The impact of a senior backing out of college commitment

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What exactly happened, OP?

There is NOTHING wrong with a kid accepting a regular decision spot somewhere, paying the deposit, and then ditching that school once she gets in the waitlist somewhere else. That is totally allowed.

And yeah, I will teach my kid to make the best decision FOR HERSELF and not focus on the classes coming after her. She should decline a waitlist spot she wants because of some unknown junior who might want to go to the original school!! Yeah, no.

Then they shouldn't be signing a legal document codifying their withdraw of applications from other school should they be admitted ED.

Legal document??? Codifying their withdraw? You’re hilarious. It was a box to check on the Common App. Totally not enforceable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What exactly happened, OP?

There is NOTHING wrong with a kid accepting a regular decision spot somewhere, paying the deposit, and then ditching that school once she gets in the waitlist somewhere else. That is totally allowed.

And yeah, I will teach my kid to make the best decision FOR HERSELF and not focus on the classes coming after her. She should decline a waitlist spot she wants because of some unknown junior who might want to go to the original school!! Yeah, no.

Then they shouldn't be signing a legal document codifying their withdraw of applications from other school should they be admitted ED.

Legal document??? Codifying their withdraw? You’re hilarious. It was a box to check on the Common App. Totally not enforceable.

Folks, you can’t fix trashy people LOL

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What exactly happened, OP?

There is NOTHING wrong with a kid accepting a regular decision spot somewhere, paying the deposit, and then ditching that school once she gets in the waitlist somewhere else. That is totally allowed.

And yeah, I will teach my kid to make the best decision FOR HERSELF and not focus on the classes coming after her. She should decline a waitlist spot she wants because of some unknown junior who might want to go to the original school!! Yeah, no.

Then they shouldn't be signing a legal document codifying their withdraw of applications from other school should they be admitted ED.

Legal document??? Codifying their withdraw? You’re hilarious. It was a box to check on the Common App. Totally not enforceable.

Folks, you can’t fix trashy people LOL

+1 Lots of special people telling their kids they are also special and all of them believing it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It happened again at our school. A senior recently backed out of a commitment to a very selective college in order to attend another very selective college in the same region.

Why do parents allow this? It HURTS future applicants from the school -- those who would have been really happy to accept and keep their word.

Unless ED, there is no problem backing out. Happens all the time with getting off waitlist. You’re a drama queen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Every year on DCUM there are parents who openly make multiple deposits and see no problem letting their kid commit to Multiple schools.
It is wrong, but some parents just don’t care. Maybe reading this thread will change their minds.

It's not "wrong." You can't afford it, they can. Such is life.

Actually multiple deposits is wrong. Your kid signs an agreement not to do that. That is different from getting off a Wl and switching schools, which obviously is allowed, else there wouldn't be wait lists.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Backing out of an ED commitment to highly selective schools ends up hurting so many other kids. But bad families exist. Private schools can expel these families, but there's not much public schools can do. Trashy people are trashy people. Universities will make a note of the school and move on to the other 25,000 high schools out there. If you are wondering why no one from your school gets in to certain colleges, that's why.

Oh please. Get over yourself, and your "highly selective school" worship.

Schools are businesses, just like Target.

If my DC gets an ED acceptance and, for whatever reason, decides 4 months later that they want to go somewhere else, or just not go to the acceptance school, that is life. Yes, I'll lose a deposit. But it may be worth it to us, for whatever reason.

The school will not fall apart because my child or your's does not attend in the end.

You must be new to how college admissions work at top 20 schools. Reneging on an ED contract absolutely hurts other students and the high school. Which is why most good private high schools are absolutely livid when a family chooses this. No top 20 school takes more than a handful of students from a particular high school. That kid took a spot that could have gone to another student and it pisses everyone off when families do this. And high schools are absolutely blacklisted when there’s a pattern of students reneging on ED contracts.

The only exception is when a financial aid package does not match the NPC. Or there has been a change in financial circumstances. But typically T20 private schools will deal with that and make the numbers work.

So it’s almost always a d&ck move by families who do this.

No this is utter BS.

No college works this way with acceptances.

Privates don't lose a slot because a student reneged.

Slots are not done per HS that is absurd. Keep reading the koolaid MAGA.

The school has to sign an agreement on the student's ED choice. It absolutely reflects poorly on the school when the school dishonors the agreement by letting the kid out of it and sending the transcript elsewhere.

[Anonymous]

We don't even know if this is ED or not so some of you are getting riled up for no reason.

Even if it is ED, eh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Backing out of an ED commitment to highly selective schools ends up hurting so many other kids. But bad families exist. Private schools can expel these families, but there's not much public schools can do. Trashy people are trashy people. Universities will make a note of the school and move on to the other 25,000 high schools out there. If you are wondering why no one from your school gets in to certain colleges, that's why.

Oh please. Get over yourself, and your "highly selective school" worship.

Schools are businesses, just like Target.

If my DC gets an ED acceptance and, for whatever reason, decides 4 months later that they want to go somewhere else, or just not go to the acceptance school, that is life. Yes, I'll lose a deposit. But it may be worth it to us, for whatever reason.

The school will not fall apart because my child or your's does not attend in the end.

You must be new to how college admissions work at top 20 schools. Reneging on an ED contract absolutely hurts other students and the high school. Which is why most good private high schools are absolutely livid when a family chooses this. No top 20 school takes more than a handful of students from a particular high school. That kid took a spot that could have gone to another student and it pisses everyone off when families do this. And high schools are absolutely blacklisted when there’s a pattern of students reneging on ED contracts.

The only exception is when a financial aid package does not match the NPC. Or there has been a change in financial circumstances. But typically T20 private schools will deal with that and make the numbers work.

So it’s almost always a d&ck move by families who do this.

