Dad seems to manage just fine. It’s just not her way so she makes it sound wrong when it’s not. |
Oh yes - the mom is so crazy in her belief that hair brushing, medication, and following basic school rules are important! Look, if you are a parent and cannot manage to ensure your child has brushed hair, takes meds, and is dressed appropriately - there are serious questions about your fitness b |
How is “administering medicine on the schedule printed on the medicine bottle” or “dressing the child in the uniform of the school she attends” somehow gendered to you? You are truly reaching new depths of misogyny in your efforts here… |
Mom isn't the sole decision maker. The kid asked to to the activity. It's about the kid, not the mom/ex. That's where you're so so wrong. And where the dad is wrong for refusing to support their kid. |
If logistically it doesn’t work for dad on his time, mom needs to do it on her time. She confidently does. Discuss the location, time, etc. |
You can't do team sports, play in an orchestra, or act in the school play on only certain days when you're with one parent. This position turns a child into the prisoner of an unhealthy parent. It's going to backfire - why even ask for parenting time at all if the end result is that your kid grows to resent you and you have no relationship later in life? Be a halfway decent human being and show up for your kid or get out of the way. |
Seven year olds should be able to put on a uniform by themselves in the morning. |
No. Not always. Definitely not with my fiance. I used to live with him when he had fifty fifty custody. Mom did nothing wrt helping with virtual school, for ex. Kids would arrive at our house with assignments not done and he would have to use his custody days to make sure they got caught up. He took them to doctors appointments, etc. He ordered their clothing. Now, she moved away and he has de facto 100 percent custody in our house and all she does is talk to them on the phone a few times a month and see them once or twice a year. So yeah. I know he does more. |
You can if both parents work together and cooperate. If mom signs up the kid in dad’s time and he is unable due to the location she can step in and drive to the activity and dads house. |
And comb their hair if taught. It may not be oerfect but they are not helpless. |
Not to mention walk to school uphill both ways in the snow ![]() ![]() ![]() |
Let me guess. You think it’s mom’s job to teach them. |
In our home it is. Dad has no clue how to do long hair. You are being incredibly petty. |
Are you expecting the seven year old to run the washer and dryer by themselves? |
And dad is stepping in to help when Mom has a transportation conflict? Oh no, of course not. That's dads free time. I still remember that my best friend wasn't allowed to try out for the high school musical with all of her friends because the show dates were on her dad's weekend. He lived in town and there were no logistical issues. He just didn't allow her to do activities on "his time." That also meant she couldn't play sports, even rec sports. Fortunately the marching band director let her miss on her dad's weekends, but that left a hole in the show. It was just stupid since he lived 6 minutes away. There's not some grand conspiracy where moms are signing kids up for activities at times to inconvenience dads. Activities are scheduled how they are and either the kid signs up or not. I think many of these posters are thinking of little kid activities that are flexible and not older kid activities where attendance is mandatory and kids want to be with their friends. Activities are a huge social thing. |