This Girl Scout cookie typifies my horrible marriage.

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone who has done scout sales would understand that scouts don't order a little of this and a little of that and then hope it matches what people pre-ordered. The number of boxes received should exactly equal the number of boxes on the sheet. And the scout parent has to deliver the money before taking possession of any cookies. It's a grid, with name on each row and the exact type of cookies each person ordered (and paid for). How could anybody screw this up? I would be livid, knowing that neighbors paid for cookies that my DH was sitting there eating.

Actually, having just done scout sales, if you have preorders for 7 boxes of thin mints, you need to order a case (so 12 boxes). So it's totally possible for "left overs" - this is why people sell them at cookie booths

The "left overs" that you paid for (when you put down the deposit for the cookies) your daughter should work with the troop to sell at the cookie booth.

As for the way OP talks about her husband. Yikes.

Op says that she picked up the exact order based on the orders on her daughter's sheet. She didn't pick up extra cookies, she had the exact number of boxes to deliver.

Any extra boxes would have gone to the sidewalk sale that the troop does.

Cookie momster here. For us, in the Nation's Capital region of the GS, The TROOP does get extra cookies because we can only order full cases of cookies. Each case has 12 boxes of cookies in it. If a troop odered a total of 11 boxes of thin mints they would get a case of thin mints, so would have one box left over. Which somebody has to pay for (yes, the booth sales, or neighbors, etc. etc.). But that is troop based. No troop will end up with more than 11 extra boxes of each cookie flavor.

But each GIRL gets exactly what she ordered.

Perhaps dad ordered his own leftovers.

For the last time, dad did not do the ordering. Mom did.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't understand why people just say to let DH handle the fallout. They are a family. It will reflect poorly on the family not just on DH. They will not support the kid in whatever else she raises money for. And, honestly, when the neighbors are thinking about this situation they will be thinking about the mother bc the father was just so sweet taking his daughter around and can't possibly be accountable for the fiasco because he is just a dumb man. Drives me nuts.

Really? Does messing up a cookie order "reflect poorly on the family"? Newsflash- your neighbors don't spend that much time thinking about your family in these terms. And if they do, it means they have no life, so why would you care? If someone is so petty that he or she were to judge me for messing up a cookie order, I'd be quite happy not to have anything to do with that person anyway.

+1000

If you are a family who is sitting around discussing how a cookie mix-up "reflects poorly" on the neighbors down the street, you have much bigger problems than a box of Thin Mints on the counter that should have been two boxes of Tagalongs.

The neighbors will understand. They'll just be happy it didn't happen to them and their kid, lol. But the lesson that Op's child takes from this is what matters...

With this level of involvement/screwing up by the dh, I'm assuming the daughter is pretty young and doesn't know that anything is amiss.

Unlikely. The girl went door to door making the sales. The neighbors wrote their orders on the sheet clearly enough so that the Op could go and pick up the cookies from the Cookie Mom. It sounds as though Op's dh and daughter started to deliver the cookies but lost track of who they delivered to (?) and maybe misdelivered some boxes. And now they have a bunch of boxes that don't match their order sheet. So the dh has just decided enough is enough - "Free cookies!" But if Op's daughter involved at all in the delivery she knows that she didn't deliver all of her orders and that something got confused. So now they get to eat free cookies .

OP back. DD (2nd grade) and DH went around making the sales. Neighbors wrote their orders on the sheet. I (OP) went to pick up cookies from Cookie Mom. DH and DD did deliveries. Now he tells me there are leftovers.

Yes, they somehow misdelivered or lost track of who they had delivered the cookies to. That's why they have "leftovers". Those leftovers are simply orders that have been paid for but not delivered - they aren't "free" cookies for your dh. I know that you get that Op (I hope that your daughter does too). I'm sorry that your husband doesn't.

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This debate cant be about cookies

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone who has done scout sales would understand that scouts don't order a little of this and a little of that and then hope it matches what people pre-ordered. The number of boxes received should exactly equal the number of boxes on the sheet. And the scout parent has to deliver the money before taking possession of any cookies. It's a grid, with name on each row and the exact type of cookies each person ordered (and paid for). How could anybody screw this up? I would be livid, knowing that neighbors paid for cookies that my DH was sitting there eating.

Actually, having just done scout sales, if you have preorders for 7 boxes of thin mints, you need to order a case (so 12 boxes). So it's totally possible for "left overs" - this is why people sell them at cookie booths

The "left overs" that you paid for (when you put down the deposit for the cookies) your daughter should work with the troop to sell at the cookie booth.

