Please stop sending sick kids to school!

[Anonymous]

Parents are sending kids who are clearly pretty sick. Somehow if they test negative for Covid, they send them anyway no matter what. One parent dropped off her child and said FYI - he’s got a cold. Another asked how her kid did during the day because he didn’t seem right before school and was coughing.

I volunteered in my son’s class last week and kids had very runny noses or stuffy noses to the point that they couldn’t breathe and looked miserable.
No masking outside so I had my child mask.

Of course my son is now sick anyway (me too) and I have an unrelated dr appointment tomorrow that took 4 months to get. If I reschedule it will be 2023 and I bet he’ll be sick then too anyway.

It’s not my first go around with a kid in preschool and it’s always been bad but this just seems so inconsiderate. People sending their sick kid to school for 3 hours means we are sick for 7-10 days. We miss work and my husband almost always gets bronchitis.

Please don’t say that’s how preschool is. I expect to get sick a lot but last year it averaged two colds a month. One illness lasted 5 weeks and all 5 of us were on steroids and antibiotics.

I always keep my kids home when sick. Am I just the idiot here who is being holier than thou? Maybe I should just send my child as long as he has no fever and covid negative?

Of course I won’t send him if he’s uncomfortable but sometimes he’s running around happily coughing and sneezing and I’m dying here with bronchitis desperate to rest. (I never had kids who rested or played independently so when they are home, I’m on duty cooking and playing all day)

[Anonymous]

Sorry, we can’t afford to miss more school when the kids are simply congested.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, we can’t afford to miss more school when the kids are simply congested.

Yes, you can and its called parenting.

[Anonymous]

Runny noses in preschool are not worthy of this rant. The school guidelines are don't send with a fever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, we can’t afford to miss more school when the kids are simply congested.

Yes, you can and its called parenting.

In many jobs, no you can't. You will get fired. You can't stay home for every cold.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, we can’t afford to miss more school when the kids are simply congested.

Yes, you can and its called parenting.

In many jobs, no you can't. You will get fired. You can't stay home for every cold.

You take leave without pay. Somehow I doubt you are an hourly minimum wage worker.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Parents are sending kids who are clearly pretty sick. Somehow if they test negative for Covid, they send them anyway no matter what. One parent dropped off her child and said FYI - he’s got a cold. Another asked how her kid did during the day because he didn’t seem right before school and was coughing.

I volunteered in my son’s class last week and kids had very runny noses or stuffy noses to the point that they couldn’t breathe and looked miserable.
No masking outside so I had my child mask.

Of course my son is now sick anyway (me too) and I have an unrelated dr appointment tomorrow that took 4 months to get. If I reschedule it will be 2023 and I bet he’ll be sick then too anyway.

It’s not my first go around with a kid in preschool and it’s always been bad but this just seems so inconsiderate. People sending their sick kid to school for 3 hours means we are sick for 7-10 days. We miss work and my husband almost always gets bronchitis.

Please don’t say that’s how preschool is. I expect to get sick a lot but last year it averaged two colds a month. One illness lasted 5 weeks and all 5 of us were on steroids and antibiotics.

I always keep my kids home when sick. Am I just the idiot here who is being holier than thou? Maybe I should just send my child as long as he has no fever and covid negative?

Of course I won’t send him if he’s uncomfortable but sometimes he’s running around happily coughing and sneezing and I’m dying here with bronchitis desperate to rest. (I never had kids who rested or played independently so when they are home, I’m on duty cooking and playing all day)

If you always keep your kid home when the kid is sick and the kid is sick now then you will miss the Dr appt.

Every parents had something like yours Dr appt that can't be missed. It sucks. It's life. Stop acting like you are superior.

[Anonymous]

Sorry people can't take time off work every time their preschooler has a runny nose. It is a luxury only for SAHPs.

[Anonymous]

If every time a kid has a runny nose, they don’t go to school, the classroom would probably be empty all winter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, we can’t afford to miss more school when the kids are simply congested.

