Worst gift you've ever been given by a family member

[Anonymous]

My SIL gave me a body composition scale and fit bit for my bday. Ds was a year old and I had struggled hard with PPD after he was born. She knew, though I don't think she knew how bad it was. Anyways, I initially lost all the baby weight plus 10 pounds. And then gained 50, some of which was water weight from meds. My SIL is very much into fitness , no dairy gluten and sugar type of person. She used to make snide comments about what people ate or looked like, but I could ignore it.

I had been dreading my bday. I had the PPD under control but my self esteem was very low. DH and my therapist thought it would be good to have this party. I invited SIL because I felt I had to but figuring she wouldn't come. But nope she did. So I opened up a scale and fit bit in front of 25 friends and family with her saying that now I could take care of "all of this" while air portraying a fat silhouette. It was humiliating.

That was a couple of years ago. I've since lost the weight and mentally am in a great place. Dhs brother has finally realized she sucks and is getting a divorce.

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Anonymous wrote:My dad gave my stepmother $200 to purchase a special Christmas gift for me as I would be spending Christmas with them that year. Stepmom used the money to purchase for me a pair of green rubber boots and a robe (we lived in a warm climate where no one wears boots). I wasn’t upset by the gift, because I knew my stepmom didn’t like me, but I did feel a bit sad after watching my half siblings open all their gifts for over an hour. When I returned to my mom’s house and showed here the gifts I received, she was furious. My mom thought that the boots and robe looked used or regifted and cheap. My mom was so hurt by the gift, that she promptly called my dad to give him a piece of her mind. That was the last time I ever spent Christmas (or any other holiday) with my dad and his new family.

Curious, PP ... how is it that you knew your SM had $200 to spend solely on you? Did your dad tell you that? If so, shame on him.

This reminds me of the gifts I got from my stepdaughter who was in her early 20s and working at the time. One was a bar of soap that came free with purchase. Another was a 3-pack of socks, with one pair missing. Then she really stepped up and bought me a necklace with the most horrid green and brown stones in it (think 70's shag carpeting colors.)

So it goes both ways.

My dad told my mom when she called him. And after the call he mailed my mom a check to buy me a new gift.

Years later my dad confided in me that my stepmom has always been jealous of me.

Your father has serious boundary crossing issues. If my husband had conversations like this about me with his ex-wife AND his daughter he'd be looking at divorce number 2. No wonder second marriages have such a high failure rate. No one with children should ever get remarried.

^ BTW, your mother is a sh!t-stirrer. You yourself say you weren't upset by the gift yet she became "furious" and made a big stink about it. What she should have done is taught you to remain polite no matter what kind of crappy gift someone gives you. Then she should have dropped it.

And you sound like a real stepmonster!

My dad felt bad for me considering I had to watch my half siblings open thousands of dollars worth of gifts.

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Anonymous wrote:My dad gave my stepmother $200 to purchase a special Christmas gift for me as I would be spending Christmas with them that year. Stepmom used the money to purchase for me a pair of green rubber boots and a robe (we lived in a warm climate where no one wears boots). I wasn’t upset by the gift, because I knew my stepmom didn’t like me, but I did feel a bit sad after watching my half siblings open all their gifts for over an hour. When I returned to my mom’s house and showed here the gifts I received, she was furious. My mom thought that the boots and robe looked used or regifted and cheap. My mom was so hurt by the gift, that she promptly called my dad to give him a piece of her mind. That was the last time I ever spent Christmas (or any other holiday) with my dad and his new family.

Curious, PP ... how is it that you knew your SM had $200 to spend solely on you? Did your dad tell you that? If so, shame on him.

This reminds me of the gifts I got from my stepdaughter who was in her early 20s and working at the time. One was a bar of soap that came free with purchase. Another was a 3-pack of socks, with one pair missing. Then she really stepped up and bought me a necklace with the most horrid green and brown stones in it (think 70's shag carpeting colors.)

So it goes both ways.

My dad told my mom when she called him. And after the call he mailed my mom a check to buy me a new gift.

Years later my dad confided in me that my stepmom has always been jealous of me.

Your father has serious boundary crossing issues. If my husband had conversations like this about me with his ex-wife AND his daughter he'd be looking at divorce number 2. No wonder second marriages have such a high failure rate. No one with children should ever get remarried.

^ BTW, your mother is a sh!t-stirrer. You yourself say you weren't upset by the gift yet she became "furious" and made a big stink about it. What she should have done is taught you to remain polite no matter what kind of crappy gift someone gives you. Then she should have dropped it.

And you sound like a real stepmonster!

My dad felt bad for me considering I had to watch my half siblings open thousands of dollars worth of gifts.