As for the way OP talks about her husband. Yikes.

Op says that she picked up the exact order based on the orders on her daughter's sheet. She didn't pick up extra cookies, she had the exact number of boxes to deliver.

Any extra boxes would have gone to the sidewalk sale that the troop does.

Cookie momster here. For us, in the Nation's Capital region of the GS, The TROOP does get extra cookies because we can only order full cases of cookies. Each case has 12 boxes of cookies in it. If a troop odered a total of 11 boxes of thin mints they would get a case of thin mints, so would have one box left over. Which somebody has to pay for (yes, the booth sales, or neighbors, etc. etc.). But that is troop based. No troop will end up with more than 11 extra boxes of each cookie flavor.

But each GIRL gets exactly what she ordered.

Perhaps dad ordered his own leftovers.

For the last time, dad did not do the ordering. Mom did.

Mom took the order sheet to the Cookie Mom. The Cookie Mom gave Op the exact number of boxes ordered on the sheet. Op verified/counted the boxes with the Cookie Mom. Op brought the exact number of boxes home for dh and daughter to deliver using the order sheet. They went out and came back with undelivered boxes.

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone who has done scout sales would understand that scouts don't order a little of this and a little of that and then hope it matches what people pre-ordered. The number of boxes received should exactly equal the number of boxes on the sheet. And the scout parent has to deliver the money before taking possession of any cookies. It's a grid, with name on each row and the exact type of cookies each person ordered (and paid for). How could anybody screw this up? I would be livid, knowing that neighbors paid for cookies that my DH was sitting there eating.

Actually, having just done scout sales, if you have preorders for 7 boxes of thin mints, you need to order a case (so 12 boxes). So it's totally possible for "left overs" - this is why people sell them at cookie booths

The "left overs" that you paid for (when you put down the deposit for the cookies) your daughter should work with the troop to sell at the cookie booth.

As for the way OP talks about her husband. Yikes.

Op says that she picked up the exact order based on the orders on her daughter's sheet. She didn't pick up extra cookies, she had the exact number of boxes to deliver.

Any extra boxes would have gone to the sidewalk sale that the troop does.

Cookie momster here. For us, in the Nation's Capital region of the GS, The TROOP does get extra cookies because we can only order full cases of cookies. Each case has 12 boxes of cookies in it. If a troop odered a total of 11 boxes of thin mints they would get a case of thin mints, so would have one box left over. Which somebody has to pay for (yes, the booth sales, or neighbors, etc. etc.). But that is troop based. No troop will end up with more than 11 extra boxes of each cookie flavor.

But each GIRL gets exactly what she ordered.

Perhaps dad ordered his own leftovers.

For the last time, dad did not do the ordering. Mom did.

Mom took the order sheet to the Cookie Mom. The Cookie Mom gave Op the exact number of boxes ordered on the sheet. Op verified/counted the boxes with the Cookie Mom. Op brought the exact number of boxes home for dh and daughter to deliver using the order sheet. They went out and came back with undelivered boxes.

Yes.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't understand why people just say to let DH handle the fallout. They are a family. It will reflect poorly on the family not just on DH. They will not support the kid in whatever else she raises money for. And, honestly, when the neighbors are thinking about this situation they will be thinking about the mother bc the father was just so sweet taking his daughter around and can't possibly be accountable for the fiasco because he is just a dumb man. Drives me nuts.

Really? Does messing up a cookie order "reflect poorly on the family"? Newsflash- your neighbors don't spend that much time thinking about your family in these terms. And if they do, it means they have no life, so why would you care? If someone is so petty that he or she were to judge me for messing up a cookie order, I'd be quite happy not to have anything to do with that person anyway.

+1000

If you are a family who is sitting around discussing how a cookie mix-up "reflects poorly" on the neighbors down the street, you have much bigger problems than a box of Thin Mints on the counter that should have been two boxes of Tagalongs.

The neighbors will understand. They'll just be happy it didn't happen to them and their kid, lol. But the lesson that Op's child takes from this is what matters...

With this level of involvement/screwing up by the dh, I'm assuming the daughter is pretty young and doesn't know that anything is amiss.

Unlikely. The girl went door to door making the sales. The neighbors wrote their orders on the sheet clearly enough so that the Op could go and pick up the cookies from the Cookie Mom. It sounds as though Op's dh and daughter started to deliver the cookies but lost track of who they delivered to (?) and maybe misdelivered some boxes. And now they have a bunch of boxes that don't match their order sheet. So the dh has just decided enough is enough - "Free cookies!" But if Op's daughter involved at all in the delivery she knows that she didn't deliver all of her orders and that something got confused. So now they get to eat free cookies .

