Please stop sending sick kids to school!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry people can't take time off work every time their preschooler has a runny nose. It is a luxury only for SAHPs.

I am not a stay at home parent, but my work schedule isn’t the schools problem. I had to keep my son home today because he has a cold a week after school started. Don’t be an a-hole and send an unwell child to school.

That said, many kids are probably contagious before they develop symptoms and idk what the answer is. Additionally, kids are mucusy forever with colds. How long should they really be out of school for? A day or two? It’s not like they can work remotely once they’re feeling better but still on the mend.

Similarly, that the OP and her family have chronic health issues isn’t the school’s problem either. Nor is it the problem of other parents and children.

If you get the teachers and staff sick, it is their problem as people like you aren't willing to sub after you get everyone sick.

Are you suggesting kids going to school with mild cold symptoms is a new phenomenon? Because I assure you it isn’t.

Of course it’s not nor is selfish parenting.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry people can't take time off work every time their preschooler has a runny nose. It is a luxury only for SAHPs.

I am not a stay at home parent, but my work schedule isn’t the schools problem. I had to keep my son home today because he has a cold a week after school started. Don’t be an a-hole and send an unwell child to school.

That said, many kids are probably contagious before they develop symptoms and idk what the answer is. Additionally, kids are mucusy forever with colds. How long should they really be out of school for? A day or two? It’s not like they can work remotely once they’re feeling better but still on the mend.

Similarly, that the OP and her family have chronic health issues isn’t the school’s problem either. Nor is it the problem of other parents and children.

If you get the teachers and staff sick, it is their problem as people like you aren't willing to sub after you get everyone sick.

Are you suggesting kids going to school with mild cold symptoms is a new phenomenon? Because I assure you it isn’t.

Of course it’s not nor is selfish parenting.

And things went along just fine despite Lola going to school with a runny nose.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There's a difference between some sniffles from allergies and thick green mucus constantly running down a child's face that they stick thier hands into and spread germs all over the classroom.

If you're sending you child to school with the thick green mucus and expecting the teacher to wipe your child's nose SHAME ON YOU. Why are you knowingly exposing your child's teacher and peers to illness.

By the time the snot is green they are less infectious than when the snot was clear, at the beginning of the infection. I always roll my eyes at the "clear snot is ok" policies.

I keep my child home when she is not feeling well. If she is happy and playing (despite having a runny nose or cough) she goes to school.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:There's a difference between some sniffles from allergies and thick green mucus constantly running down a child's face that they stick thier hands into and spread germs all over the classroom.

If you're sending you child to school with the thick green mucus and expecting the teacher to wipe your child's nose SHAME ON YOU. Why are you knowingly exposing your child's teacher and peers to illness.

By the time the snot is green they are less infectious than when the snot was clear, at the beginning of the infection. I always roll my eyes at the "clear snot is ok" policies.

I keep my child home when she is not feeling well. If she is happy and playing (despite having a runny nose or cough) she goes to school.

That’s not entirely accurate, but yes, green/yellow mucus will come a little later into an infection, when you might be less contagious. The issue is that green/yellow mucus is a fairly clear sign of an infection, whereas clear mucus is normal.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:There's a difference between some sniffles from allergies and thick green mucus constantly running down a child's face that they stick thier hands into and spread germs all over the classroom.

If you're sending you child to school with the thick green mucus and expecting the teacher to wipe your child's nose SHAME ON YOU. Why are you knowingly exposing your child's teacher and peers to illness.

By the time the snot is green they are less infectious than when the snot was clear, at the beginning of the infection. I always roll my eyes at the "clear snot is ok" policies.

I keep my child home when she is not feeling well. If she is happy and playing (despite having a runny nose or cough) she goes to school.

That’s not entirely accurate, but yes, green/yellow mucus will come a little later into an infection, when you might be less contagious. The issue is that green/yellow mucus is a fairly clear sign of an infection, whereas clear mucus is normal.

Nope, clear mucus can be a sign of an infection. And green/yellow mucus can persist long after a child stops being infectious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There's a difference between some sniffles from allergies and thick green mucus constantly running down a child's face that they stick thier hands into and spread germs all over the classroom.

If you're sending you child to school with the thick green mucus and expecting the teacher to wipe your child's nose SHAME ON YOU. Why are you knowingly exposing your child's teacher and peers to illness.

By the time the snot is green they are less infectious than when the snot was clear, at the beginning of the infection. I always roll my eyes at the "clear snot is ok" policies.

I keep my child home when she is not feeling well. If she is happy and playing (despite having a runny nose or cough) she goes to school.

That’s not entirely accurate, but yes, green/yellow mucus will come a little later into an infection, when you might be less contagious. The issue is that green/yellow mucus is a fairly clear sign of an infection, whereas clear mucus is normal.

Nope, clear mucus can be a sign of an infection. And green/yellow mucus can persist long after a child stops being infectious.

It doesn’t matter. If that mucus is running nonstop that child is heading right back home.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:There's a difference between some sniffles from allergies and thick green mucus constantly running down a child's face that they stick thier hands into and spread germs all over the classroom.

If you're sending you child to school with the thick green mucus and expecting the teacher to wipe your child's nose SHAME ON YOU. Why are you knowingly exposing your child's teacher and peers to illness.

By the time the snot is green they are less infectious than when the snot was clear, at the beginning of the infection. I always roll my eyes at the "clear snot is ok" policies.

I keep my child home when she is not feeling well. If she is happy and playing (despite having a runny nose or cough) she goes to school.

