SAHM re-entry into the workforce

[Anonymous]

Sorry, he has spent "many" a night up with her (not just one).

[Anonymous]

"I (like many others I assume) didn't post here to be put in my place or for a reality check. I posted here for support and advice."

It's the DCUM on the NET! You aren't very bright for a 40 year old.

[Anonymous]

Gosh, you ladies can't stop arguing.

[Anonymous]

"It's the DCUM on the NET! You aren't very bright for a 40 year old."

At least I don't hide behind an anonymous screenname and throw insults at complete strangers. Is that seriously all you could think of to say? What does that say about you? Not everyone who posts on the Internet does so to passively aggressively vent their frustrations. Some of us actually use the NET to support and inspire others, and to pay it forward.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Exactly what is my "outlook" (I'm a SAHM)? And to the PP, what is your "outlook" that is so different?

Serious generalizing and stereotyping going on.

I don't assume if the kids are sick that it's my job that suffers. I don't assume anything in our family life that puts my job second to my husband's. How many SAHMs who are going back to work have that outlook?

I feel really sorry for your kids. You must be one of the moms mentioned in the other thread about parents who don't like their kids and don't spend any time with them.

If your career is so important, why did you have kids at all? Who does take care of them when they are sick? Or are you the type of mom who sends your kids to school if they have a fever below 101 degrees? I stay home when my kids are sick, and you (or your DH) should too.

Not pp, but seriously? The choices are Mom does it, or the kids are neglected? Do you realize that you just made the pp's point? I have a very understanding boss, and I get to do a lot of volunteering at dc's school, etc (more than most of the sahm's, but that's another thread), but my husband and I have the same attitude as pp. It is not assumed that I will stay home when dc is sick, etc. The child has a father, who happens to have a more flexible work schedule than I do. If my husband didn't think this way, there is no way I could have the job I have. I could see a father who has had a sahm wife having a hard time making the transition.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Exactly what is my "outlook" (I'm a SAHM)? And to the PP, what is your "outlook" that is so different?

Serious generalizing and stereotyping going on.

I don't assume if the kids are sick that it's my job that suffers. I don't assume anything in our family life that puts my job second to my husband's. How many SAHMs who are going back to work have that outlook?

I feel really sorry for your kids. You must be one of the moms mentioned in the other thread about parents who don't like their kids and don't spend any time with them.

If your career is so important, why did you have kids at all? Who does take care of them when they are sick? Or are you the type of mom who sends your kids to school if they have a fever below 101 degrees? I stay home when my kids are sick, and you (or your DH) should too.

Not pp, but seriously? The choices are Mom does it, or the kids are neglected? Do you realize that you just made the pp's point? I have a very understanding boss, and I get to do a lot of volunteering at dc's school, etc (more than most of the sahm's, but that's another thread), but my husband and I have the same attitude as pp. It is not assumed that I will stay home when dc is sick, etc. The child has a father, who happens to have a more flexible work schedule than I do. If my husband didn't think this way, there is no way I could have the job I have. I could see a father who has had a sahm wife having a hard time making the transition.

Why was that necessary to add in?

I'm a working parent, btw, who only volunteers once a month. And I'm happy with that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Exactly what is my "outlook" (I'm a SAHM)? And to the PP, what is your "outlook" that is so different?

Serious generalizing and stereotyping going on.

I don't assume if the kids are sick that it's my job that suffers. I don't assume anything in our family life that puts my job second to my husband's. How many SAHMs who are going back to work have that outlook?

I feel really sorry for your kids. You must be one of the moms mentioned in the other thread about parents who don't like their kids and don't spend any time with them.

If your career is so important, why did you have kids at all? Who does take care of them when they are sick? Or are you the type of mom who sends your kids to school if they have a fever below 101 degrees? I stay home when my kids are sick, and you (or your DH) should too.

Not pp, but seriously? The choices are Mom does it, or the kids are neglected? Do you realize that you just made the pp's point? I have a very understanding boss, and I get to do a lot of volunteering at dc's school, etc (more than most of the sahm's, but that's another thread), but my husband and I have the same attitude as pp. It is not assumed that I will stay home when dc is sick, etc. The child has a father, who happens to have a more flexible work schedule than I do. If my husband didn't think this way, there is no way I could have the job I have. I could see a father who has had a sahm wife having a hard time making the transition.

I agree and I'm in a similar boat. I work fewer hours than DH, but my job is less flexible and I have a bit more of a commute. He works very close to home and has a VERY flexible job so it makes more sense for him to cover more sick days, etc. We are both working parents, I'm not a single mom doing this on my own. I think a lot of posters who can't see this have husbands with demanding jobs and they can't imagine going back to work and doing everything. We just don't have that set up, a lot of families don't have it actually.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Depends on your field...what was the last type of job you had and what are you currently looking for?

In my field, you would need to take a lower position, a "training" position for at least 2 years to get back into the the field. My concerns, as a boss, would be - is this really something you are committed too (seeing as you left the first time) and how you would balance your family / work obligations. Since young people usually populate our training positions I would need you to show me how your skills would be much greater than someone who will work long hours (or how since you have more experience get more done between 9 to 5). Also, if you knowledge is out of date I would also question how much you know and whether you could adapt. Any way, those are examples for my field.

PP, you are every woman's worst nightmare. It isn't enough that we are discriminated because we are young and will have children, now we are discriminated because we have them and you (and other assholes like you) question our commitment to work? Go to hell and this is also illegal.