Any other moms out just not order when you eat with your family?

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I often don't because I'm gluten intolerant. My husband sometimes doesn't if he knows that the kids won't eat all their food.

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Anonymous wrote:I sometimes did this because I am cheap, picky, and don’t like to see food wasted. I don’t think it’s a big deal. Now that my kids are older and more likely to finish their meals, I rarely skip ordering. I don’t see why people need to shame others so much.

The shamers in this thread are most likely fat gluttons who are justifying their over spending and over eating as being… feminism?

So, you think that people who actually eat dinner are “over eaters” and “fat?” But, you’re the one without weird food hangups?

No I think the people shaming OP are fat over eaters. Work on your reading comprehension.

Disordered behavior should be described as such. It does no one any good to pretend that OP is healthy and okay. She's not. It's like calling it "shaming" to describe a tumor as cancer.

It’s not disordered just because some over dramatic idiots could never dream of NOT wasting food and money every time they belly up to the trough.

I don’t think OP’s choices are disordered, just set a bad example for her kids. That being said, all the comments saying it is disordered eating have been relatively kind and not shaming. Your comments on other posters however…

What world are you living in where it is KIND to tell a mother that she has an eating disorder, is acting like a martyr, and is a bad mother (sorry, setting a bad example for her children)?

Yeah…I don’t get this. This is in no way an eating disorder or being a martyr. OP isn’t doing this as a way to cut calories/lose weight nor is she complaining about or saying she feels obligated to do it and resents it. Sounded like she is ok with it for practical reasons and just wondering if anyone else does this too. In DCUM everything is labeled an eating disorder

Op - yes I’m fine with it. I do think the person who gets 3 dishes between 4 prob has the right move- sometimes we also go to small plates places and just order less than the kids think we should get and still end up with leftovers.
I just am so so uncomfortable with food waste and everything is so expensive right now. I think also kids have wildly off base ideas of how much they can consume

It's not waste if you eat it. Why aren't you taking home and eating left overs?

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Anonymous wrote:I sometimes did this because I am cheap, picky, and don’t like to see food wasted. I don’t think it’s a big deal. Now that my kids are older and more likely to finish their meals, I rarely skip ordering. I don’t see why people need to shame others so much.

The shamers in this thread are most likely fat gluttons who are justifying their over spending and over eating as being… feminism?

So, you think that people who actually eat dinner are “over eaters” and “fat?” But, you’re the one without weird food hangups?

No I think the people shaming OP are fat over eaters. Work on your reading comprehension.

Disordered behavior should be described as such. It does no one any good to pretend that OP is healthy and okay. She's not. It's like calling it "shaming" to describe a tumor as cancer.

It’s not disordered just because some over dramatic idiots could never dream of NOT wasting food and money every time they belly up to the trough.

I don’t think OP’s choices are disordered, just set a bad example for her kids. That being said, all the comments saying it is disordered eating have been relatively kind and not shaming. Your comments on other posters however…

What world are you living in where it is KIND to tell a mother that she has an eating disorder, is acting like a martyr, and is a bad mother (sorry, setting a bad example for her children)?

NP. It is literally modeling for your kids that mom doesn’t choose or get a full entree; mom gets what others pick, and she gets the scraps.

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Anonymous wrote:I sometimes did this because I am cheap, picky, and don’t like to see food wasted. I don’t think it’s a big deal. Now that my kids are older and more likely to finish their meals, I rarely skip ordering. I don’t see why people need to shame others so much.

The shamers in this thread are most likely fat gluttons who are justifying their over spending and over eating as being… feminism?

So, you think that people who actually eat dinner are “over eaters” and “fat?” But, you’re the one without weird food hangups?

No I think the people shaming OP are fat over eaters. Work on your reading comprehension.

Disordered behavior should be described as such. It does no one any good to pretend that OP is healthy and okay. She's not. It's like calling it "shaming" to describe a tumor as cancer.

It’s not disordered just because some over dramatic idiots could never dream of NOT wasting food and money every time they belly up to the trough.

I don’t think OP’s choices are disordered, just set a bad example for her kids. That being said, all the comments saying it is disordered eating have been relatively kind and not shaming. Your comments on other posters however…

What world are you living in where it is KIND to tell a mother that she has an eating disorder, is acting like a martyr, and is a bad mother (sorry, setting a bad example for her children)?

