What to feed 4 college boys?

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Let us know how it goes OP. College kids are much easier than other guests. Keep it minimal. I like the Peruvian chicken idea. Have the fridge stocked with some basic groceries. I’m sure the international friend will be very grateful to you for letting him stay. And fun for him to see how an American household functions. I assume your kid drives. Tell him to go buy any groceries that they want that you might have missed. Give him your credit card. You’ve got this.

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Anonymous wrote:Roast chicken. Grilled chicken thighs. Steak with a baked potato bar. Taco bar. Slowcooker a pork but and make bbq pulled pork sandwiches. Basically make a protein centered dish.

I’d also stock up on eggs. My college student sons eat a ton of eggs for breakfast.

Yes I have eggs. I'm just upset because this is very last minute and one of them might stay for days. I hate having guests so much and especially because I now have to rush and do a bunch of things and still work all day. Would you all feel this way or be thrilled? I am a reluctant hostess, it's a nightmare for me.

Your son is in college. Have him go to the grocery store and get what he wants to eat. They can grill or you can cook for them but this shouldn't be a stress for you, he's an adult so he can be the host here.

He's not home now because he went to get the friends. He has not prepared the room, and he's not grocery shopped. Of course he said it's no big deal, whatever, they just need a place to crash...But ultimately that is not how I am comfortable hosting and I know i'd be judged if I did nothing at all.

You think a bunch of college boys are going to judge you on your hostessing? And if they did, you’d actually care?

I think you could do with some therapy or maybe an edible or ten.

I don't like hosting or people in my space. It is SO stressful for me and my family.does.not.get.it. They also pretend to be helpful while not being helpful so I end up feeling (I hate how overused that term is but it fits) gaslit which makes me more anxious.

So say no. period. Your son’s friend can’t stay. I’m sure he can find a hotel or airbnb if he doesn’t want to go back to school. I’m sure he has parents that can send him the money to pay for it. You said he is from out of the country. His parents are paying for him to go to an American college. I’m sure they can also pay for him to stay somewhere for a week. Also, if I knew someone was hosting my child for more than like one night I would be offering to pay for all the meals for the entire time my kid was there (not just my kid’s but for the whole family). I swear some people are just takers and have no shame at all about it.

This is a bizarrely aggressive conjecture. Thus far this kid hasn’t actually asked OP for a d@mn thing. Her SON asked if this kid could stay at her house. That’s it. That’s all we know.

Honestly some of you are just miserable people who will nevertheless act shocked when your adult kids don’t come around or call very often.

expecting to stay at one of your college friends’ house for more than a night or maybe two when you haven’t even met the parents is…something. And OP said her son gave info about why one of the kids needs to stay, and that specifically was what I was referring to. I’m sorry but this is a big ask.

You think it is a big ask for one of your kid’s friends to stay at your house for a week? I’d say that is a common thing that happens in college, and I’ll be so happy if my kids do this some day (and I am an introvert and NOT a natural host). I have fond memories of going to friends’ houses over the summer and breaks, several of us would go together and we’d have a great time. Also, we’ve twice had nieces/nephews stay with us for an entire summer while they interned in DC, and yes that is family but it was 10 weeks not 1!

OP, your son sounds very kind and welcoming. You could always pick up pre-prepared meals at Costco like their stuffed peppers, marinated flank of salmon, big salads, pot pies, etc.

I think the issue here is more the food preferences than anything else. I think if you are staying at someone’s house for an extended period of time you should be grateful and not have severe preferences like “no carbs” (obviously barring any actual medical diagnosis which clearly isn’t the case here). I’m sorry but I would be mortified if one of my kids went to stay with another family and had specific requests such as that. It’s one thing to say “i’m allergic to shellfish” and quite another to say “I limit all carbs so no pasta, bread, pizza etc…”

It's OP's son who doesn't eat carbs...

She mentioned she assumes the friend is the same since they all “work out”.

It's DCUM, so she probably thinks the verb is "workout"