No this is utter BS.

No college works this way with acceptances.

Privates don't lose a slot because a student reneged.

Slots are not done per HS that is absurd. Keep reading the koolaid MAGA.

not for the current cycle, but it absolutely puts future applicants from the school on the sh!tlist. Ask me how I know.

Unless you are the college admissions counselor who put said random private school on the shitlist, then you don't know

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What exactly happened, OP?

There is NOTHING wrong with a kid accepting a regular decision spot somewhere, paying the deposit, and then ditching that school once she gets in the waitlist somewhere else. That is totally allowed.

And yeah, I will teach my kid to make the best decision FOR HERSELF and not focus on the classes coming after her. She should decline a waitlist spot she wants because of some unknown junior who might want to go to the original school!! Yeah, no.

Then they shouldn't be signing a legal document codifying their withdraw of applications from other school should they be admitted ED.

Legal document??? Codifying their withdraw? You’re hilarious. It was a box to check on the Common App. Totally not enforceable.

Folks, you can’t fix trashy people LOL

Yeah, anyone who wants to ruin a kids life by withholding their transcript over something so trivial is definitely a little rough around the edges.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What exactly happened, OP?

There is NOTHING wrong with a kid accepting a regular decision spot somewhere, paying the deposit, and then ditching that school once she gets in the waitlist somewhere else. That is totally allowed.

And yeah, I will teach my kid to make the best decision FOR HERSELF and not focus on the classes coming after her. She should decline a waitlist spot she wants because of some unknown junior who might want to go to the original school!! Yeah, no.

Then they shouldn't be signing a legal document codifying their withdraw of applications from other school should they be admitted ED.

Legal document??? Codifying their withdraw? You’re hilarious. It was a box to check on the Common App. Totally not enforceable.

Folks, you can’t fix trashy people LOL

I’m the poster you’re quoting. I got into my school ED well over 30 years ago and have a kid that got into Cornell ED last year. We knew exactly what we were getting into and followed through with ED acceptance.

My comment was about all the pseudo lawyers here who think that checking a box on the Common App is akin to a “legal document” whereby a school will sue you if you renege on the ED acceptance. Or that schools keep lists for years and block admissions for kids from a particular school if someone backs out of an ED acceptance. This doesn’t happen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What exactly happened, OP?

There is NOTHING wrong with a kid accepting a regular decision spot somewhere, paying the deposit, and then ditching that school once she gets in the waitlist somewhere else. That is totally allowed.

And yeah, I will teach my kid to make the best decision FOR HERSELF and not focus on the classes coming after her. She should decline a waitlist spot she wants because of some unknown junior who might want to go to the original school!! Yeah, no.

Then they shouldn't be signing a legal document codifying their withdraw of applications from other school should they be admitted ED.

Legal document??? Codifying their withdraw? You’re hilarious. It was a box to check on the Common App. Totally not enforceable.

Folks, you can’t fix trashy people LOL

I’m the poster you’re quoting. I got into my school ED well over 30 years ago and have a kid that got into Cornell ED last year. We knew exactly what we were getting into and followed through with ED acceptance.

My comment was about all the pseudo lawyers here who think that checking a box on the Common App is akin to a “legal document” whereby a school will sue you if you renege on the ED acceptance. Or that schools keep lists for years and block admissions for kids from a particular school if someone backs out of an ED acceptance. This doesn’t happen.

How would you know?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What exactly happened, OP?

There is NOTHING wrong with a kid accepting a regular decision spot somewhere, paying the deposit, and then ditching that school once she gets in the waitlist somewhere else. That is totally allowed.

And yeah, I will teach my kid to make the best decision FOR HERSELF and not focus on the classes coming after her. She should decline a waitlist spot she wants because of some unknown junior who might want to go to the original school!! Yeah, no.

Then they shouldn't be signing a legal document codifying their withdraw of applications from other school should they be admitted ED.

Legal document??? Codifying their withdraw? You’re hilarious. It was a box to check on the Common App. Totally not enforceable.

Folks, you can’t fix trashy people LOL

Yeah, anyone who wants to ruin a kids life by withholding their transcript over something so trivial is definitely a little rough around the edges.

How about you play by the rules instead of blaming others?

[Anonymous]

A high school counselor can’t refuse to send your transcript. It’s an educational record.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What exactly happened, OP?

There is NOTHING wrong with a kid accepting a regular decision spot somewhere, paying the deposit, and then ditching that school once she gets in the waitlist somewhere else. That is totally allowed.

And yeah, I will teach my kid to make the best decision FOR HERSELF and not focus on the classes coming after her. She should decline a waitlist spot she wants because of some unknown junior who might want to go to the original school!! Yeah, no.

Then they shouldn't be signing a legal document codifying their withdraw of applications from other school should they be admitted ED.

Legal document??? Codifying their withdraw? You’re hilarious. It was a box to check on the Common App. Totally not enforceable.

Folks, you can’t fix trashy people LOL

I’m the poster you’re quoting. I got into my school ED well over 30 years ago and have a kid that got into Cornell ED last year. We knew exactly what we were getting into and followed through with ED acceptance.

My comment was about all the pseudo lawyers here who think that checking a box on the Common App is akin to a “legal document” whereby a school will sue you if you renege on the ED acceptance. Or that schools keep lists for years and block admissions for kids from a particular school if someone backs out of an ED acceptance. This doesn’t happen.

I don't think anyone has said a school will sue a student for dishonoring the ED contract. What they are saying is that the kid's classmates and high school overall are going to suffer for this family's decision. Which is absolutely true.

It's not a difficult conundrum. If it's not a first choice school, don't apply ED. The trophy hunters are just pathetic.

[Anonymous]

We know of a kid that backed out of ED commitment by doing a gap year and enrolling in another school.