OP back. DD (2nd grade) and DH went around making the sales. Neighbors wrote their orders on the sheet. I (OP) went to pick up cookies from Cookie Mom. DH and DD did deliveries. Now he tells me there are leftovers.

Yes, they somehow misdelivered or lost track of who they had delivered the cookies to. That's why they have "leftovers". Those leftovers are simply orders that have been paid for but not delivered - they aren't "free" cookies for your dh. I know that you get that Op (I hope that your daughter does too). I'm sorry that your husband doesn't.

Thanks, PP.

- OP

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For the last time, dad did not do the ordering. Mom did.

Sorry, 8 pages of cookies talk was too much to read.

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OP, I know things like this can be annoying, but try to have some compassion towards your husband. I'm fairly organized, but could see myself messing up girl scout cookies or other door-to-door sales. Try to focus on the interaction that came out of it- your husband shouldn't have blown up at you and, if your reaction initially was similar to your original post, you should have been more patient with the mistake.

I would send an email to the Cookie Mom giving her a heads up that there was a snafu, cc your husband, and, in the email, say that they need to work it out. That way your husband can get aggravated at the Cookie Mom if necessary.

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I think that everyone can understand that delivery and even accounting screw ups can happen - none of us are perfect. It was her dh deciding to eat the "leftovers" and not try to figure out what happened that was upsetting to Op.

This is not the Cookie Mom's fault. She and Op verified the order together. It would be inappropriate to shoot a nasty email to the Cookie Mom! It would be appropriate to explain what happened and ask advice as to what to do about it.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I know things like this can be annoying, but try to have some compassion towards your husband. I'm fairly organized, but could see myself messing up girl scout cookies or other door-to-door sales. Try to focus on the interaction that came out of it- your husband shouldn't have blown up at you and, if your reaction initially was similar to your original post, you should have been more patient with the mistake.

I would send an email to the Cookie Mom giving her a heads up that there was a snafu, cc your husband, and, in the email, say that they need to work it out. That way your husband can get aggravated at the Cookie Mom if necessary.

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone who has done scout sales would understand that scouts don't order a little of this and a little of that and then hope it matches what people pre-ordered. The number of boxes received should exactly equal the number of boxes on the sheet. And the scout parent has to deliver the money before taking possession of any cookies. It's a grid, with name on each row and the exact type of cookies each person ordered (and paid for). How could anybody screw this up? I would be livid, knowing that neighbors paid for cookies that my DH was sitting there eating.

Actually, having just done scout sales, if you have preorders for 7 boxes of thin mints, you need to order a case (so 12 boxes). So it's totally possible for "left overs" - this is why people sell them at cookie booths

The "left overs" that you paid for (when you put down the deposit for the cookies) your daughter should work with the troop to sell at the cookie booth.

As for the way OP talks about her husband. Yikes.

Op says that she picked up the exact order based on the orders on her daughter's sheet. She didn't pick up extra cookies, she had the exact number of boxes to deliver.

Any extra boxes would have gone to the sidewalk sale that the troop does.

Cookie momster here. For us, in the Nation's Capital region of the GS, The TROOP does get extra cookies because we can only order full cases of cookies. Each case has 12 boxes of cookies in it. If a troop odered a total of 11 boxes of thin mints they would get a case of thin mints, so would have one box left over. Which somebody has to pay for (yes, the booth sales, or neighbors, etc. etc.). But that is troop based. No troop will end up with more than 11 extra boxes of each cookie flavor.

But each GIRL gets exactly what she ordered.

Perhaps dad ordered his own leftovers.

For the last time, dad did not do the ordering. Mom did.

So YOU (mom) didn't keep track of who ordered? You said that dad didn't keep track of who ordered.... why didn't you give him a list of who ordered? What the big deal anyway? Just look at your list of who ordered and see who got their stuff?

By the way... you sound horrible

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Anonymous wrote:My husband takes my daughter around to sell Girl Scout cookies. " Thanks, DH! Good job!" All is fine. Thanks for participating for once in your child's life. Appreciate it.

When we get the cookies, they go around and deliver them. Still all is fine. Dh is feeling like superdad and bragging to everyone what he has done AND saying, "I can't wait for leftovers."

I try to explain: there will be no left-overs. You only get what you put in an order for.

I get an email this morning. "Here are the left-over cookies: 2 Rah-Rah Raisins, 7 Thin Mints, 10 Samoas, etc etc etc."

