What do you call your child's teacher?

[Anonymous]

And what do they call you? I always call my son's teacher Ms. X, and she always addresses me by my first name. It's not a major issue for me because I'm not hung up on titles, but growing up, all teachers referred to parents as Ms., Mrs., or Mr.

[Anonymous]

I call her by her first name and she calls me by my first name. I'm curious as to why you call her Ms. X. I do address my son's teacher that way in front of my son, but that's it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I call her by her first name and she calls me by my first name. I'm curious as to why you call her Ms. X. I do address my son's teacher that way in front of my son, but that's it.

It was the way I was raised. You call the teacher by Mr., Ms., etc. with the exception of the teaching nuns where you put Sister in front of their first name. I'm usually around my child when I address her, but I've never just said, "Hey, Julie ..."

[Anonymous]

I start out with "Ms. Lastname" and switch to first names as I get to know the teachers better. In front of my child, though, I always address a teacher as "Ms. Lastname." Don't know quite why.

[Anonymous]

I feel that this should be the case for the teacher-student relationship, but not so for the teacher-parent relationship. You say it's not a major issue for you, but it must be bothering you to some extent. If you prefer for the teacher to call you Ms./Mrs. X, then tell him/her. The only people I want addressing me as Mrs. X are kids.

[Anonymous]

It doesn't really bother me. I was just curious since this is our 1st year in school. And my preference is for a child to call me Ms. Firstname instead of Ms. Lastname. Don't know why.

[Anonymous]

I generally use "Ms. X" because that is the way the teachers seem to sign their notes home. It always seems a little odd to me that we can't be on a first name basis, but not a big deal.

[Anonymous]

Ms. So-and-so, in front of my child, always.

Depending on the teacher, and depending on the relationship, in private we may be on a first name basis.

[Anonymous]

I can't quite bring myself to call the teachers by their first names, even in private. And I have no problem with kids calling me by my first name (rather than Mr....). I feel the teachers are entitled to the mark of respect. I may eventually change on this (some of them call me by first name, which I don't mind. Interesting issue...

[Anonymous]

DD's dancing school teacher is Miss Suzie.....

[Anonymous]

We are in public school and always call each other Ms./Mrs., same with therapist my DC sees (she always calls us Mrs./Mr.). When in preschool, one preschool the kids called the teachers by their first name so we did too. In another preschool, it was Mrs., and we called them (not with kids around) by their first names.

[Anonymous]

In my kids school we all call the teacher "Ms. X" just like the kids. Most of them seem not to use my name, when they do they call me "Ms. My-Son's-Lastname" which is not my last name which doesn't bother me at all. One even calls me "Son's-Name Mom" in a very sweet way that I always found friendly at the time.

[Anonymous]

Senora XYZ ... (kid in Spanish immersion)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can't quite bring myself to call the teachers by their first names, even in private. And I have no problem with kids calling me by my first name (rather than Mr....). I feel the teachers are entitled to the mark of respect. I may eventually change on this (some of them call me by first name, which I don't mind. Interesting issue...

I agree with this completely. I have not called my child's teacher by her first name, even though she has asked me to. When she is no longer my child's teacher, I may stop calling her Mrs. X and call her by her first name.

[Anonymous]

Mrs. X.

DH is a teacher and he hates it when parents presume to call him by his first name. He uses "this is Mr. X" in correspondence and phone calls because that's what he prefers.

He addresses parent in the same way.