Lived off trust fund and now my career sucks

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here's a different perspective: you were born with what 99% of people in the working world, even the lawyer/MBA types like myself, are busting their butts to achieve--a stable source of income for the rest of your life sufficient to cover your basic needs. Instead of trying to find a job that will let you buy more stuff and go on more/better vacations, consider taking your amazing freedom and using it to really explore the world or yourself. Ditch the apartment and use your rent money to travel around the world or live in a cabin in the woods for a year (the road less travelled, etc.). You can't start traveling now, of course, because of COVID, but you can start planning now so that you are ready to hit the ground running once things return to normal. You won't be staying in 4-star hotels, but you can see amazing things, meet amazing people, and broaden your horizons beyond buying more stuff to keep up with the Joneses.

If you feel like your life is unfulfilling now, do you really think an office job and bunch of fancy cars and nice vacations is going to give you a sense of purpose?

+1
Something to consider!

[Anonymous]

I work and like my job, but I would not work if I had your trust fund.

The good apartment and basic income would be enough for me though. Read, exercise, write a novel, and never feel stressed or tired from a full time work schedule: that sounds like heaven to me. Is being able to afford nice vacations really worth spending 40 hours a week at a job? It wouldn’t be worth it to me.


You are so lucky.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I work and like my job, but I would not work if I had your trust fund.

The good apartment and basic income would be enough for me though. Read, exercise, write a novel, and never feel stressed or tired from a full time work schedule: that sounds like heaven to me. Is being able to afford nice vacations really worth spending 40 hours a week at a job? It wouldn’t be worth it to me.


You are so lucky.

I agree. What is there to complain about?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I work and like my job, but I would not work if I had your trust fund.

The good apartment and basic income would be enough for me though. Read, exercise, write a novel, and never feel stressed or tired from a full time work schedule: that sounds like heaven to me. Is being able to afford nice vacations really worth spending 40 hours a week at a job? It wouldn’t be worth it to me.


You are so lucky.

I agree. What is there to complain about?

Maybe it's a feeling of apathy? Like, OP has no purpose in life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I work and like my job, but I would not work if I had your trust fund.

The good apartment and basic income would be enough for me though. Read, exercise, write a novel, and never feel stressed or tired from a full time work schedule: that sounds like heaven to me. Is being able to afford nice vacations really worth spending 40 hours a week at a job? It wouldn’t be worth it to me.


You are so lucky.

I agree. What is there to complain about?

Eh I get what she's talking about. I'm a SAHM of school aged kids so I have a lot of time to myself during the day. I like to putz around on the Internet while I leisurely drink coffee, work out, take long walks, read, listen to podcasts, clean and decorate the house, etc. etc. I can fill the time easily. But I realize that not many people live like this. In the world we live in, your job = your identity, especially in the US. It's usually the first thing people ask when they meet you. It's what you spend most of your time doing. When you don't have that, it's easy to feel adrift.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I work and like my job, but I would not work if I had your trust fund.

The good apartment and basic income would be enough for me though. Read, exercise, write a novel, and never feel stressed or tired from a full time work schedule: that sounds like heaven to me. Is being able to afford nice vacations really worth spending 40 hours a week at a job? It wouldn’t be worth it to me.


You are so lucky.

I agree. What is there to complain about?

Eh I get what she's talking about. I'm a SAHM of school aged kids so I have a lot of time to myself during the day. I like to putz around on the Internet while I leisurely drink coffee, work out, take long walks, read, listen to podcasts, clean and decorate the house, etc. etc. I can fill the time easily. But I realize that not many people live like this. In the world we live in, your job = your identity, especially in the US. It's usually the first thing people ask when they meet you. It's what you spend most of your time doing. When you don't have that, it's easy to feel adrift.

This sounds like heaven to me? I don't know what you are complaining about. Many (most?) people would not work full time if they didn't need or want the money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I work and like my job, but I would not work if I had your trust fund.

The good apartment and basic income would be enough for me though. Read, exercise, write a novel, and never feel stressed or tired from a full time work schedule: that sounds like heaven to me. Is being able to afford nice vacations really worth spending 40 hours a week at a job? It wouldn’t be worth it to me.


You are so lucky.

I agree. What is there to complain about?

Eh I get what she's talking about. I'm a SAHM of school aged kids so I have a lot of time to myself during the day. I like to putz around on the Internet while I leisurely drink coffee, work out, take long walks, read, listen to podcasts, clean and decorate the house, etc. etc. I can fill the time easily. But I realize that not many people live like this. In the world we live in, your job = your identity, especially in the US. It's usually the first thing people ask when they meet you. It's what you spend most of your time doing. When you don't have that, it's easy to feel adrift.