And I’m guessing your dad also financed their gift bonanza, but your stepmom did all of the shopping for everyone?

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Anonymous wrote:My dad gave my stepmother $200 to purchase a special Christmas gift for me as I would be spending Christmas with them that year. Stepmom used the money to purchase for me a pair of green rubber boots and a robe (we lived in a warm climate where no one wears boots). I wasn’t upset by the gift, because I knew my stepmom didn’t like me, but I did feel a bit sad after watching my half siblings open all their gifts for over an hour. When I returned to my mom’s house and showed here the gifts I received, she was furious. My mom thought that the boots and robe looked used or regifted and cheap. My mom was so hurt by the gift, that she promptly called my dad to give him a piece of her mind. That was the last time I ever spent Christmas (or any other holiday) with my dad and his new family.

Curious, PP ... how is it that you knew your SM had $200 to spend solely on you? Did your dad tell you that? If so, shame on him.

This reminds me of the gifts I got from my stepdaughter who was in her early 20s and working at the time. One was a bar of soap that came free with purchase. Another was a 3-pack of socks, with one pair missing. Then she really stepped up and bought me a necklace with the most horrid green and brown stones in it (think 70's shag carpeting colors.)

So it goes both ways.

My dad told my mom when she called him. And after the call he mailed my mom a check to buy me a new gift.

Years later my dad confided in me that my stepmom has always been jealous of me.

Your father has serious boundary crossing issues. If my husband had conversations like this about me with his ex-wife AND his daughter he'd be looking at divorce number 2. No wonder second marriages have such a high failure rate. No one with children should ever get remarried.

^ BTW, your mother is a sh!t-stirrer. You yourself say you weren't upset by the gift yet she became "furious" and made a big stink about it. What she should have done is taught you to remain polite no matter what kind of crappy gift someone gives you. Then she should have dropped it.

And you sound like a real stepmonster!

My dad felt bad for me considering I had to watch my half siblings open thousands of dollars worth of gifts.

And I’m guessing your dad also financed their gift bonanza, but your stepmom did all of the shopping for everyone?

My dad is very conservative with his spending. Christmas is the only time he’s generous with his money. However, there is no way he would have given my stepmom thousands for Christmas presents. My stepmom was/is a shopaholic and always overindulges when it comes to her and her kids.

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Anonymous wrote:My dad gave my stepmother $200 to purchase a special Christmas gift for me as I would be spending Christmas with them that year. Stepmom used the money to purchase for me a pair of green rubber boots and a robe (we lived in a warm climate where no one wears boots). I wasn’t upset by the gift, because I knew my stepmom didn’t like me, but I did feel a bit sad after watching my half siblings open all their gifts for over an hour. When I returned to my mom’s house and showed here the gifts I received, she was furious. My mom thought that the boots and robe looked used or regifted and cheap. My mom was so hurt by the gift, that she promptly called my dad to give him a piece of her mind. That was the last time I ever spent Christmas (or any other holiday) with my dad and his new family.

Curious, PP ... how is it that you knew your SM had $200 to spend solely on you? Did your dad tell you that? If so, shame on him.

This reminds me of the gifts I got from my stepdaughter who was in her early 20s and working at the time. One was a bar of soap that came free with purchase. Another was a 3-pack of socks, with one pair missing. Then she really stepped up and bought me a necklace with the most horrid green and brown stones in it (think 70's shag carpeting colors.)

So it goes both ways.

My dad told my mom when she called him. And after the call he mailed my mom a check to buy me a new gift.

Years later my dad confided in me that my stepmom has always been jealous of me.

Your father has serious boundary crossing issues. If my husband had conversations like this about me with his ex-wife AND his daughter he'd be looking at divorce number 2. No wonder second marriages have such a high failure rate. No one with children should ever get remarried.

^ BTW, your mother is a sh!t-stirrer. You yourself say you weren't upset by the gift yet she became "furious" and made a big stink about it. What she should have done is taught you to remain polite no matter what kind of crappy gift someone gives you. Then she should have dropped it.

And you sound like a real stepmonster!

My dad felt bad for me considering I had to watch my half siblings open thousands of dollars worth of gifts.

Yep, figured it was about time to use the old stereotype about Wicked Stepmothers and add in a bunch of new and improved details to make yourself a true Cinderella. Sorry. There are two sides to every story. I'm sure your father and SM might have a different perspective especially when it comes to your mother's behavior.

It is interesting you say this was the first Christmas you spent with your father and half-siblings. So your father was re-married, had multiple children who were your half-siblings yet you NEVER spent a holiday with them prior to this experience? That seems odd. Then after one alleged "crappy" experience you never again spent another holiday with your father and your half-siblings.

