Tired of DH getting sick and sticking me with kids

[Anonymous]

Every time the baby gets sick from daycare, DH catches the bug too and he gets even more sick than the baby- his immune system seems to be terrible. This is the second time in two months he’s been sick and I am going to be the sole carer of a sick child all weekend. I was very sympathetic the first time he got sick but now I’m just annoyed that he is going to get to sleep in till 9 or 10 while I do everything this weekend. Maybe this makes me heartless but I almost rather be sick and get to rest, and he be well. Any tips on what to do? He seems really sick so telling him to buck up doesn’t seem like the solution. But I’m very resentful

[Anonymous]

Use the awful NoseFrida thing and then you will be the one taking a sick day.

Seriously, my DH used to use it (I was too grossed out) and he got all the infant colds while I didn't!

Now the tables have turned and I get everything our now-toddler gets and he gets a minor sniffle.

[Anonymous]

This has happened … twice? And you are THIS resentful?

Oh, honey. This does not bode well.

Wow.

[Anonymous]

Just remember how crappy it feels to be really sick and be grateful you have your health.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just remember how crappy it feels to be really sick and be grateful you have your health.

She is sick. That way of thinking screams mental health problems. It’s not normal.

[Anonymous]

It will come around, OP. It always does. And you will be sick and he will be doing everything.

What you need is patience and perspective which, as a tired FTP of a baby, you might find it hard to come by.

Be kind to yourself and your partner. And don’t feel you have to get everything done. Some chores/errands can wait.

[Anonymous]

A friend of mine was a single parent with a toddler and a baby and had the flu many years ago. She had to manage. It’s nice to be able to be sick and alone if you have the option. But someone people have to still care for their kids. If he’s just got a bad cold I’d lump with the baby for a couple of hours while I ran to Target and got coffee or something. They’ll both survive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A friend of mine was a single parent with a toddler and a baby and had the flu many years ago. She had to manage. It’s nice to be able to be sick and alone if you have the option. But someone people have to still care for their kids. If he’s just got a bad cold I’d lump with the baby for a couple of hours while I ran to Target and got coffee or something. They’ll both survive.

What does lump with the baby mean?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Every time the baby gets sick from daycare, DH catches the bug too and he gets even more sick than the baby- his immune system seems to be terrible. This is the second time in two months he’s been sick and I am going to be the sole carer of a sick child all weekend. I was very sympathetic the first time he got sick but now I’m just annoyed that he is going to get to sleep in till 9 or 10 while I do everything this weekend. Maybe this makes me heartless but I almost rather be sick and get to rest, and he be well. Any tips on what to do? He seems really sick so telling him to buck up doesn’t seem like the solution. But I’m very resentful

Yikes. You're mad because you have to parent your own child alone?

[Anonymous]

Oh dear. This has only happened twice in two months?

I’m a mom of 3. We’ve had bug after bug after bug in this house since February. It just goes with the territory of parenthood. So grateful my husband understands if I get sick and he has three kids to manage alone, which happened when I was isolating five days with covid.

[Anonymous]

If you were sick, would he take the baby all weekend while you laid around? Or would you still have to soldier on while sick. If it’s the latter, tell him to get his ass up and stop being a baby.

[Anonymous]

Do you only have one kid?

[Anonymous]

Take advantage of naptime and go out for something relaxing during that time.

If your baby is not on a predictable routine/schedule, now is the time to start thinking about how to make him/her easier to manage. It's a lot easier to suck it up and be the solo/primary parent for a time when you know you'll have predictable breaks.

[Anonymous]

You’re pathetic, OP.

[Anonymous]

Are we talking barfing or a slight cold? Makes a difference.

Anyway, he’s not doing this on purpose you know. We both caught everything our first kid brought home and it was awful. Didn’t happen with the second kid thankfully.