This sounds like heaven to me? I don't know what you are complaining about. Many (most?) people would not work full time if they didn't need or want the money.

DP. The PP you’re replying to didn’t complain. She was pointing out that her lifestyle isn’t a good fit for everyone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I work and like my job, but I would not work if I had your trust fund.

The good apartment and basic income would be enough for me though. Read, exercise, write a novel, and never feel stressed or tired from a full time work schedule: that sounds like heaven to me. Is being able to afford nice vacations really worth spending 40 hours a week at a job? It wouldn’t be worth it to me.


You are so lucky.

I agree. What is there to complain about?

Eh I get what she's talking about. I'm a SAHM of school aged kids so I have a lot of time to myself during the day. I like to putz around on the Internet while I leisurely [b]drink coffee, work out, take long walks, read, listen to podcasts, clean and decorate the house, etc. etc. I can fill the time easily.[/b] But I realize that not many people live like this. In the world we live in, your job = your identity, especially in the US. It's usually the first thing people ask when they meet you. It's what you spend most of your time doing. When you don't have that, it's easy to feel adrift.

This sounds like heaven to me? I don't know what you are complaining about. Many (most?) people would not work full time if they didn't need or want the money.

NP. Might sound like heaven until you’ve actually tried it. All this stuff can start to feel hollow pretty quickly. I think most people want to feel valued and purposeful in some way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here's a different perspective: you were born with what 99% of people in the working world, even the lawyer/MBA types like myself, are busting their butts to achieve--a stable source of income for the rest of your life sufficient to cover your basic needs. Instead of trying to find a job that will let you buy more stuff and go on more/better vacations, consider taking your amazing freedom and using it to really explore the world or yourself. Ditch the apartment and use your rent money to travel around the world or live in a cabin in the woods for a year (the road less travelled, etc.). You can't start traveling now, of course, because of COVID, but you can start planning now so that you are ready to hit the ground running once things return to normal. You won't be staying in 4-star hotels, but you can see amazing things, meet amazing people, and broaden your horizons beyond buying more stuff to keep up with the Joneses.

If you feel like your life is unfulfilling now, do you really think an office job and bunch of fancy cars and nice vacations is going to give you a sense of purpose?

+1
Something to consider!

TOTALLY

I would also suggest joining some boards. It's way way way more fun to be on a board than to actually have to go to work every day - as you know, since you've quit all your jobs quickly upon starting them.

I don't know how big your monthly payment is. If it's big enough, why don't you start a nonprofit or a foundation or something that you can be in control of, and that way you don't need the tedium of having to go to work every fcking day.

You can do it however you want, but also that way when people ask you what you do you'll have an answer - Oh, I run the Baxter Family Trust. We give grants and support to animal shelters looking to reduce cat euthanasia across the country, and we fund programs to help at-risk shelter dogs get the training they need to be able to get adopted! It's super fulfilling. We've saved 30,000 animals this year by funding programs at 1000 shelters across the country, and next year we're expecting that number to double.

(I can help you figure out how to give out grants to shelters, if that is your interest. Just give a shout!)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here's a different perspective: you were born with what 99% of people in the working world, even the lawyer/MBA types like myself, are busting their butts to achieve--a stable source of income for the rest of your life sufficient to cover your basic needs. Instead of trying to find a job that will let you buy more stuff and go on more/better vacations, consider taking your amazing freedom and using it to really explore the world or yourself. Ditch the apartment and use your rent money to travel around the world or live in a cabin in the woods for a year (the road less travelled, etc.). You can't start traveling now, of course, because of COVID, but you can start planning now so that you are ready to hit the ground running once things return to normal. You won't be staying in 4-star hotels, but you can see amazing things, meet amazing people, and broaden your horizons beyond buying more stuff to keep up with the Joneses.

If you feel like your life is unfulfilling now, do you really think an office job and bunch of fancy cars and nice vacations is going to give you a sense of purpose?

+1
Something to consider!

TOTALLY

I would also suggest joining some boards. It's way way way more fun to be on a board than to actually have to go to work every day - as you know, since you've quit all your jobs quickly upon starting them.

I don't know how big your monthly payment is. If it's big enough, why don't you start a nonprofit or a foundation or something that you can be in control of, and that way you don't need the tedium of having to go to work every fcking day.

You can do it however you want, but also that way when people ask you what you do you'll have an answer - Oh, I run the Baxter Family Trust. We give grants and support to animal shelters looking to reduce cat euthanasia across the country, and we fund programs to help at-risk shelter dogs get the training they need to be able to get adopted! It's super fulfilling. We've saved 30,000 animals this year by funding programs at 1000 shelters across the country, and next year we're expecting that number to double.