IMO I think you may have been subjected to Parental Alienation by your mother. Suggest you read up on the topic. It may be enlightening.

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Anonymous wrote:My dad gave my stepmother $200 to purchase a special Christmas gift for me as I would be spending Christmas with them that year. Stepmom used the money to purchase for me a pair of green rubber boots and a robe (we lived in a warm climate where no one wears boots). I wasn’t upset by the gift, because I knew my stepmom didn’t like me, but I did feel a bit sad after watching my half siblings open all their gifts for over an hour. When I returned to my mom’s house and showed here the gifts I received, she was furious. My mom thought that the boots and robe looked used or regifted and cheap. My mom was so hurt by the gift, that she promptly called my dad to give him a piece of her mind. That was the last time I ever spent Christmas (or any other holiday) with my dad and his new family.

Curious, PP ... how is it that you knew your SM had $200 to spend solely on you? Did your dad tell you that? If so, shame on him.

This reminds me of the gifts I got from my stepdaughter who was in her early 20s and working at the time. One was a bar of soap that came free with purchase. Another was a 3-pack of socks, with one pair missing. Then she really stepped up and bought me a necklace with the most horrid green and brown stones in it (think 70's shag carpeting colors.)

So it goes both ways.

My dad told my mom when she called him. And after the call he mailed my mom a check to buy me a new gift.

Years later my dad confided in me that my stepmom has always been jealous of me.

Your father has serious boundary crossing issues. If my husband had conversations like this about me with his ex-wife AND his daughter he'd be looking at divorce number 2. No wonder second marriages have such a high failure rate. No one with children should ever get remarried.

Or maybe when you marry someone who already has children from a previous relationship it might behoove you to realize that the the kids don't just disappear because you fell in love.

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Anonymous wrote:My dad gave my stepmother $200 to purchase a special Christmas gift for me as I would be spending Christmas with them that year. Stepmom used the money to purchase for me a pair of green rubber boots and a robe (we lived in a warm climate where no one wears boots). I wasn’t upset by the gift, because I knew my stepmom didn’t like me, but I did feel a bit sad after watching my half siblings open all their gifts for over an hour. When I returned to my mom’s house and showed here the gifts I received, she was furious. My mom thought that the boots and robe looked used or regifted and cheap. My mom was so hurt by the gift, that she promptly called my dad to give him a piece of her mind. That was the last time I ever spent Christmas (or any other holiday) with my dad and his new family.

Curious, PP ... how is it that you knew your SM had $200 to spend solely on you? Did your dad tell you that? If so, shame on him.

This reminds me of the gifts I got from my stepdaughter who was in her early 20s and working at the time. One was a bar of soap that came free with purchase. Another was a 3-pack of socks, with one pair missing. Then she really stepped up and bought me a necklace with the most horrid green and brown stones in it (think 70's shag carpeting colors.)

So it goes both ways.

My dad told my mom when she called him. And after the call he mailed my mom a check to buy me a new gift.

Years later my dad confided in me that my stepmom has always been jealous of me.

Your father has serious boundary crossing issues. If my husband had conversations like this about me with his ex-wife AND his daughter he'd be looking at divorce number 2. No wonder second marriages have such a high failure rate. No one with children should ever get remarried.

^ BTW, your mother is a sh!t-stirrer. You yourself say you weren't upset by the gift yet she became "furious" and made a big stink about it. What she should have done is taught you to remain polite no matter what kind of crappy gift someone gives you. Then she should have dropped it.

And you sound like a real stepmonster!

My dad felt bad for me considering I had to watch my half siblings open thousands of dollars worth of gifts.

Yep, figured it was about time to use the old stereotype about Wicked Stepmothers and add in a bunch of new and improved details to make yourself a true Cinderella. Sorry. There are two sides to every story. I'm sure your father and SM might have a different perspective especially when it comes to your mother's behavior.

It is interesting you say this was the first Christmas you spent with your father and half-siblings. So your father was re-married, had multiple children who were your half-siblings yet you NEVER spent a holiday with them prior to this experience? That seems odd. Then after one alleged "crappy" experience you never again spent another holiday with your father and your half-siblings.

IMO I think you may have been subjected to Parental Alienation by your mother. Suggest you read up on the topic. It may be enlightening.

Wow who hurt you so bad? A child?

