Walking dates complaints

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Anonymous wrote:Why not grab a cup of coffee together and go for a walk?

Why either or?

Too many bathroom stops in the bushes.

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Anonymous wrote:As a woman, I would want to know a guy is interested in me. Not putting something out there (whether its a thoughtful gesture or spending some money on a date-doesn't have to be a lot) bothers me. Going on walks is cheap in many ways. He can be taking multiple walks a day, multiple days a week...

I mean, if he’s going on this many dates, you can see his viewpoint about not wanting to spend money every time, right?

The point is the they need to filter online options out better BEFORE meeting. No one (save someone with zero social life) should be going on so many first dates that they can’t afford it. One might ask why they don’t get beyond the first date so often…

It’s not really for you to tell someone else how to date or spend their money. Accept the date or don’t.

DP and I agree with this, but at the same time, it’s not for guys to tell women what kind of dates they should accept. If he doesn’t want to take a woman to dinner on a first date, by all means, don’t! Just don’t be mad if she declines a walk date.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Pay peanuts, get monkeys.

What a great expression! Thanks!

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Omg I keep seeing young couples on the W&OD trail who stare at their phones and don’t look like they really want to be with each other. Are they on walking dates?!? I had never heard of them before

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Anonymous wrote:I’m married, but I always liked a happy hour first date. I would try to get there a little early and get my own glass of wine, that way I could dip out easily after one drink if I wasn’t feeling it, and if we did hit it off we could segue into dinner.

A walk date seems awkward because there’s not a natural end point.

What, pray tell, is the 'natural end point' of a date at a bar?

I’m talking about a weeknight happy hour - after work & before dinner. Neither party expects to hang out for hours (but the option is right there to get a table and have dinner if you really hit it off and want to keep the date going after you finish your drink).

My last date was a happy hr meetup at 530 and we talked til 9. He didn’t suggest any food, or even a bar snack, which I found odd. He turned out to be really uptight unsurprisingly.

Yeah, that’s weird and rude. I can’t do more than one drink without food, especially when it’s getting to be the time I eat dinner, so after my one glass of wine I was either saying good night (maybe there would be a second date, maybe not) or getting a table and ordering dinner.

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Anonymous wrote:Omg I keep seeing young couples on the W&OD trail who stare at their phones and don’t look like they really want to be with each other. Are they on walking dates?!? I had never heard of them before

Uh, no. They are definitely not on a walking date. I love walking dates yet no woman in her right mind would walk on a trail/hike on a first date with someone she doesn't know.

A walking date should be in an area with people, where you can stroll and have something of interest to look at.

The last walking date I had was the boardwalk on the river by the Navy Yard/Nats Stadium.

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Anonymous wrote:I pay in sausages

What does that get you? Pigs?

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Anonymous wrote:Pp again. I can’t imagine going on a date who couldn’t buy me a cup of coffee. I would be fine with buying my own coffee.

I went to college and grad school with wealthy students so I never hung out with any guys who wouldn’t buy me dinner. DH was not wealthy but also bought me dinner all the time with the little money he did have. He now earns a seven figure income.

I didn’t know or associate with guys who would not buy dinner on a date. How cheap!!

I’m sending DD to your schools, where’d you go?

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Anonymous wrote:My girlfriend also says that they only wanted to go for a walk and as soon as she suggested to go for Coffee they blocked her and on the date when she asked to go to a bar, they refused. This experience made her very bitter, and I feel for her. But I believe it might be a bit overblown.

She best adjust herself. I’m a woman and can understand that a man may not want to be paying for 50 first dates. What’s wrong w a walk and talk for a first meeting. Especially during spring on the dmv?

Why does he need 50 first dates? He’s trying to have 50 1 night stands. Making sure the guy pays for the date ensures you don’t give a freebie f after falling for a love bomb.

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Anonymous wrote:My girlfriend also says that they only wanted to go for a walk and as soon as she suggested to go for Coffee they blocked her and on the date when she asked to go to a bar, they refused. This experience made her very bitter, and I feel for her. But I believe it might be a bit overblown.

She best adjust herself. I’m a woman and can understand that a man may not want to be paying for 50 first dates. What’s wrong w a walk and talk for a first meeting. Especially during spring on the dmv?

Why does he need 50 first dates? He’s trying to have 50 1 night stands. Making sure the guy pays for the date ensures you don’t give a freebie f after falling for a love bomb.

This makes no sense.

[Anonymous]

NP. When I lived in north-west Germany, my first dates with guys were usually bike rides through the countryside or roller skating. This was quite normal in a flat college town where everybody rode a bike.

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Anonymous wrote:Middle aged man here. One reason I like walks for first dates is that we can talk about things we see, and conversations usually flow really well even if we don't see anything interesting. Meeting for coffee also can be nice. Drinking alcohol on the first date isn't ideal in my opinion. Women sometimes say crazy stuff when they drink. I'll happily pay for a nice dinner but I don't usually have good experiences with fancy dinners as first dates.

I mostly agree with this. Married now, but when dating, I preferred coffee dates over anything else unless I knew the guy via a friend or something.

I don’t like walking dates because I prefer to see a persons facial expressions when they are talking and reacting to what I am saying.

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Anonymous wrote:Why not grab a cup of coffee together and go for a walk?

Why either or?

Too many bathroom stops in the bushes.

You got that right!

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Anonymous[b wrote:]I’d assume you have problems looking people in the eye if it’s ONLY a walking date.[/b]

Coffee and THEN a walk the zoo or river or great falls or around Old Town makes sense.

This and this.

Walks or talks in the car are for people who don’t like eye contact or social cues. Not for first impressions or body language or facial cues.

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Anonymous[b wrote:]I’d assume you have problems looking people in the eye if it’s ONLY a walking date.[/b]

Coffee and THEN a walk the zoo or river or great falls or around Old Town makes sense.

This and this.

Walks or talks in the car are for people who don’t like eye contact or social cues. Not for first impressions or body language or facial cues.

Seems youthe one that struggles with social cues, body language and facial cues if you can't get to know someone without sitting across from them.