+1. I kept DC home earlier this week for a couple days because she was miserable during the first part of the cold and got an ear infection (confirmed with pcr at urgent care that it wasn’t Covid). She went back once she was feeling better (with a mask as a courtesy) but I’m still sucking thick green snot out of her nose with the nosefrida each morning!

I wonder how many parents complaining about kids attending with colds did not have kids in daycare/preshoool pre-pandemic. Cause it’s pretty common for colds to circulate regularly and there is always going to be a rough patch when your kid first starts where they seem to catch every virus under the sun.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, we can’t afford to miss more school when the kids are simply congested.

+1. My rules are: is it COVID? (We always have a ton of rapid tests on hand) Is there a quantifiable symptom (like a fever) that breaks one of the school's symptom rules? Can she function in class?


If one of those criteria is not met, yeah, sorry, we're going about our day. Mild sniffles are part of life at that age. I think where some parents mess up is the third criterion (can they function?). I am not going to send my kid to school if she is listless and miserable. Some parents take it too far by doing that.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry, we can’t afford to miss more school when the kids are simply congested.

+1. My rules are: is it COVID? (We always have a ton of rapid tests on hand) Is there a quantifiable symptom (like a fever) that breaks one of the school's symptom rules? Can she function in class?


If one of those criteria is not met, yeah, sorry, we're going about our day. Mild sniffles are part of life at that age. I think where some parents mess up is the third criterion (can they function?). I am not going to send my kid to school if she is listless and miserable. Some parents take it too far by doing that.

+1. My DH is a bit like that- more willing to send them even when they aren't feeling well enough to function. But he also has a job for which taking sick days is a PITA, so I get it somewhat. But I do morning dropoffs and generally make the call and take the sick day in those situations.

[Anonymous]

12:17 again- I also think Covid quarantines put a huge stress on parents because many ended up using sick days for times when their kids weren't actually sick....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:12:17 again- I also think Covid quarantines put a huge stress on parents because many ended up using sick days for times when their kids weren't actually sick....

+1 this

In the first year of the pandemic there was more leeway but many of us either don't have sick days and/or are overwhelmed with work and can't just keep taking off full weeks at a time every month.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:12:17 again- I also think Covid quarantines put a huge stress on parents because many ended up using sick days for times when their kids weren't actually sick....

+1 this

In the first year of the pandemic there was more leeway but many of us either don't have sick days and/or are overwhelmed with work and can't just keep taking off full weeks at a time every month.

Then you need to find some alternative. That is your responsibility.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Parents are sending kids who are clearly pretty sick. Somehow if they test negative for Covid, they send them anyway no matter what. One parent dropped off her child and said FYI - he’s got a cold. Another asked how her kid did during the day because he didn’t seem right before school and was coughing.

I volunteered in my son’s class last week and kids had very runny noses or stuffy noses to the point that they couldn’t breathe and looked miserable.
No masking outside so I had my child mask.

Of course my son is now sick anyway (me too) and I have an unrelated dr appointment tomorrow that took 4 months to get. If I reschedule it will be 2023 and I bet he’ll be sick then too anyway.

It’s not my first go around with a kid in preschool and it’s always been bad but this just seems so inconsiderate. People sending their sick kid to school for 3 hours means we are sick for 7-10 days. We miss work and my husband almost always gets bronchitis.

Please don’t say that’s how preschool is. I expect to get sick a lot but last year it averaged two colds a month. One illness lasted 5 weeks and all 5 of us were on steroids and antibiotics.

I always keep my kids home when sick. Am I just the idiot here who is being holier than thou? Maybe I should just send my child as long as he has no fever and covid negative?

Of course I won’t send him if he’s uncomfortable but sometimes he’s running around happily coughing and sneezing and I’m dying here with bronchitis desperate to rest. (I never had kids who rested or played independently so when they are home, I’m on duty cooking and playing all day)

Welcome to daycare.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:12:17 again- I also think Covid quarantines put a huge stress on parents because many ended up using sick days for times when their kids weren't actually sick....

+1 this

In the first year of the pandemic there was more leeway but many of us either don't have sick days and/or are overwhelmed with work and can't just keep taking off full weeks at a time every month.

Then you need to find some alternative. That is your responsibility.

NP and yeah, the alternative is to send kids to school when they may have a runny nose but obviously feel fine. If you can't handle living in a society with other people go be a hermit in the woods by yourself, loser. Oh, by the way, while you're still here among the rest of us you better be doing your bit by pitching in at work to cover for those who have to take a day or more off to stay home with their kids to satisfy your anxiety, mmkay?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry people can't take time off work every time their preschooler has a runny nose. It is a luxury only for SAHPs.

I am not a stay at home parent, but my work schedule isn’t the schools problem. I had to keep my son home today because he has a cold a week after school started. Don’t be an a-hole and send an unwell child to school.

That said, many kids are probably contagious before they develop symptoms and idk what the answer is. Additionally, kids are mucusy forever with colds. How long should they really be out of school for? A day or two? It’s not like they can work remotely once they’re feeling better but still on the mend.

Similarly, that the OP and her family have chronic health issues isn’t the school’s problem either. Nor is it the problem of other parents and children.

If you get the teachers and staff sick, it is their problem as people like you aren't willing to sub after you get everyone sick.

Are you suggesting kids going to school with mild cold symptoms is a new phenomenon? Because I assure you it isn’t.

Of course it’s not nor is selfish parenting.

And things went along just fine despite Lola going to school with a runny nose.

How would you know? Did you talk to the other parents of kids you infected?