(I can help you figure out how to give out grants to shelters, if that is your interest. Just give a shout!)

LOL joining boards -- I work at a small nonprofit and we would never bring OP on unless she gave a bunch of money. Board want CPAs, lawyers, marketing people, MBAs. Op brings nothing to the table.

OP, start volunteering somewhere meaningful. You are literally wasting your life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here's a different perspective: you were born with what 99% of people in the working world, even the lawyer/MBA types like myself, are busting their butts to achieve--a stable source of income for the rest of your life sufficient to cover your basic needs. Instead of trying to find a job that will let you buy more stuff and go on more/better vacations, consider taking your amazing freedom and using it to really explore the world or yourself. Ditch the apartment and use your rent money to travel around the world or live in a cabin in the woods for a year (the road less travelled, etc.). You can't start traveling now, of course, because of COVID, but you can start planning now so that you are ready to hit the ground running once things return to normal. You won't be staying in 4-star hotels, but you can see amazing things, meet amazing people, and broaden your horizons beyond buying more stuff to keep up with the Joneses.

If you feel like your life is unfulfilling now, do you really think an office job and bunch of fancy cars and nice vacations is going to give you a sense of purpose?

+1
Something to consider!

TOTALLY

I would also suggest joining some boards. It's way way way more fun to be on a board than to actually have to go to work every day - as you know, since you've quit all your jobs quickly upon starting them.

I don't know how big your monthly payment is. If it's big enough, why don't you start a nonprofit or a foundation or something that you can be in control of, and that way you don't need the tedium of having to go to work every fcking day.

You can do it however you want, but also that way when people ask you what you do you'll have an answer - Oh, I run the Baxter Family Trust. We give grants and support to animal shelters looking to reduce cat euthanasia across the country, and we fund programs to help at-risk shelter dogs get the training they need to be able to get adopted! It's super fulfilling. We've saved 30,000 animals this year by funding programs at 1000 shelters across the country, and next year we're expecting that number to double.

(I can help you figure out how to give out grants to shelters, if that is your interest. Just give a shout!)

LOL joining boards -- I work at a small nonprofit and we would never bring OP on unless she gave a bunch of money. Board want CPAs, lawyers, marketing people, MBAs. Op brings nothing to the table.

OP, start volunteering somewhere meaningful. You are literally wasting your life.

Well yeah obviously she'd have to contribute to the boards. The boards I know want people who have networks or expertise, or have money. It sounds like OP has money. And is looking for purpose. I could see plenty of boards wanting in on that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here's a different perspective: you were born with what 99% of people in the working world, even the lawyer/MBA types like myself, are busting their butts to achieve--a stable source of income for the rest of your life sufficient to cover your basic needs. Instead of trying to find a job that will let you buy more stuff and go on more/better vacations, consider taking your amazing freedom and using it to really explore the world or yourself. Ditch the apartment and use your rent money to travel around the world or live in a cabin in the woods for a year (the road less travelled, etc.). You can't start traveling now, of course, because of COVID, but you can start planning now so that you are ready to hit the ground running once things return to normal. You won't be staying in 4-star hotels, but you can see amazing things, meet amazing people, and broaden your horizons beyond buying more stuff to keep up with the Joneses.

If you feel like your life is unfulfilling now, do you really think an office job and bunch of fancy cars and nice vacations is going to give you a sense of purpose?

+1
Something to consider!

TOTALLY

I would also suggest joining some boards. It's way way way more fun to be on a board than to actually have to go to work every day - as you know, since you've quit all your jobs quickly upon starting them.

I don't know how big your monthly payment is. If it's big enough, why don't you start a nonprofit or a foundation or something that you can be in control of, and that way you don't need the tedium of having to go to work every fcking day.

You can do it however you want, but also that way when people ask you what you do you'll have an answer - Oh, I run the Baxter Family Trust. We give grants and support to animal shelters looking to reduce cat euthanasia across the country, and we fund programs to help at-risk shelter dogs get the training they need to be able to get adopted! It's super fulfilling. We've saved 30,000 animals this year by funding programs at 1000 shelters across the country, and next year we're expecting that number to double.

(I can help you figure out how to give out grants to shelters, if that is your interest. Just give a shout!)

LOL joining boards -- I work at a small nonprofit and we would never bring OP on unless she gave a bunch of money. Board want CPAs, lawyers, marketing people, MBAs. Op brings nothing to the table.

