Superficial way you judge people as rich ?

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Anonymous wrote:Clothing. One family we know almost exclusively wear Vineyard Vines and Ralph Lauren clothing. They literally look like they are dressing for a photoshoot all the time.

This is UMC striver wear. Not upper class.

+1. Tacky and all that stuff is cheap at Marshall’s and TJ.

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Private k-12 is the ultimate signal. Except is rare circumstances, I’m really judgy about even wealthy families sending their kids to public. I assume they’re stupid and fell into money.

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Anonymous wrote:home + private school, private college.

NO & NO & NO

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Anonymous wrote:I know a lot of extremely wealthy people from various parts of my life who are not flashy at all. very low maintenance in general with an occasional pop of something that is just particularly good quality. If it is worth it, they buy it. If not, no need to spend extra money for nothing. Generally, the showy people aren't actually that wealthy, with the exception of those whose money is made by leveraging a vibe (for example, involved with the sales of luxury products), in which case they act the part. Then again, I'm not a showy person, so I definitely attract a non-showy crowd.

+1

ME.....

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Anonymous wrote:New money rich:

- thin and attractive with a tastefully done spray tan all year long.
- straight and whitened teeth and good cosmetic work
- good hair. Expensive highlights and cut
- expensive designer clothes. Tasteful but you know they’re expensive. Designer purses and watches a must!
- fancy private school
- nice well decorated house in a desirable zip code
- international travel at fancy resorts
- competitive personality

Spray tan and tasteful in the same sentence? I think not. 😂

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Spray tans have come a long way in the last few years, don't assume you can tell who has one.

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Anonymous wrote:Spray tans have come a long way in the last few years, don't assume you can tell who has one.

It’s not the spray tan itself, it’s the mindset of someone who would get one…

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Anonymous wrote:Private k-12 is the ultimate signal. Except is rare circumstances, I’m really judgy about even wealthy families sending their kids to public. I assume they’re stupid and fell into money.

yeah that's definately judgy. Many of us wealthy believe in public schools and actually choose to live where there are great ones, so we send our kids to public.

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I"ve started to think that it is the less wealthy that get the fancy designer bags so they can look wealthy!

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Rugs. Rich people have expensive rugs in their houses.

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Anonymous wrote:Women wearing cream/white/beige combo clothes in cashmere/silk/wool.

This

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Anonymous wrote:Women's handbag .

Lol. Worth millions but I carry an lol bean tote bag.

You exude middle class.

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Anonymous wrote:Number of piercings (fewer is better)
Number of tattoos (same criteria as above)
No smoking
How thin the person is
Where they went to school in k-12

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Anonymous wrote:Women's handbag .

That is a terrible predictor lol. Many women buy expensive bags and they are FAR from rich - just posing as rich.

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Anonymous wrote:Indian Americans.

They live below their means but most are rich. Even the poors have enough to pay for kids college, big fat 100K weddings, retirement, paid off home, kid's first car etc.

How do they do it?

B/c they have no retirement and expect their kids to pay for their life past 60. They aren't rich.

This is not true at all. Indian-Americans are the wealthiest ethnic group in US.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_ethnic_groups_in_the_United_States_by_household_income

Yeah I think there are a lot of Indian Americans who have similar wealth profiles to what people on this thread might consider “rich” or at least UMC. And they have almost none of the tells of wealthy white folk. Most of us don’t even think of ourselves as rich but rather as professionals. So very much working people and so the behavior is different. The truly wealthy Indians are upper class in India which is its own thing.

But I stopped to think about it and our family is very comfortably off. My parents have a decent amount of money to support their lifestyle which includes international travel and hanging with the grandkids. Ideally there won’t be much left over but let’s say low 6 figures for each of their kids. By far their most important contribution was that we all had expensive weddings, graduated school with no debt, and received a little money here and there as we got set up in life. And all this from normal educated middle class immigrant parents. My ILs were not spenders and I don’t know exactly what their estate will look like but I expect my kids will each inherit ~$1M in trusts that will come to them from that side of the family. No way you would imagine this if you saw my MiL who shops at kohls.

We have an HHI of about $650K. We spend on travel but pretty much nothing else except a house with a good school system. Kids are in public. One will end up at a fancy lottery private that we can afford because of the 529s pretty much the whole family has been contributing to since they were born. The other can go wherever but will probably go to the (great) state flagship unless a $80K private really seems worth it.

So not flashy in anything. Huge emphasis on education. No idea what the next generation will be like but so far they seem to be imbibing the family schtick to spending. We’ll see.