It's there a less ride easy to tell my mom

[Anonymous]

... That I'm not interested in which specific loads of laundry she did this morning in what order or what her neighbor's dog likes to eat or how Sally from church (oh you didn't ever know her?) was planning on going to Israel but her flight got moved and now she's not sure if she'll be able to catch up with the tour and she may scrap the trip all together but she wants to go before she turns 60.

Changing the subject doesn't seem to work very well.

[Anonymous]

Ack auto correct subject line, should say "is there a less rude way..."

[Anonymous]

My mom is like this so I just call when I am doing something else and let her prattle on and mm-hmm and Oh! periodically and she feels heard.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My mom is like this so I just call when I am doing something else and let her prattle on and mm-hmm and Oh! periodically and she feels heard.

Exactly this.

[Anonymous]

I hope all your conversations with your own friends are scintillating, relevant, and on point with the relative universal energy that is full of the vitality of being so charming and whatever age you are. Yet, I'll bet they are about carpool, or your washing machine breaking, a house you saw, the next trip, that teacher in Larla's school, your neighbors who always _______, or whatever. And your friends talk to you about the same thing which doesn't seem weird in the least.

Nothing, and I mean nothing, about your examples of what your mother talks to you about seem weird or remotely inappropriate. You seem to think it is. Why is that? What exactly is your preference?

Your mother talks to you. Get over yourself. One of the saddest posts today, but, yes, not the only one. You probably have plenty of company.

[Anonymous]

I hear you, but in fairness she listened to 18 years of useless drivel from you as a kid so you kind of have to roll with it. That’s what I tell myself anyway.

[Anonymous]

This is what is going on in her life.
Don't tell her you aren't interested.
Act interested and hope one day someone does the same for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:... That I'm not interested in which specific loads of laundry she did this morning in what order or what her neighbor's dog likes to eat or how Sally from church (oh you didn't ever know her?) was planning on going to Israel but her flight got moved and now she's not sure if she'll be able to catch up with the tour and she may scrap the trip all together but she wants to go before she turns 60.

Changing the subject doesn't seem to work very well.

Your mother is in her 50s. Not old. Her conversation doesn't seem odd, either. What exactly is the problem here?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hope all your conversations with your own friends are scintillating, relevant, and on point with the relative universal energy that is full of the vitality of being so charming and whatever age you are. Yet, I'll bet they are about carpool, or your washing machine breaking, a house you saw, the next trip, that teacher in Larla's school, your neighbors who always _______, or whatever. And your friends talk to you about the same thing which doesn't seem weird in the least.

Nothing, and I mean nothing, about your examples of what your mother talks to you about seem weird or remotely inappropriate. You seem to think it is. Why is that? What exactly is your preference?

Your mother talks to you. Get over yourself. One of the saddest posts today, but, yes, not the only one. You probably have plenty of company.

+ 100 ie, you suck op.

[Anonymous]

Lucky you, having your Mom still alive!
I would be so happy if my Mom were still here! Miss her so much that I would listen to anything. Your day will come ……..

[Anonymous]

It’s a kindness to listen. This is what’s going on in her life. Is it that much of a hardship to hear what’s on her mind? Good grief.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s a kindness to listen. This is what’s going on in her life. Is it that much of a hardship to hear what’s on her mind? Good grief.

Still want to know what OP considers conversation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hope all your conversations with your own friends are scintillating, relevant, and on point with the relative universal energy that is full of the vitality of being so charming and whatever age you are. Yet, I'll bet they are about carpool, or your washing machine breaking, a house you saw, the next trip, that teacher in Larla's school, your neighbors who always _______, or whatever. And your friends talk to you about the same thing which doesn't seem weird in the least.

Nothing, and I mean nothing, about your examples of what your mother talks to you about seem weird or remotely inappropriate. You seem to think it is. Why is that? What exactly is your preference?

Your mother talks to you. Get over yourself. One of the saddest posts today, but, yes, not the only one. You probably have plenty of company.

+1. These are the things we all talk about with family and friends. What do you talk about in casual conversation, OP? Your next life-saving mission to Haiti? Repurcussions of Putin's war on the global economy? Solutions to the supply chain problem?

[Anonymous]

Agree with PPs saying you need to take an interest in what interests her, or at least feign it. She's your mother.

If you want something more substantive to talk about, why don't you ask if you can send her a book and you talk about it as you both read it? Or watch a tv series and chat about it weekly? Be a problem solver.

[Anonymous]

You say changing the subject isn’t working well, but having a conversation is a two way street; you can’t change the conversation to something that is as boring to your mom as her prattle is to you. Surely there are lots of questions you’ve never asked your mom about your ancestors, her upbringing, things that happened to her when she was young that shaped her, her work experiences, etc. It’s fun to reminisce about old times. I’m sure there are things you don’t know about your mom that you would find far more interesting than her laundry.