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Anonymous wrote:My dad gave my stepmother $200 to purchase a special Christmas gift for me as I would be spending Christmas with them that year. Stepmom used the money to purchase for me a pair of green rubber boots and a robe (we lived in a warm climate where no one wears boots). I wasn’t upset by the gift, because I knew my stepmom didn’t like me, but I did feel a bit sad after watching my half siblings open all their gifts for over an hour. When I returned to my mom’s house and showed here the gifts I received, she was furious. My mom thought that the boots and robe looked used or regifted and cheap. My mom was so hurt by the gift, that she promptly called my dad to give him a piece of her mind. That was the last time I ever spent Christmas (or any other holiday) with my dad and his new family.

Curious, PP ... how is it that you knew your SM had $200 to spend solely on you? Did your dad tell you that? If so, shame on him.

This reminds me of the gifts I got from my stepdaughter who was in her early 20s and working at the time. One was a bar of soap that came free with purchase. Another was a 3-pack of socks, with one pair missing. Then she really stepped up and bought me a necklace with the most horrid green and brown stones in it (think 70's shag carpeting colors.)

So it goes both ways.

My dad told my mom when she called him. And after the call he mailed my mom a check to buy me a new gift.

Years later my dad confided in me that my stepmom has always been jealous of me.

Your father has serious boundary crossing issues. If my husband had conversations like this about me with his ex-wife AND his daughter he'd be looking at divorce number 2. No wonder second marriages have such a high failure rate. No one with children should ever get remarried.

^ BTW, your mother is a sh!t-stirrer. You yourself say you weren't upset by the gift yet she became "furious" and made a big stink about it. What she should have done is taught you to remain polite no matter what kind of crappy gift someone gives you. Then she should have dropped it.

And you sound like a real stepmonster!

My dad felt bad for me considering I had to watch my half siblings open thousands of dollars worth of gifts.

Yep, figured it was about time to use the old stereotype about Wicked Stepmothers and add in a bunch of new and improved details to make yourself a true Cinderella. Sorry. There are two sides to every story. I'm sure your father and SM might have a different perspective especially when it comes to your mother's behavior.

It is interesting you say this was the first Christmas you spent with your father and half-siblings. So your father was re-married, had multiple children who were your half-siblings yet you NEVER spent a holiday with them prior to this experience? That seems odd. Then after one alleged "crappy" experience you never again spent another holiday with your father and your half-siblings.

IMO I think you may have been subjected to Parental Alienation by your mother. Suggest you read up on the topic. It may be enlightening.

Yes, that was the first Christmas Eve/Day waking up at their house opening gifts.

My mother always encouraged me to visit my dad and stepmom, but as I became older the disparaging remarks by my stepmom became too much. Once I turned 18 I no longer had to visit.

[Anonymous]

When my dad remarried he moved away to a different state so it was hard to form a relationship with his new family.

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Anonymous wrote:My dad gave my stepmother $200 to purchase a special Christmas gift for me as I would be spending Christmas with them that year. Stepmom used the money to purchase for me a pair of green rubber boots and a robe (we lived in a warm climate where no one wears boots). I wasn’t upset by the gift, because I knew my stepmom didn’t like me, but I did feel a bit sad after watching my half siblings open all their gifts for over an hour. When I returned to my mom’s house and showed here the gifts I received, she was furious. My mom thought that the boots and robe looked used or regifted and cheap. My mom was so hurt by the gift, that she promptly called my dad to give him a piece of her mind. That was the last time I ever spent Christmas (or any other holiday) with my dad and his new family.

Curious, PP ... how is it that you knew your SM had $200 to spend solely on you? Did your dad tell you that? If so, shame on him.

This reminds me of the gifts I got from my stepdaughter who was in her early 20s and working at the time. One was a bar of soap that came free with purchase. Another was a 3-pack of socks, with one pair missing. Then she really stepped up and bought me a necklace with the most horrid green and brown stones in it (think 70's shag carpeting colors.)

So it goes both ways.

My dad told my mom when she called him. And after the call he mailed my mom a check to buy me a new gift.

Years later my dad confided in me that my stepmom has always been jealous of me.

Your father has serious boundary crossing issues. If my husband had conversations like this about me with his ex-wife AND his daughter he'd be looking at divorce number 2. No wonder second marriages have such a high failure rate. No one with children should ever get remarried.

^ BTW, your mother is a sh!t-stirrer. You yourself say you weren't upset by the gift yet she became "furious" and made a big stink about it. What she should have done is taught you to remain polite no matter what kind of crappy gift someone gives you. Then she should have dropped it.

And you sound like a real stepmonster!

My dad felt bad for me considering I had to watch my half siblings open thousands of dollars worth of gifts.

Yep, figured it was about time to use the old stereotype about Wicked Stepmothers and add in a bunch of new and improved details to make yourself a true Cinderella. Sorry. There are two sides to every story. I'm sure your father and SM might have a different perspective especially when it comes to your mother's behavior.