OP, start volunteering somewhere meaningful. You are literally wasting your life.

Well yeah obviously she'd have to contribute to the boards. The boards I know want people who have networks or expertise, or have money. It sounds like OP has money. And is looking for purpose. I could see plenty of boards wanting in on that.

What’s the going price for a board seat? Someone with a (seemingly) modest trust fund and no real world experience can just waltz in and get a seat?

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't waste time with college classes or getting a degree in X. Since you can't hold down a typical job, the degree won't do you any good. It's a waste of time and money. Given that a lot of colleges/universities are online these days, do you really have the self discipline to complete consecutive online courses?

Since your passion and degree is Dance why not go into coaching or teaching dance? There are a ton of studios, rec centers, camps, etc that are always hiring that you could find a job.
Plus, teaching a bunch of dance classes isn't a 9-5 job so that's a plus since an office-type job is where you struggle.

Hec, even teaching a few zumba classes a few times a week would check off all your boxes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I work and like my job, but I would not work if I had your trust fund.

The good apartment and basic income would be enough for me though. Read, exercise, write a novel, and never feel stressed or tired from a full time work schedule: that sounds like heaven to me. Is being able to afford nice vacations really worth spending 40 hours a week at a job? It wouldn’t be worth it to me.


You are so lucky.

I agree. What is there to complain about?

Eh I get what she's talking about. I'm a SAHM of school aged kids so I have a lot of time to myself during the day. I like to putz around on the Internet while I leisurely [b]drink coffee, work out, take long walks, read, listen to podcasts, clean and decorate the house, etc. etc. I can fill the time easily.[/b] But I realize that not many people live like this. In the world we live in, your job = your identity, especially in the US. It's usually the first thing people ask when they meet you. It's what you spend most of your time doing. When you don't have that, it's easy to feel adrift.

This sounds like heaven to me? I don't know what you are complaining about. Many (most?) people would not work full time if they didn't need or want the money.

NP. Might sound like heaven until you’ve actually tried it. All this stuff can start to feel hollow pretty quickly. I think most people want to feel valued and purposeful in some way.

And they can do that outside of working a 9-5 grunt job. You have the time and the financial freedom OP, go volunteer or do something to help people less fortunate than you. Like me. Come help me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here's a different perspective: you were born with what 99% of people in the working world, even the lawyer/MBA types like myself, are busting their butts to achieve--a stable source of income for the rest of your life sufficient to cover your basic needs. Instead of trying to find a job that will let you buy more stuff and go on more/better vacations, consider taking your amazing freedom and using it to really explore the world or yourself. Ditch the apartment and use your rent money to travel around the world or live in a cabin in the woods for a year (the road less travelled, etc.). You can't start traveling now, of course, because of COVID, but you can start planning now so that you are ready to hit the ground running once things return to normal. You won't be staying in 4-star hotels, but you can see amazing things, meet amazing people, and broaden your horizons beyond buying more stuff to keep up with the Joneses.

If you feel like your life is unfulfilling now, do you really think an office job and bunch of fancy cars and nice vacations is going to give you a sense of purpose?

+1
Something to consider!

TOTALLY

I would also suggest joining some boards. It's way way way more fun to be on a board than to actually have to go to work every day - as you know, since you've quit all your jobs quickly upon starting them.

I don't know how big your monthly payment is. If it's big enough, why don't you start a nonprofit or a foundation or something that you can be in control of, and that way you don't need the tedium of having to go to work every fcking day.

You can do it however you want, but also that way when people ask you what you do you'll have an answer - Oh, I run the Baxter Family Trust. We give grants and support to animal shelters looking to reduce cat euthanasia across the country, and we fund programs to help at-risk shelter dogs get the training they need to be able to get adopted! It's super fulfilling. We've saved 30,000 animals this year by funding programs at 1000 shelters across the country, and next year we're expecting that number to double.

(I can help you figure out how to give out grants to shelters, if that is your interest. Just give a shout!)

LOL joining boards -- I work at a small nonprofit and we would never bring OP on unless she gave a bunch of money. Board want CPAs, lawyers, marketing people, MBAs. Op brings nothing to the table.

OP, start volunteering somewhere meaningful. You are literally wasting your life.

Well yeah obviously she'd have to contribute to the boards. The boards I know want people who have networks or expertise, or have money. It sounds like OP has money. And is looking for purpose. I could see plenty of boards wanting in on that.

What’s the going price for a board seat? Someone with a (seemingly) modest trust fund and no real world experience can just waltz in and get a seat?

Depends on the org. We wouldn't really have a use for OP except for the funds, so probably $20 - 25k/year? We're a small non-profit.