Yeah…I don’t get this. This is in no way an eating disorder or being a martyr. OP isn’t doing this as a way to cut calories/lose weight nor is she complaining about or saying she feels obligated to do it and resents it. Sounded like she is ok with it for practical reasons and just wondering if anyone else does this too. In DCUM everything is labeled an eating disorder

Op - yes I’m fine with it. I do think the person who gets 3 dishes between 4 prob has the right move- sometimes we also go to small plates places and just order less than the kids think we should get and still end up with leftovers.
I just am so so uncomfortable with food waste and everything is so expensive right now. I think also kids have wildly off base ideas of how much they can consume

So eat the leftovers! I also hate food waste and that’s what I do.

[Anonymous]

I never eat out. Another gluten free here so I just get something to drink, water. I don't like having to explain why so I just say I ate big before I left home. Whatever I used to get for the kids they either ate it all or brought the leftovers home.

It's not bad enough that food is so expensive but it's poisoned too. Add in dirty hands on the food, no thank you. I don't want anyone touching my plate or my food. And those machines for fountain drinks ? LOADED with salmonella. If you see pink on anything involving drinks, ice, water ... do NOT drink that. You will get sick. Look next time.

[Anonymous]

Yes, I order food!

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Anonymous wrote:I do but it ends up being embarrassing because I often AM hungry and I do want food but my kids and DH are massive eaters. It’s frustrating because even a trip to Taco Bell costs like $40. I end up ordering something small for myself and then hoping my kids don’t finish their food. The whole thing is just kinda sad. I’m pushing for us to eat out less because it’s so expensive and I’m sick of what hogs my family members are. I wish they’d understand they don’t have to ALWAYS get every single item that they want.

Here is your good martyr ⭐️.

Yes it is sad, but for the reasons you think.

[Anonymous]

Wow, no. We go out very rarely because we have a tight budget, but when we do it's more a treat for the adults than the kids. I'm not going to eat cold chicken nuggets on my rare chance to NOT cook dinner myself!

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Anonymous wrote:I sometimes did this because I am cheap, picky, and don’t like to see food wasted. I don’t think it’s a big deal. Now that my kids are older and more likely to finish their meals, I rarely skip ordering. I don’t see why people need to shame others so much.

The shamers in this thread are most likely fat gluttons who are justifying their over spending and over eating as being… feminism?

So, you think that people who actually eat dinner are “over eaters” and “fat?” But, you’re the one without weird food hangups?

No I think the people shaming OP are fat over eaters. Work on your reading comprehension.

Disordered behavior should be described as such. It does no one any good to pretend that OP is healthy and okay. She's not. It's like calling it "shaming" to describe a tumor as cancer.

It’s not disordered just because some over dramatic idiots could never dream of NOT wasting food and money every time they belly up to the trough.

I don’t think OP’s choices are disordered, just set a bad example for her kids. That being said, all the comments saying it is disordered eating have been relatively kind and not shaming. Your comments on other posters however…

What world are you living in where it is KIND to tell a mother that she has an eating disorder, is acting like a martyr, and is a bad mother (sorry, setting a bad example for her children)?

Yeah…I don’t get this. This is in no way an eating disorder or being a martyr. OP isn’t doing this as a way to cut calories/lose weight nor is she complaining about or saying she feels obligated to do it and resents it. Sounded like she is ok with it for practical reasons and just wondering if anyone else does this too. In DCUM everything is labeled an eating disorder

Op - yes I’m fine with it. I do think the person who gets 3 dishes between 4 prob has the right move- sometimes we also go to small plates places and just order less than the kids think we should get and still end up with leftovers.
I just am so so uncomfortable with food waste and everything is so expensive right now. I think also kids have wildly off base ideas of how much they can consume

It's not waste if you eat it. Why aren't you taking home and eating left overs?

I don’t need $40 worth of leftovers. That’s like 25% of our weekly grocery budget for a half eaten piece of salmon and a third of a cheeseburger.

