Is it true the Big 3 kids are getting hammered this year- and by that I mean bad admissions results?

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Anonymous wrote:I think it's great!

Signed, the OP of the "we did it right" thread

I believe OP asked for Big 3 parents only. You're the cheap parent who chose to pay for early retirement but not schools of choice for your kids. Not interested in your opinion. Thanks.

No, I'm the parent who wisely didn't pay for the Big 3 and sent my kids to colleges that many in the Big 3 would now kill to get their kids into.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm so confused about these posts complaining how Big 3 kids are getting hammered this year. I thought the whole reason everyone sends their kids to private school is not for college placement but to instill that love of learning? I thought parents didn't care about college outcomes?

So why are so many parents complaining about where their Big 3/private school children and their college outcomes?

It’s one thing to know that the $400k you spent does not confer an advantage. It’s another thing to find out that it’s a disadvantage.

True, but when you realize at the end of the game that your child really is a well-educated human being in a way that s/he simply would not be if coming from a public school, and in a way that will benefit him/ her for the rest of his/ her life, that is when you are thankful that you were able to give your child this gift.

I just can’t even.
DP

New poster here. Can you even imagine how horrible this person's child must be, growing up internalizing this message? And how out of touch with reality? My kids have gone to public and private, mostly private, and this is simply garbage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it's great!

Signed, the OP of the "we did it right" thread

I believe OP asked for Big 3 parents only. You're the cheap parent who chose to pay for early retirement but not schools of choice for your kids. Not interested in your opinion. Thanks.

No, I'm the parent who wisely didn't pay for the Big 3 and sent my kids to colleges that many in the Big 3 would now kill to get their kids into.

Good for you! And now you have kids with the best education AND you get a nice retirement too!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have a kid who is a sophomore at a Big 3 and by that let's say I mean St Albans/NCS, GDS, Sidwell or Maret. I have heard through my school grapevine that this year the kids at the elite privates are having terrible results-
especially the unhooked kids. I have heard that they are negatively affected by test-optional, the elimination of AP's and grade deflation.

Ok please tell me your experiences- Big 3 parents only please...I am not interested in hearing how well your W school kid did, or how stupid you think I am for paying private school tuition.

The rumors are true. It's been horrible. Half a mil in private and ended up exactly where we would have if we stayed with our highly regarded public school.

Haha, nice troll.

Yeah, I don't know any private school parents who think they're buying HYP. That's a weird stereotype (or public-school-parent fear, perhaps) and it's just not true. What we're buying is a different educational experience, and we get it. College admissions are another story. Honestly, my kid would probably get into a better college coming from our local mediocre public school... but it ain't worth trading 12 years of meh secondary education for a somewhat more prestigious college.

Agree that that the "half a mil" poster is a troll/private school hater. There are a lot of 'em. FOMO, I guess.

Agree! My DC went to a "good" private school in another city. I've had this conversation with other parents. Our kids would have had higher GPAs at our local public and be higher in the class because our private school chose "tops" SSAT/ISEE scorers and the public school takes everyone. The competition is more fierce at our private. It does NOT mean there are not smart kids at the public schools, It's just easier to be top of the class in most publics because everyone in your class is not a top scorer.

Either way, we did not chose private HS for college admissions. We chose it for the education, the small classes and the personal attention (our kids went to public up until HS, so we know the difference). My oldest went to a very good SLAC (not top). Younger one will likely go somewhere less competitive. For our older one, she would have had a shot at a better school coming form public, but she is super happy where she ended up. Younger one just wants to get through and is not about the intellectual journey, sadly.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm so confused about these posts complaining how Big 3 kids are getting hammered this year. I thought the whole reason everyone sends their kids to private school is not for college placement but to instill that love of learning? I thought parents didn't care about college outcomes?

So why are so many parents complaining about where their Big 3/private school children and their college outcomes?

It’s one thing to know that the $400k you spent does not confer an advantage. It’s another thing to find out that it’s a disadvantage.

True, but when you realize at the end of the game that your child really is a well-educated human being in a way that s/he simply would not be if coming from a public school, and in a way that will benefit him/ her for the rest of his/ her life, that is when you are thankful that you were able to give your child this gift.

OMG I just had a flashback to the end of sophomore year at my Ivy. These two boys in the house I was living in lit a fire in the fire pit in the back of the house and burned a bunch of notes and some books, laughing all the while like idiots. They were both very preppy types and one of them I'm positive came from a top private. I don't remember about the other one. I attended public schools and came from a family of educators that prized books and learning above almost anything else. I remember being absolutely horrified that these supposedly elite students at our elite institution would burn books.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm so confused about these posts complaining how Big 3 kids are getting hammered this year. I thought the whole reason everyone sends their kids to private school is not for college placement but to instill that love of learning? I thought parents didn't care about college outcomes?

So why are so many parents complaining about where their Big 3/private school children and their college outcomes?

It’s one thing to know that the $400k you spent does not confer an advantage. It’s another thing to find out that it’s a disadvantage.

True, but when you realize at the end of the game that your child really is a well-educated human being in a way that s/he simply would not be if coming from a public school, and in a way that will benefit him/ her for the rest of his/ her life, that is when you are thankful that you were able to give your child this gift.

I just can’t even.
DP

Sorry, but it's true.

