Birthday gift too expensive for girlfriend?

[Anonymous]

My girlfriend and I have been dating for six months. Her birthday is next week and I feel like I’ve thought of the perfect gift. She works in healthcare with most of the day either being on her feet or on the computer. She had talked about her feet hurting and her upper back/neck soreness. I’ve looked into and plan to buy her a 6 month membership for massages. She will be able to get a 60 minute massage twice a month and I also am extra once a month.
The price is $600. Do you think this is too much for a six month relationship?

[Anonymous]

Sounds very nice, just don’t tell her what it cost.

[Anonymous]

It depends on how much you both make.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds very nice, just don’t tell her what it cost.

OP here. I won’t tell her but she knows it will be expensive. She gets a massage every 3 months or so from there and it’s usually $80 + $20 tip each time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It depends on how much you both make.

OP here. I can afford it.

[Anonymous]

No that’s fine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It depends on how much you both make.

OP here. I can afford it.

I would personally love that gift.

My DH got me an expensive gift earlish in our relationship, too, because he could afford it.

[Anonymous]

SOunds nice!

[Anonymous]

Yes. Just get her one massage.

[Anonymous]

That sounds perfect. I would think that was a lovely gift.

[Anonymous]

Seems a bit much, not in terms of cost as such but in quantity and frequency of the services. But, if you're quite sure she like to have massages on that schedule, ok. Keep in mind that if you don't stay together for at least the next 6 months, the gift will keep on schedule even after you're out of the picture! Could be awkward.

[Anonymous]

Since it is a place she uses and likes, I think it would be really nice. Go with it.

[Anonymous]

I don't think I'd go full 6 months right out the gate, as that can be something with a strong personal preference (unless she already goes there and you know she likes it). I'd get her one and if she likes it, then maybe get the membership. I realize that would cost more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't think I'd go full 6 months right out the gate, as that can be something with a strong personal preference (unless she already goes there and you know she likes it). I'd get her one and if she likes it, then maybe get the membership. I realize that would cost more.

Sorry read the update comment. You're fine there.

The one thing is, if you break up would either of you feel weird she's still using it?

[Anonymous]

It's a great gift, but have you celebrated your birthday yet? My only concern would be that she might feel like she has to reciprocate for your birthday, and if you both are at different income levels that could be difficult for her.

If you've already had your birthday, probably not a concern. Or if you all already have a relationship where you often treat her on dates, etc., also probably not a concern. But if you think she might feel like she has to reciprocate, maybe a 3 month membership?