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Anonymous wrote:I do but it ends up being embarrassing because I often AM hungry and I do want food but my kids and DH are massive eaters. It’s frustrating because even a trip to Taco Bell costs like $40. I end up ordering something small for myself and then hoping my kids don’t finish their food. The whole thing is just kinda sad. I’m pushing for us to eat out less because it’s so expensive and I’m sick of what hogs my family members are. I wish they’d understand they don’t have to ALWAYS get every single item that they want.

Here is your good martyr ⭐️.

Yes it is sad, but for the reasons you think.

Not as sad as being an internet troll

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Anonymous wrote:I sometimes did this because I am cheap, picky, and don’t like to see food wasted. I don’t think it’s a big deal. Now that my kids are older and more likely to finish their meals, I rarely skip ordering. I don’t see why people need to shame others so much.

The shamers in this thread are most likely fat gluttons who are justifying their over spending and over eating as being… feminism?

So, you think that people who actually eat dinner are “over eaters” and “fat?” But, you’re the one without weird food hangups?

No I think the people shaming OP are fat over eaters. Work on your reading comprehension.

Disordered behavior should be described as such. It does no one any good to pretend that OP is healthy and okay. She's not. It's like calling it "shaming" to describe a tumor as cancer.

It’s not disordered just because some over dramatic idiots could never dream of NOT wasting food and money every time they belly up to the trough.

I don’t think OP’s choices are disordered, just set a bad example for her kids. That being said, all the comments saying it is disordered eating have been relatively kind and not shaming. Your comments on other posters however…

What world are you living in where it is KIND to tell a mother that she has an eating disorder, is acting like a martyr, and is a bad mother (sorry, setting a bad example for her children)?

Yeah…I don’t get this. This is in no way an eating disorder or being a martyr. OP isn’t doing this as a way to cut calories/lose weight nor is she complaining about or saying she feels obligated to do it and resents it. Sounded like she is ok with it for practical reasons and just wondering if anyone else does this too. In DCUM everything is labeled an eating disorder

Op - yes I’m fine with it. I do think the person who gets 3 dishes between 4 prob has the right move- sometimes we also go to small plates places and just order less than the kids think we should get and still end up with leftovers.
I just am so so uncomfortable with food waste and everything is so expensive right now. I think also kids have wildly off base ideas of how much they can consume

It's not waste if you eat it. Why aren't you taking home and eating left overs?

I don’t need $40 worth of leftovers. That’s like 25% of our weekly grocery budget for a half eaten piece of salmon and a third of a cheeseburger.

Do you not understand that the leftovers mean you have to buy fewer groceries?

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Anonymous wrote:I sometimes did this because I am cheap, picky, and don’t like to see food wasted. I don’t think it’s a big deal. Now that my kids are older and more likely to finish their meals, I rarely skip ordering. I don’t see why people need to shame others so much.

The shamers in this thread are most likely fat gluttons who are justifying their over spending and over eating as being… feminism?

So, you think that people who actually eat dinner are “over eaters” and “fat?” But, you’re the one without weird food hangups?

No I think the people shaming OP are fat over eaters. Work on your reading comprehension.

Disordered behavior should be described as such. It does no one any good to pretend that OP is healthy and okay. She's not. It's like calling it "shaming" to describe a tumor as cancer.

It’s not disordered just because some over dramatic idiots could never dream of NOT wasting food and money every time they belly up to the trough.

I don’t think OP’s choices are disordered, just set a bad example for her kids. That being said, all the comments saying it is disordered eating have been relatively kind and not shaming. Your comments on other posters however…

What world are you living in where it is KIND to tell a mother that she has an eating disorder, is acting like a martyr, and is a bad mother (sorry, setting a bad example for her children)?

Yeah…I don’t get this. This is in no way an eating disorder or being a martyr. OP isn’t doing this as a way to cut calories/lose weight nor is she complaining about or saying she feels obligated to do it and resents it. Sounded like she is ok with it for practical reasons and just wondering if anyone else does this too. In DCUM everything is labeled an eating disorder

Op - yes I’m fine with it. I do think the person who gets 3 dishes between 4 prob has the right move- sometimes we also go to small plates places and just order less than the kids think we should get and still end up with leftovers.
I just am so so uncomfortable with food waste and everything is so expensive right now. I think also kids have wildly off base ideas of how much they can consume

It's not waste if you eat it. Why aren't you taking home and eating left overs?