That you truly believe that is the funniest part. Especially considering some of the very top publics in this area. But carry on, dreamer!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm so confused about these posts complaining how Big 3 kids are getting hammered this year. I thought the whole reason everyone sends their kids to private school is not for college placement but to instill that love of learning? I thought parents didn't care about college outcomes?

So why are so many parents complaining about where their Big 3/private school children and their college outcomes?

It’s one thing to know that the $400k you spent does not confer an advantage. It’s another thing to find out that it’s a disadvantage.

True, but when you realize at the end of the game that your child really is a well-educated human being in a way that s/he simply would not be if coming from a public school, and in a way that will benefit him/ her for the rest of his/ her life, that is when you are thankful that you were able to give your child this gift.

Except they end up bot understanding the majority of their fellow citizens, and are truly unable to grasp the fact that they have grown up in a privileged bubble which their loving parents will do absolutely anything to keep them in well into adulthood. But I guess a real-world education isn’t important to those rich enough to understand that their offspring will never have to live in the real world...

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You know what's so weird about DCUM? There's always so many posts about having to justify private education or wondering if it was $50k well spent or trying to get another person to admit that they wasted money when their kid ends up at the same college as yours. But... many (most?) people at these schools are ridiculously rich! I can't even imagine them thinking about a cost benefit analysis. Private school is a rounding error for them.

[Anonymous]

No it is not true. Better than last year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it's great!

Signed, the OP of the "we did it right" thread

I believe OP asked for Big 3 parents only. You're the cheap parent who chose to pay for early retirement but not schools of choice for your kids. Not interested in your opinion. Thanks.

No, I'm the parent who wisely didn't pay for the Big 3 and sent my kids to colleges that many in the Big 3 would now kill to get their kids into.

Not sure I have ever met someone who would kill themselves to get their kids into a state flagship...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You know what's so weird about DCUM? There's always so many posts about having to justify private education or wondering if it was $50k well spent or trying to get another person to admit that they wasted money when their kid ends up at the same college as yours. But... many (most?) people at these schools are ridiculously rich! I can't even imagine them thinking about a cost benefit analysis. Private school is a rounding error for them.

It’s not even close to “most.” We are double biglaw and seem to be higher income than the solid majority of our peer parents. It certainly isn’t a “rounding error.” Not even with one kid but we have 3. It’s a big sacrifice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm so confused about these posts complaining how Big 3 kids are getting hammered this year. I thought the whole reason everyone sends their kids to private school is not for college placement but to instill that love of learning? I thought parents didn't care about college outcomes?

So why are so many parents complaining about where their Big 3/private school children and their college outcomes?

It’s one thing to know that the $400k you spent does not confer an advantage. It’s another thing to find out that it’s a disadvantage.

True, but when you realize at the end of the game that your child really is a well-educated human being in a way that s/he simply would not be if coming from a public school, and in a way that will benefit him/ her for the rest of his/ her life, that is when you are thankful that you were able to give your child this gift.

I just can’t even.
DP

Sorry, but it's true.

That you truly believe that is the funniest part. Especially considering some of the very top publics in this area. But carry on, dreamer!

And that you continue posting about it says more about the chip on your shoulder than the PPs comments

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it's great!

Signed, the OP of the "we did it right" thread

I believe OP asked for Big 3 parents only. You're the cheap parent who chose to pay for early retirement but not schools of choice for your kids. Not interested in your opinion. Thanks.

No, I'm the parent who wisely didn't pay for the Big 3 and sent my kids to colleges that many in the Big 3 would now kill to get their kids into.

UVA is a fine school, but no Big 3 parent would “kill” to have their kid go to ANY public flagship. I think you are confusing Big3 parents with AAP parents in FCPS. LOL

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it's great!

Signed, the OP of the "we did it right" thread

I believe OP asked for Big 3 parents only. You're the cheap parent who chose to pay for early retirement but not schools of choice for your kids. Not interested in your opinion. Thanks.

No, I'm the parent who wisely didn't pay for the Big 3 and sent my kids to colleges that many in the Big 3 would now kill to get their kids into.

UVA is a fine school, but no Big 3 parent would “kill” to have their kid go to ANY public flagship. I think you are confusing Big3 parents with AAP parents in FCPS. LOL

Big 3 schools have the best drugs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a kid who is a sophomore at a Big 3 and by that let's say I mean St Albans/NCS, GDS, Sidwell or Maret. I have heard through my school grapevine that this year the kids at the elite privates are having terrible results-
especially the unhooked kids. I have heard that they are negatively affected by test-optional, the elimination of AP's and grade deflation.

Ok please tell me your experiences- Big 3 parents only please...I am not interested in hearing how well your W school kid did, or how stupid you think I am for paying private school tuition.

I would simply say to consider the self-interest of the people making these assessments. It can’t possibly be that this was an insanely competitive admissions year and their kids just didn’t make the cut; it has to be that less-worthy kids, whose parents didn’t pay hundreds of thousands of dollars for private school, somehow had an advantage. Come on.

A test optional public school candidate with a GPA that is higher than 4.0 (because of weighting and the fact that the took AP classes) looks really great compared to a big 3 GPA of 3.4 with no APs and a 33 ACT.

No measurable standardization of a high school's grading system or difficulty of teacher-made assessments and tests is very helpful to some high school students who apply to colleges and universities that are test optional.