Do you shade parents who rent in your school boundary?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't look down at them, I look past them. There is a difference

What I look down are the OOB families who feel entitled to a reality/environment they can't sustain by themselves

We are renting for a year to test out the neighborhood before we buy, to see if the neighbors are horrible people like you.

Not PP, but similarly situated. We can fully afford to buy in the neighborhood in which we are renting, thanks! We were also testing the waters. Have been somewhat surprised by how unfriendly it has been, so we will be moving back EOTP to our very friendly neighborhood while we continue to think it over.

NP and a renter that can't afford to buy. We aren't testing the waters, we're renting out of necessity. Our neighborhood is full of renters and it sucks to be looked down upon so harshly by people who own in other neighborhoods.

We love so much about DC but sometimes the monetary snobbery gets to be too much.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We don’t know many people who send their children to public schools. Is this renter vs non-renter divide really a thing? (I googled “throw shade”, so I’ve learned a few things here!)

No, it's not a real thing at our schools (Murch/Deal/Wilson).

[Anonymous]

I rent. I tell people. I couldn't care less if they will see me in a different way.

It is good to know as early as possible who are the jackasses so I can avoid them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I rent. I tell people. I couldn't care less if they will see me in a different way.

It is good to know as early as possible who are the jackasses so I can avoid them.

Right? I don't actually want my kid to be spending a lot of time with shallow snobs--I'd prefer that your crap values not rub off on her. And Lord knows, *I* don't want to spend time with you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I rent. I tell people. I couldn't care less if they will see me in a different way.

It is good to know as early as possible who are the jackasses so I can avoid them.

Right? I don't actually want my kid to be spending a lot of time with shallow snobs--I'd prefer that your crap values not rub off on her. And Lord knows, *I* don't want to spend time with you.

I'm thinking I'm going to start adopting this method because it's been really disappointing to think you're making a great new friend only to get dropped like an ebola covered rock the second they know you're one of those *poors* who rents. I'd rather know up front that you're a piece of poo before I (or my family) get emotionally invested.

[Anonymous]

This is such a weird discussion. Many many families at our JLKM rent -- often because they are only in DC for a few years or because it's just too damn expensive! I can't imagine caring how a family pays for their housing.

[Anonymous]

i shade anyone who doesnt send their kids to school in a golden top hat

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:i shade anyone who doesnt send their kids to school in a golden top hat

Bonus points for a monocle!

[Anonymous]

Renting in DC is smart. The school situation is a hot mess and it’s good to have flexibility.

Signed,
Homeowner

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I rent, and I throw shade at anyone who bought a house in the last few years. See how smug you feel in a year or two, after the market crash...

After Amazon moves in? Unlikely.

[Anonymous]

When does amazon announce their decision?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Renting in DC is smart. The school situation is a hot mess and it’s good to have flexibility.

Signed,
Homeowner

Same.

Plus asset prices are overvalued throughout the economy (though DC may not feel the effects of a crash).

And given the current political scandal that is eventually going to come to light, there may be changes in real estate financing because it is a target for money laundering. If the govt cracks down on money laundering as they should, money will flow out of DC and asset prices will sink.

Also, there is lots of Chinese money in US real estate and a lot in DC. A Chinese downturn, or stronger Chinese rules on money moving abroad, will affect the market here.

That said the DC market is super overheated right now. So who the heck knows.

[Anonymous]

We have felt snobbery because we live in an apartment (purchased condo) WotP and not in a single family home. This is a choice we have made for lifestyle reasons, not for financial reasons. Still, the snobbery is there in our neighborhood....

At the same time, I have recently probably started to take part in the snobbery of rent vs. buy in our apartment building. This is not intentional snobbery as I have nothing against people who rent. But when my first child was born 7 years ago, we developed a great group of friends within our building that we really enjoyed. There were about 6-7 families that all spent time together and enjoyed one another and one another's kids.

Fast forward 5 years and all but one family left for the suburbs. I had failed to realize that they were all just renting units until they could move out and buy a single family home. It was so disappointing!

So, now, I honestly don't want to waste time on renters......too much energy to put in to neighborts relationships then to have them up and leave. I still try to be friendly to families who rent but don't invite them over etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have felt snobbery because we live in an apartment (purchased condo) WotP and not in a single family home. This is a choice we have made for lifestyle reasons, not for financial reasons. Still, the snobbery is there in our neighborhood....

Take heart. By living in a condo, not a single-family home, you're helping make the neighborhood more livable.

DC needs more dense development - the close-in suburbs with all those single-family homes lead to congestion, low supply, and high prices.
Lots has been written about this, but here's recent:
https://ggwash.org/view/67102/hey-dc-yimbys-missing-data-for-your-arguments-here-it-is

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have felt snobbery because we live in an apartment (purchased condo) WotP and not in a single family home. This is a choice we have made for lifestyle reasons, not for financial reasons. Still, the snobbery is there in our neighborhood....

At the same time, I have recently probably started to take part in the snobbery of rent vs. buy in our apartment building. This is not intentional snobbery as I have nothing against people who rent. But when my first child was born 7 years ago, we developed a great group of friends within our building that we really enjoyed. There were about 6-7 families that all spent time together and enjoyed one another and one another's kids.

Fast forward 5 years and all but one family left for the suburbs. I had failed to realize that they were all just renting units until they could move out and buy a single family home. It was so disappointing!

So, now, I honestly don't want to waste time on renters......too much energy to put in to neighborts relationships then to have them up and leave. I still try to be friendly to families who rent but don't invite them over etc.

You know that people who buy a condo might also move to the 'burbs, right? And that there are people, like me, who rent and have zero intention of moving to the burbs. You're missing out on potential friends.

But you seem to be like so many people--friendships are "investments," and they aren't "worth it" if the friends move to Arlington or whatever. Whereas I don't evaluate friendships based on ROI, but on whether I enjoy spending time with people. If they move away--well, I still enjoyed the time I spent with them.

Would the last seven years of your life have been better if you hadn't bothered making friends with your neighbors? Is your life better now that you don't make friends with families who rent in your building?