I feel like a $hitastic Mom after reading the Kelly Hampton blog. Am I the only one?
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Anonymous
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I have never heard of this woman. Her blog seems like most other blogs. I don't find her house spectacular in the least. I am sure her lifestyle is easily attainable. She is a good photographer, but what you don't see are the 200 bad shots. I have a friend who is a photographer and this is the secret. You must take 100 photos to get that 1 fabulous shot. I fail to see why you feel you don't measure up? Well, besides not being a professional photographer.
Mommy blogs seem to be like Christmas letters, only reporting the positive things. Nobody's life is perfect. |
Anonymous
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The mom blog that makes ME feel like a shit parent is
www.sewliberated.com. She does all the same things (photography, crafts) and wouldn't you know it, she's got a special needs kid too!!!! I think that's just the new 50s housewife....MWAC (Mom With a Camera) and enough money to stay home and knit and edit pictures. (I do the same things as these women (pro photography, knitting, blog about my business, crafts), but I actually have to send my kid to daycare in order to get any SAHM work done!!!! How any actual parenting gets done is beyond me. |
Anonymous
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"Remember, while I do take a lot of pictures, what you see on the blog is still a very small fraction of our lives, and there are many unphotographed moments you probably wouldn't want to see. Van Gogh didn't paint toilets and dumpsters...so it is, I choose to capture and write about the very best."
This is from her blog's FAQ section. It speaks for itself. Imagine if you were compiling only your best moments... |
Anonymous
| F*ck Kelly Hampton. I am not even going to bother to read that cr*p. Do yourselves a favor and stop comparing yourself to other ppl. Repeat after me "you are a good mom". Kids benefit being around 'normal' people...not some glamorized version to benefit those looking inside the house from outside. You have no idea what goes on insider her house...only what she wants you to see. |
Anonymous
| Well, you should not feel bad about your own parenting based on someone else’s blog. My DH and I went to a SN Parental support group. We were feeling overwhelmed, tired, confused and hopeless. The moderator (I forget her name) told us some things that we have tried to live for the last 13 years. (1) You are doing the best that YOU can. (2) With SN children, every new day is a hard fought victory and any little progress is still progress. (3) Take each day as it comes. (4) Finally, do not compare your child to any other….only compare him/her to where he/she was yesterday. All this stuff seems cliché, but it can really change your emotional and mental outlook. |
Anonymous
Do you think that all parents are created equal? I don't. I DO think that there are parents who ARE better parents than I am. Whether that's because they have more patience, more education about parenting/child development/educating children or more time b/c they have more $$ to pay for help...it doesn't matter WHY. But I do compare myself to other people in parenting b/c its my JOB. Don't you compare yourself to others at your job? If I didn't look around and see what the 'competition' and other, more talented folks do, I would likely have been content to do the sorta kinda ok work I did when I got out of grad school. Instead, I looked at what people ahead of me or in more challenging positions did or people in leadership roles did and I learned from them. Did it make me feel a little $hitastic when I did that? Sure. B/c I was still learning. I feel like I'm still learning as a parent, too. Don't you? Or do you know it all already? Or are you content with "I'm doing the best I can" approach? If you parenting as a "career" then you would might feel the need to improve yourself a bit more. |
Anonymous
G*d, you need some help. |
Anonymous
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She is a wonderful writer. I love her stories and her beautiful pictures. Kelle Hampton's blog is the only one that is worth following. She seems to be a wonderful mother and I look up to her. I wish people weren't so hateful.
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Anonymous
My god. Critical reading skills, anyone? Her writing is pretentious, self-aggrandizing drivel. How anyone can not see that, when it's right there on the surface, is mind boggling. |
Anonymous
| This is OP. I can't believe over 100 people have responded to this thread. In a strange way, I am jealous of how many friends Kelle seems to have and how creative she seems to be and how pretty she is and the amazing birthday she just put together for her oldest daughter. With a SN child, she still seems incredibly positive, but asvother PPs have noted, she doesn't focus her blog and the darkest of dark days... I could take a lesson from her...! |
Anonymous
OP i think you're awesome and I don't even know you. you're one of the only rational responders on this thread, you should have a blog |
Anonymous
| Do better. Be better. Feel better. |
Anonymous
| As the parent of a young child with Ds, I do like that the Kelly Hampton blog highlights the "more alike than different" aspect of having a child with SN. It's nice to see her little girl playing beside her big sister, doing the sort of things that most kids do, thought having BTDT I can also see, even from the photos where the little girl is struggling. Otherwise, I find the blog at bit OTT. |
Anonymous
| Do not compare yourself to others. In the end, it is all about you. No harm in learning from others but do the best you can with what you have and know. |
Anonymous
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I am a photography snob, and I think she is quite talented.
I am a writing snob, and I think she often shows good writing. I like to think I can spot the superficial, and, methinks she is quite often sincere. Her parties look fantastic, yes she is pretty, and both girls are gorgeous. Nella's smile is addictive -- i keep going back! She, in her FAQ, honestly explains what should be obvious -- what she presents is but a sliver. Honestly, she has made me think differently about DS, about motherhood, about how I react to the small inconveniences of life. I am grateful for all that she shares and I hope she has great success. I read many mom blogs, and this one has touched me the most. |