Is this a bad joke or just really out of touch? |
Whle I don't doubt that this can happen, I think this post implies that it is the norm. My experience at the same school is far from it. I am not a squeaky wheel about academics, I am not involved beyond helping with occasional class parties (literally have never been to a PTA meeting), and though I think my child has been bored I haven't made that known. Our child is certainly capable and we felt they should be in CES, but s/he has not been a lock by any means. Of the five or so other families I know in a neighborly, chat-at-the-park way in CES, none of them are visibly involved or have been vocal (to me) about complaining or making an issue (and this is the stuff we talk about at the park). They are all laid back and pretty easy going people. I can assure you none of us do Kumon. Is it that impossible to believe that the decisions really are made blindly and that even still, that leaves a critical mass of kids behind that should have benefited from the program, and that would happen at any cut-off class size, and that just universally sucks? |
Teach your child that words matter. |
I’m not sure what you mean by this. |
Teach your kids that missing the cut has consequences, just like living in an area with a large amount of poor people and under achievers. Good schools and poor schools don’take huge differences for brilliant hard workers, they make the difference for average kids and bellow average kids by raising the floor on how far they can fall. What most parents fail to grasp is most kids are average or worse. |
I think this a great opportunity to teach compassion and kindness to your son. Empathize with him, and say that you know it’s hard to be in a class full of kids who horse around, but that every classmate of ours deserves our kindness. The “bad” kids perhaps even more so- many of them are going through things at home that are extremely difficult, which can cause them to act out. Encourage your son not to look at it through the lens of “good kids” and “bad kids”, as that can have some pretty ugly consequences. Source: I’ve been there, done that. I was a disruptive kid when I was younger who didn’t take school seriously. I got in trouble a lot. Your son probably would have called me a “bad kid.” The truth was, my dad had died and my mom had remarried a man who was sexually abusing my sibling and me. I was acting out as a cry for help.There were lots of kids and teachers who wanted nothing to do with me, but a select few teachers and classmates showed me kindness and compassion in a way that I will never, ever forget. If they too would have just written me off as a “bad kid”, I probably wouldn’t be the functional adult that I am today. Encourage your son to do the same- and if he can’t outwardly do it, at least try to reframe his mindset. |
I don't think this is true. I know some squeaky wheel parents with very bright kids who for some reason did not get into CES. I know the parents advocated (because they were passionate about their kids). It did not make a difference. It used to be that a central office decided on HGC admissions (when it was called that), so it may not be up to individual schools anyway. |
Or make more money and just move west and surround your kids with others just like them so the teachers don’t have to spend much time trying get a few caught up to something they will never reach |
And yet they will still complain that their kids didn't get into one of the magnets! |
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This is a great point. Thanks for sharing. |
Luckily for us, Great Schools has been updated and it verifies the scores shared by previous posters from the Maryland Report Card. It also demonstrates that OP was right to have some concerns about how kids of color and low-income kids perform at PBES. With the caveat that GS lumps the various grades together, here's what we learned from the updated Great Schools: Piney Branch (percent proficient across all grades) Black: ELA - 22%, Math - 26%, Hispanic: ELA - 22%, Math 20% FARMS: ELA - 13%, Math - 16% East Silver Spring (percent proficient across all grades) Black: ELA - 34%, Math - 36%, Hispanic: ELA - 20%, Math 25% FARMS: ELA - 28%, Math - 33% Rolling Terrace (percent proficient across all grades) Black: ELA - 19%, Math - 33%, Hispanic: ELA - 9%, Math 25% FARMS: ELA - 7%, Math - 21% Flora Singer (percent proficient across all grades) Black: ELA - 25%, Math - 27%, Hispanic: ELA - 15%, Math 22% FARMS: ELA - 16%, Math - 21% The takeaway for me, as someone who has send kids through two of the above schools, is that middle class white kids do well anywhere but some of these schools are doing a better job than others with kids who, at the population level, experience systematic disadvantages. |
And then ... she will be accused of racism. I am not sure how to navigate this sort of thing, either. I am sure every one of the kids with behavior problems deserves compassion, and help, and more time than my UMC white kid who works on grade level. But my kid is miserable in this class. If I advocate for him, I am pulling resources from those other kids who need the resources more. If I pull him out to home school or for private, I am isolating him from students of color and lessons he could learn about difference and compassion. I have ideas about how to make this work for all kids. Those ideas take money the school system doesn't have, and the ones that don't are not something anyone cares to hear about anyway. And maybe they're wrong. Even if they did care, or I knew how to present them to the right people, or they were the right ideas, they wouldn't be implemented in time to fix my son's elementary education. So how do I live my liberal values and not make my kid feel like I've abandoned him, or set him up for a poor outcome? Would they let me come volunteer in the math classroom? Every day? Maybe, but I have to work, too. |
| Using one data point from one year that is itself unusual but while cherry picking schools seems dishonest. |
+1 |