at risk to be cheated on.

Every. single. person.

It’s a crap shoot, the luck of the draw.

🎶 Everybody plays the fool…There’s no exception to the rule…..🎶

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:two guys that I dated after my divorce cheated. I caught both of them. I mean obviously I have horrible taste in men …

How did you catch them?

[Anonymous]

Love comes with the risk of being hurt. It wouldn't be love otherwise.

The key is to trust YOURSELF. You will be OK no matter what happens. You will figure out if something shady is going on. You won't trust people who don't value honesty and integrity. But at the end of the day, you can't protect yourself from the possibility of being hurt without denying yourself the possibility of love. You just have to trust in yourself that you will be OK.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Love comes with the risk of being hurt. It wouldn't be love otherwise.

The key is to trust YOURSELF. You will be OK no matter what happens. You will figure out if something shady is going on. You won't trust people who don't value honesty and integrity. But at the end of the day, you can't protect yourself from the possibility of being hurt without denying yourself the possibility of love. You just have to trust in yourself that you will be OK.

All this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:two guys that I dated after my divorce cheated. I caught both of them. I mean obviously I have horrible taste in men …

How did you catch them?

one I went to his apartment to pick something up and he had someone there. the other one I made a fake tinder account and he asked me to come over to his place for some wine.

[Anonymous]

You don’t. I wish that wasn’t the case, but it’s just not possible. You can get to the point where you acknowledge your trust issues and understand them to the point that you can manage them and recognize when you are being irrational or triggered, but there is a reason they call it Post Traumatic Infidelity Disorder. When you go through that major of a trauma, the brain goes to extreme lengths to try and protect you from it happening again.

[Anonymous]

Sleep with one eye open and up your Google skills.

[Anonymous]

I trust myself to walk away if I need to. I will never trust a man the way I trusted my ex-husband. It makes me somewhat aloof and with a chip on my shoulder. But it's safer this way.