Name frustration with my BFF's baby.

[Anonymous]

I know this will be unpopular, and I don't care

My BFF left her (now) ex husband at ~3 months pregnant. I let her move in with me and have basically been her "husband" throughout the remainder of her pregnancy. I've driven her to appointments, spent SO many nights listening to her cry, bought her baby stuff, threw her a baby shower, and helped her move everything out of her old house into her mother's house right before the baby came. This is all to say, I have personally sacrificed a lot for my friend and her baby.

Early on in the pregnancy she was toying with giving her child a name that honors her husbands subsaharan African heritage, but decided against it and decided on a very lovely name from her side of the family. Until she started to patch things up with her ex a few weeks before the due date. He wasn't at the birth and met the child a week later. She swore she wouldn't give the baby an ethnic name. She is a smart lady and knows that as a biracial child in America, the child will have a hard time with a name that is unpronounceable or difficult to spell.

That is, until the baby was born! She has decided on a 8 character African name with silent syllables, repeating consonants, and a long vowel where most people would say a short. It's difficult to spell, say, and doesn't look like how it sounds.

I know I have no skin in the game but I'm pretty upset for her child. On top of daddy issues, they are also going to have to deal with a difficult name.

Anyway, rant over

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know this will be unpopular, and I don't care

My BFF left her (now) ex husband at ~3 months pregnant. I let her move in with me and have basically been her "husband" throughout the remainder of her pregnancy. I've driven her to appointments, spent SO many nights listening to her cry, bought her baby stuff, threw her a baby shower, and helped her move everything out of her old house into her mother's house right before the baby came. This is all to say, I have personally sacrificed a lot for my friend and her baby.

Early on in the pregnancy she was toying with giving her child a name that honors her husbands subsaharan African heritage, but decided against it and decided on a very lovely name from her side of the family. Until she started to patch things up with her ex a few weeks before the due date. He wasn't at the birth and met the child a week later. She swore she wouldn't give the baby an ethnic name. She is a smart lady and knows that as a biracial child in America, the child will have a hard time with a name that is unpronounceable or difficult to spell.

That is, until the baby was born! She has decided on a 8 character African name with silent syllables, repeating consonants, and a long vowel where most people would say a short. It's difficult to spell, say, and doesn't look like how it sounds.

I know I have no skin in the game but I'm pretty upset for her child. On top of daddy issues, they are also going to have to deal with a difficult name.

Anyway, rant over

You're an idiot if you believe this.

-Mom of biracial child

[Anonymous]

Oh yeah, because we've conquered racism, right?

[Anonymous]

Look I'm sorry you're in unrequited love with your BFF, annoyed she got back with the baby's father (even though this takes a lot of responsibility off your plate and the kid gets to know both her parents), and don't think the kid's name should honor her heritage, but this isn't your relationship or your baby.

If the kid doesn't like her name later in life, she can use a nickname or change it. If she were biracial and named Olivia or Madison or whatever she'd still be biracial and have to deal with living in a racist society. At least now she gets to do it with a dad who can help her navigate that racism.

[Anonymous]

Are you not in the Dc area? Half the kid’s classmates will have foreign-sounding names.

[Anonymous]

You're stupid OP. The child will be fine. People will learn the name because a lot of us arent as stupid as you.

[Anonymous]

Of course OP is right, unfortunately.
Are you not aware that no one at Fox News and half the US senate properly pronounces the first names of the Vice President of the US or the newest Justice of the United States Supreme Court.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Of course OP is right, unfortunately.
Are you not aware that no one at Fox News and half the US senate properly pronounces the first names of the Vice President of the US or the newest Justice of the United States Supreme Court.

And?

[Anonymous]

I understand, OP. You've given a lot to this person, and they repay you with a stupid move (patching things up with the father, not choosing a name I'm sure is lovely).

Let it go. Be glad you were able to be generous in your time and effort. Benevolence is its own reward.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Of course OP is right, unfortunately.
Are you not aware that no one at Fox News and half the US senate properly pronounces the first names of the Vice President of the US or the newest Justice of the United States Supreme Court.

And?

Same poster.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Of course OP is right, unfortunately.
Are you not aware that no one at Fox News and half the US senate properly pronounces the first names of the Vice President of the US or the newest Justice of the United States Supreme Court.

And?

Cute? You conveniently cut off the bolded quote in this string.

This is true: as a biracial child in America, the child will have a hard time with a name that is unpronounceable or difficult to spell.
Evidence includes: no one at Fox News and half the US senate properly pronounces the first names of the Vice President of the US or the newest Justice of the United States Supreme Court.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Of course OP is right, unfortunately.
Are you not aware that no one at Fox News and half the US senate properly pronounces the first names of the Vice President of the US or the newest Justice of the United States Supreme Court.

And?

Cute? You conveniently cut off the bolded quote in this string.

This is true: as a biracial child in America, the child will have a hard time with a name that is unpronounceable or difficult to spell.
Evidence includes: no one at Fox News and half the US senate properly pronounces the first names of the Vice President of the US or the newest Justice of the United States Supreme Court.

And yet they are Vice President of the US and a Justice of the Supreme Court.

This proves that everyone at Fox News and half the US Senate are idiots, not that a non-Anglo name guarantees a child a hard time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Of course OP is right, unfortunately.
Are you not aware that no one at Fox News and half the US senate properly pronounces the first names of the Vice President of the US or the newest Justice of the United States Supreme Court.

And?

Cute? You conveniently cut off the bolded quote in this string.

This is true: as a biracial child in America, the child will have a hard time with a name that is unpronounceable or difficult to spell.
Evidence includes: no one at Fox News and half the US senate properly pronounces the first names of the Vice President of the US or the newest Justice of the United States Supreme Court.

And yet they are Vice President of the US and a Justice of the Supreme Court.

This proves that everyone at Fox News and half the US Senate are idiots, not that a non-Anglo name guarantees a child a hard time.

+1

[Anonymous]

If the biracial child has trouble in their lives, their name will be one of the least of these troubles. Mom like the name, so discussion is over.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Of course OP is right, unfortunately.
Are you not aware that no one at Fox News and half the US senate properly pronounces the first names of the Vice President of the US or the newest Justice of the United States Supreme Court.

And?

Cute? You conveniently cut off the bolded quote in this string.

This is true: as a biracial child in America, the child will have a hard time with a name that is unpronounceable or difficult to spell.
Evidence includes: no one at Fox News and half the US senate properly pronounces the first names of the Vice President of the US or the newest Justice of the United States Supreme Court.

And yet they are Vice President of the US and a Justice of the Supreme Court.

This proves that everyone at Fox News and half the US Senate are idiots, not that a non-Anglo name guarantees a child a hard time.

It proves both.