"Hmm?????" I ask, "Can you please clarify? Left-over??? Do you mean ones that have not yet been delivered???????????????????????????"

He calls me saying, "No, they're left-overs. We delivered them all. These are left-overs."

I try and I try to explain that there should be no left-overs; we only put in the order for what he had. He continues to insist, getting angrier and angrier, "I went out there and did all this cookie ordering!!! These are left-overs!!!!!!!"

THIS IS NOT POSSIBLE. WE DID NOT GET EXTRAS. DH HAS LOST TRACK OF WHO ORDRED WHAT AND WHAT HE HAS NOW DELIVERED AND NOW OUR GS COOKIE SITUATION IS A TOTAL CLUSTER-FUCK.

Why cannot he handle the simplest situation?? Why? Why?? Why?????

Um, omg you are a super critical hyper bitch, that is the reason he can't do the simplest things right.
Because no one should be judged that way. Get your head out of your ass, hug the man and buy some more cookies at one of those Girl Scout cookie tables at the Giant if anyone says they didn't get theirs. Deliver the cookies yourself and hug the man and thank him again.

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I think the nasty responder(s) on this thread are denser than OP's husband. He sold cookies, failed to deliver them, and kept them for himself. I doubt there's a person here who has not seen a GS cookie order form. It lists name, address, and how many of each box each person ordered and paid for. I can understand making a little mistake here or there if you're not great at reading charts, but failing to understand that leftover boxes are the result of an error at someone else's expense is ridiculous.

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So YOU (mom) didn't keep track of who ordered? You said that dad didn't keep track of who ordered.... why didn't you give him a list of who ordered? What the big deal anyway? Just look at your list of who ordered and see who got their stuff?

By the way... you sound horrible

Oh, yay, crazy MRA poster is back!

OP, no advice, but this would aggravate me to no end. Makes me want to do everything in my power to discourage DD from joining GS when the time comes (she's only 2 y.o. now).

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone who has done scout sales would understand that scouts don't order a little of this and a little of that and then hope it matches what people pre-ordered. The number of boxes received should exactly equal the number of boxes on the sheet. And the scout parent has to deliver the money before taking possession of any cookies. It's a grid, with name on each row and the exact type of cookies each person ordered (and paid for). How could anybody screw this up? I would be livid, knowing that neighbors paid for cookies that my DH was sitting there eating.

Actually, having just done scout sales, if you have preorders for 7 boxes of thin mints, you need to order a case (so 12 boxes). So it's totally possible for "left overs" - this is why people sell them at cookie booths

The "left overs" that you paid for (when you put down the deposit for the cookies) your daughter should work with the troop to sell at the cookie booth.

As for the way OP talks about her husband. Yikes.

Op says that she picked up the exact order based on the orders on her daughter's sheet. She didn't pick up extra cookies, she had the exact number of boxes to deliver.

Any extra boxes would have gone to the sidewalk sale that the troop does.

Cookie momster here. For us, in the Nation's Capital region of the GS, The TROOP does get extra cookies because we can only order full cases of cookies. Each case has 12 boxes of cookies in it. If a troop odered a total of 11 boxes of thin mints they would get a case of thin mints, so would have one box left over. Which somebody has to pay for (yes, the booth sales, or neighbors, etc. etc.). But that is troop based. No troop will end up with more than 11 extra boxes of each cookie flavor.

But each GIRL gets exactly what she ordered.

Perhaps dad ordered his own leftovers.

For the last time, dad did not do the ordering. Mom did.

So YOU (mom) didn't keep track of who ordered? You said that dad didn't keep track of who ordered.... why didn't you give him a list of who ordered? What the big deal anyway? Just look at your list of who ordered and see who got their stuff?

By the way... you sound horrible

You aren't really following along. Op's dh took their daughter out and got orders/payment from their neighbors. Op took the order sheet and payment to the Cookie Mom. The Cookie Mom gave Op the exact number of boxes ordered on the sheet. Op and the Cookie Mom verified the number of boxes. Op brought the boxes home and her dh/daughter went out to deliver them to the people on their order sheet. They returned after doing "all" of their deliveries but still had boxes leftover. If they had delivered to everyone on the sheet, there should not be extra boxes.

I don't know how Op is now supposed to know who got what. Op is not the one who did the delivery. Nor is the Op the one who took the orders and the payments for those orders.

It is possible that Op's husband fudged some of the order info for some reason and wrote down bogus names/addresses and paid for the bogus orders himself. If that's the case, I guess those cookies are his to keep but he should explain that to Op.