really worried about social acceptance...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What you’ll find in much of Montgomery County is progressive views on race, sexuality, gender, etc., but a rampant lack of awareness among monied people about the ways their assumptions, attitudes, and choices exacerbate disparities. I’m in SS/TKPK but grew up near the area where you’re considering moving.. In both places there is a smugness about being on the correct side of certain social issues, but a real deficit of knowledge and humility about cultural and socioeconomic differences.

+1. being progressive can also mean being intolerant of views that differ from yours. In my experience, one sign of an accepting community is to have real diversity (political views, SES, ethnic, gender, etc). The students I've encountered in the area you're looking at aren't what I'd describe as warm or friendly tbh.

Hmm. Does one need to be tolerant of bigotry to be "accepting"?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Ok, now I REALLY call bulls!t.
Luxmanor isn't even in Bethesda or Potomac, it's in Rockville and it's certainly nowhere near Wyngate.

You still haven't given up the street you lived on in Wyngate, that every home on that street is a "McMansion" now.

Luxmanor is in North Bethesda (which, I agree, is not Bethesda). It's the second neighborhood north of Wyngate on Old Georgetown Road.

Following this thread. We are a two-dad family with kids starting K this fall at Luxmanor. Would be great to meet other LGBTQ+ families.

Just pointing out that OP posted last August and has presumably figured out something by now. Above is a new PP's post from today which re-started this thread.

[Anonymous]

New poster - if you're both American it doesn't matter if you're gay or not, you'll be more accepted than any other group in this area.

I'm a white female from Europe and despite living here decades, and becoming a citizen, I still do not fit in, and have people regularly say the same idiotic things like " welcome to the area!" and my favorite " I LOVE your accent!" -

[Anonymous]

What is wrong with traditional values of believing marriage is between a man and a woman?

You can still believe in tolerance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is wrong with traditional values of believing marriage is between a man and a woman?

You can still believe in tolerance.

You're welcome to believe whatever you want, but laws based on those traditional values are unconstitutional under the due process and equal protection clauses of the 14th Amendment, according to the Supreme Court.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What is wrong with traditional values of believing marriage is between a man and a woman?

You can still believe in tolerance.

You're welcome to believe whatever you want, but laws based on those traditional values are unconstitutional under the due process and equal protection clauses of the 14th Amendment, according to the Supreme Court.

Correct.

But you are allowed to personally have values that differ. As you know, the Supreme Court decision was a close call, 5 to 4.

If the Supreme Court strikes down affirmative action early next year, many will not agree with that decision. But it will be the law.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is wrong with traditional values of believing marriage is between a man and a woman?

You can still believe in tolerance.

There is nothing wrong with believing in traditional values when it comes to marriage - if the laws of the land are completely blind to the marital status of the citizens. But unfortunately that is not the case, is it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My experience of that area is that they are conservative in some social ways, but not politically and not in a homophobic way. I wouldn't want to live there for other reasons, but I don't think you'd experience any discomfort because of being a two mom family.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:New poster - if you're both American it doesn't matter if you're gay or not, you'll be more accepted than any other group in this area.

I'm a white female from Europe and despite living here decades, and becoming a citizen, I still do not fit in, and have people regularly say the same idiotic things like " welcome to the area!" and my favorite " I LOVE your accent!" -

I'm from the NC and get that comment, too.

[Anonymous]

Why should a two mom or two dad family have to live anywhere but where they want or can afford to? This thread is ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:New poster - if you're both American it doesn't matter if you're gay or not, you'll be more accepted than any other group in this area.

I'm a white female from Europe and despite living here decades, and becoming a citizen, I still do not fit in, and have people regularly say the same idiotic things like " welcome to the area!" and my favorite " I LOVE your accent!" -

I'm from the NC and get that comment, too.

Out of curiosity, why is it offensive to say I love your accent? A lot of people around here have accents, it's not a secret or anything to be ashamed of actually. If someone told me I love your accent, I'd take it as a compliment and would never think I didn't fit in because of it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:New poster - if you're both American it doesn't matter if you're gay or not, you'll be more accepted than any other group in this area.

I'm a white female from Europe and despite living here decades, and becoming a citizen, I still do not fit in, and have people regularly say the same idiotic things like " welcome to the area!" and my favorite " I LOVE your accent!" -

I'm from the NC and get that comment, too.

Out of curiosity, why is it offensive to say I love your accent? A lot of people around here have accents, it's not a secret or anything to be ashamed of actually. If someone told me I love your accent, I'd take it as a compliment and would never think I didn't fit in because of it.

It can be a grey area. Sometimes you're just wanting to break the ice or to make conversation by remarking about someone's accent, or asking what country they're from. Totally understandable. But sometimes those kinds of icebreakers can reinforce the feeling of not blending in/being an outsider. Maybe it's similar to how many would not want you to comment on their weight or appearance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What you’ll find in much of Montgomery County is progressive views on race, sexuality, gender, etc., but a rampant lack of awareness among monied people about the ways their assumptions, attitudes, and choices exacerbate disparities. I’m in SS/TKPK but grew up near the area where you’re considering moving.. In both places there is a smugness about being on the correct side of certain social issues, but a real deficit of knowledge and humility about cultural and socioeconomic differences.

+1. being progressive can also mean being intolerant of views that differ from yours. In my experience, one sign of an accepting community is to have real diversity (political views, SES, ethnic, gender, etc). The students I've encountered in the area you're looking at aren't what I'd describe as warm or friendly tbh.

Hmm. Does one need to be tolerant of bigotry to be "accepting"?

There’s a difference between being accepting, and being accepting of things that cause harm such as blackmail, threats, discrimination, fighting words meant to incite violence.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:New poster - if you're both American it doesn't matter if you're gay or not, you'll be more accepted than any other group in this area.

I'm a white female from Europe and despite living here decades, and becoming a citizen, I still do not fit in, and have people regularly say the same idiotic things like " welcome to the area!" and my favorite " I LOVE your accent!" -

Yes it's funny about this area. My DCs' classmates are diverse and accepting, but we are an unconventional household and we [adults] don't fit in here either. Looking forward to bolting this area as soon as they graduate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What is wrong with traditional values of believing marriage is between a man and a woman?

You can still believe in tolerance.

You're welcome to believe whatever you want, but laws based on those traditional values are unconstitutional under the due process and equal protection clauses of the 14th Amendment, according to the Supreme Court.

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