It is interesting you say this was the first Christmas you spent with your father and half-siblings. So your father was re-married, had multiple children who were your half-siblings yet you NEVER spent a holiday with them prior to this experience? That seems odd. Then after one alleged "crappy" experience you never again spent another holiday with your father and your half-siblings.

IMO I think you may have been subjected to Parental Alienation by your mother. Suggest you read up on the topic. It may be enlightening.

Wow you have some issues to work through.

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Anonymous wrote:My dad gave my stepmother $200 to purchase a special Christmas gift for me as I would be spending Christmas with them that year. Stepmom used the money to purchase for me a pair of green rubber boots and a robe (we lived in a warm climate where no one wears boots). I wasn’t upset by the gift, because I knew my stepmom didn’t like me, but I did feel a bit sad after watching my half siblings open all their gifts for over an hour. When I returned to my mom’s house and showed here the gifts I received, she was furious. My mom thought that the boots and robe looked used or regifted and cheap. My mom was so hurt by the gift, that she promptly called my dad to give him a piece of her mind. That was the last time I ever spent Christmas (or any other holiday) with my dad and his new family.

Curious, PP ... how is it that you knew your SM had $200 to spend solely on you? Did your dad tell you that? If so, shame on him.

This reminds me of the gifts I got from my stepdaughter who was in her early 20s and working at the time. One was a bar of soap that came free with purchase. Another was a 3-pack of socks, with one pair missing. Then she really stepped up and bought me a necklace with the most horrid green and brown stones in it (think 70's shag carpeting colors.)

So it goes both ways.

My dad told my mom when she called him. And after the call he mailed my mom a check to buy me a new gift.

Years later my dad confided in me that my stepmom has always been jealous of me.

Your father has serious boundary crossing issues. If my husband had conversations like this about me with his ex-wife AND his daughter he'd be looking at divorce number 2. No wonder second marriages have such a high failure rate. No one with children should ever get remarried.

^ BTW, your mother is a sh!t-stirrer. You yourself say you weren't upset by the gift yet she became "furious" and made a big stink about it. What she should have done is taught you to remain polite no matter what kind of crappy gift someone gives you. Then she should have dropped it.

And you sound like a real stepmonster!

My dad felt bad for me considering I had to watch my half siblings open thousands of dollars worth of gifts.

Yep, figured it was about time to use the old stereotype about Wicked Stepmothers and add in a bunch of new and improved details to make yourself a true Cinderella. Sorry. There are two sides to every story. I'm sure your father and SM might have a different perspective especially when it comes to your mother's behavior.

It is interesting you say this was the first Christmas you spent with your father and half-siblings. So your father was re-married, had multiple children who were your half-siblings yet you NEVER spent a holiday with them prior to this experience? That seems odd. Then after one alleged "crappy" experience you never again spent another holiday with your father and your half-siblings.

IMO I think you may have been subjected to Parental Alienation by your mother. Suggest you read up on the topic. It may be enlightening.

Wow you have some issues to work through.

+1.

Please, less pathology, more sh!tty gifts for us to hear about. A kid got a sh!tty robe and gumboots from an adult in competition with a child. What sh!ty gifts have you gotten? Hopefully a few.

[Anonymous]

I was gifted a wedding album by my husband’s aunt and uncle that on the cover said “H’s Name and H’s Ex Girlfriend” with our wedding date. They hadn’t dated for about 7 years before we got married. Never got an apology. Aunt and uncle think this is hilarious and joke about it all the time.

[Anonymous]

Gifts from my MIL:

Honorable mentions were a FAKE gold chain which had been presented to me in a small plastic bag, alongside her son's professionally wrapped expensive gift. Another was a very small wallet with large pink, white and blue stripes and a rusty zipper. Last but not least was ONE cotton dishtowel. All things she had laying around the house I'm sure.

MIL was a multi-millionaire FWIW.

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Anonymous wrote:I was gifted a wedding album by my husband’s aunt and uncle that on the cover said “H’s Name and H’s Ex Girlfriend” with our wedding date. They hadn’t dated for about 7 years before we got married. Never got an apology. Aunt and uncle think this is hilarious and joke about it all the time.

They paid MONEY to have the ex’s name printed on it? That’s not funny. Did they do it on purpose or are they trying to laugh off that they forgot your name?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was gifted a wedding album by my husband’s aunt and uncle that on the cover said “H’s Name and H’s Ex Girlfriend” with our wedding date. They hadn’t dated for about 7 years before we got married. Never got an apology. Aunt and uncle think this is hilarious and joke about it all the time.

Holy wow, this is horrid.