I don’t need $40 worth of leftovers. That’s like 25% of our weekly grocery budget for a half eaten piece of salmon and a third of a cheeseburger.

Honestly I think you should stop going out to dinner. It sounds like you can’t afford it or have very different ideas from the rest of your family about the point of eating out. Restaurant food is more expensive because you are paying for the experience and for not having to prepare it or do dishes. If it’s not worth it to you just don’t go. Either let your husband take your kids or tell them no eating out for a while. Or put some limits on your kids so that you can bring yourself to at least get an appetizer.

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Anonymous wrote:I sometimes did this because I am cheap, picky, and don’t like to see food wasted. I don’t think it’s a big deal. Now that my kids are older and more likely to finish their meals, I rarely skip ordering. I don’t see why people need to shame others so much.

The shamers in this thread are most likely fat gluttons who are justifying their over spending and over eating as being… feminism?

So, you think that people who actually eat dinner are “over eaters” and “fat?” But, you’re the one without weird food hangups?

No I think the people shaming OP are fat over eaters. Work on your reading comprehension.

Disordered behavior should be described as such. It does no one any good to pretend that OP is healthy and okay. She's not. It's like calling it "shaming" to describe a tumor as cancer.

It’s not disordered just because some over dramatic idiots could never dream of NOT wasting food and money every time they belly up to the trough.

I don’t think OP’s choices are disordered, just set a bad example for her kids. That being said, all the comments saying it is disordered eating have been relatively kind and not shaming. Your comments on other posters however…

What world are you living in where it is KIND to tell a mother that she has an eating disorder, is acting like a martyr, and is a bad mother (sorry, setting a bad example for her children)?

Yeah…I don’t get this. This is in no way an eating disorder or being a martyr. OP isn’t doing this as a way to cut calories/lose weight nor is she complaining about or saying she feels obligated to do it and resents it. Sounded like she is ok with it for practical reasons and just wondering if anyone else does this too. In DCUM everything is labeled an eating disorder

Op - yes I’m fine with it. I do think the person who gets 3 dishes between 4 prob has the right move- sometimes we also go to small plates places and just order less than the kids think we should get and still end up with leftovers.
I just am so so uncomfortable with food waste and everything is so expensive right now. I think also kids have wildly off base ideas of how much they can consume

How do you know they won’t finish it if you are gobbling up their food?

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Anonymous wrote:I sometimes did this because I am cheap, picky, and don’t like to see food wasted. I don’t think it’s a big deal. Now that my kids are older and more likely to finish their meals, I rarely skip ordering. I don’t see why people need to shame others so much.

The shamers in this thread are most likely fat gluttons who are justifying their over spending and over eating as being… feminism?

So, you think that people who actually eat dinner are “over eaters” and “fat?” But, you’re the one without weird food hangups?

No I think the people shaming OP are fat over eaters. Work on your reading comprehension.

Disordered behavior should be described as such. It does no one any good to pretend that OP is healthy and okay. She's not. It's like calling it "shaming" to describe a tumor as cancer.

It’s not disordered just because some over dramatic idiots could never dream of NOT wasting food and money every time they belly up to the trough.

I don’t think OP’s choices are disordered, just set a bad example for her kids. That being said, all the comments saying it is disordered eating have been relatively kind and not shaming. Your comments on other posters however…

What world are you living in where it is KIND to tell a mother that she has an eating disorder, is acting like a martyr, and is a bad mother (sorry, setting a bad example for her children)?

NP. It is literally modeling for your kids that mom doesn’t choose or get a full entree; mom gets what others pick, and she gets the scraps.

+1–And, unless I missed it, none of of these scraps are coming from any of the Dad’s plates, so kids are learning only mom doesn’t get a full meal.

[Anonymous]

N-1 person again. When we do this, I will eat off DH's plate, so it's not sending the message everyone but mom gets a meal. i do agree that isn't a great message to send.

We still do it now when we are traveling, in particular. That's when we really don't want leftovers.

When we are on a road trip and get fast food, the kids get the meal deal - entree, fries, drink. But my husband and I get one meal deal, and one entree, and we split the drink and the fries. I don't know if it's cheaper, really (because my husband gets the large side and drink), but it just feels like a more reasonable purchase.