Yes, you can and its called parenting.

In many jobs, no you can't. You will get fired. You can't stay home for every cold.

You take leave without pay. Somehow I doubt you are an hourly minimum wage worker.

Some jobs do not have leave without pay. I realize you are too privileged to relate, but it does happen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, we can’t afford to miss more school when the kids are simply congested.

Yes, you can and its called parenting.

In many jobs, no you can't. You will get fired. You can't stay home for every cold.

You take leave without pay. Somehow I doubt you are an hourly minimum wage worker.

I'm not an hourly minimum wage worker. I also can't take leave without pay for a cold.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Parents are sending kids who are clearly pretty sick. Somehow if they test negative for Covid, they send them anyway no matter what. One parent dropped off her child and said FYI - he’s got a cold. Another asked how her kid did during the day because he didn’t seem right before school and was coughing.

I volunteered in my son’s class last week and kids had very runny noses or stuffy noses to the point that they couldn’t breathe and looked miserable.
No masking outside so I had my child mask.

Of course my son is now sick anyway (me too) and I have an unrelated dr appointment tomorrow that took 4 months to get. If I reschedule it will be 2023 and I bet he’ll be sick then too anyway.

It’s not my first go around with a kid in preschool and it’s always been bad but this just seems so inconsiderate. People sending their sick kid to school for 3 hours means we are sick for 7-10 days. We miss work and my husband almost always gets bronchitis.

Please don’t say that’s how preschool is. I expect to get sick a lot but last year it averaged two colds a month. One illness lasted 5 weeks and all 5 of us were on steroids and antibiotics.

I always keep my kids home when sick. Am I just the idiot here who is being holier than thou? Maybe I should just send my child as long as he has no fever and covid negative?

Of course I won’t send him if he’s uncomfortable but sometimes he’s running around happily coughing and sneezing and I’m dying here with bronchitis desperate to rest. (I never had kids who rested or played independently so when they are home, I’m on duty cooking and playing all day)

Yes, you are being house than thou. And a martyr. No fever and Covid negative means school - he probably picked it up there so the kids were already exposed anyway.

But it does seem like you guys get more sick than normal. With three kids in daycare/preschool from age six months, each kid has had 1-2 rounds of antibiotics. The oldest is nine and has had them twice (one ear infection and age one and strep at age six). Your experience is an outlier.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, we can’t afford to miss more school when the kids are simply congested.

Yes, you can and its called parenting.

In many jobs, no you can't. You will get fired. You can't stay home for every cold.

You take leave without pay. Somehow I doubt you are an hourly minimum wage worker.

For a runny nose? With no fever and covid negative? No.

[Anonymous]

Two issues: kids get mildly ill all the time but are still capable of learning. I remember telling my mom once that I didn’t feel well and asked to stay home from school. Her response? “You think I feel 100% every day at work? You’re not throwing up; go to school.” I’ve had to watch myself from unconsciously adopting my mom’s attitude towards my own kids. I guarantee she never considered whether I got other kids sick. Kids went to school, kids got mildly sick from time to time, and life moved on. Nothing to see here, folks.

Second, my kids, like most kids in this country, lost a year’s worth of school and virtual learning doesn’t cut it in early elementary. Once they returned, they didn’t know if they would be at school the next day or not. Class quarantines, PCR tests, lunch table quarantines, 14 day quarantines, 5 day quarantines, different rules for vaccinated vs. partially vaccinated vs. unvaccinated…I can’t keep up anymore. One child old enough to be vaccinated, the other not (until recently). Different rules for elementary rules and preschools/daycares. If school is open and my kids feel up to going if they’re mildly under the weather, I’ll send them to school. If the school sends them home, so be it.

If this sounds contradictory, it probably is. Two years of this and my brain is fried.

[Anonymous]

I keep my kids home for fever, vomiting, unexplained rash, diarrhea, Covid, Strep, and flu. I am not keeping my kid home for congestion or a runny nose.

If your family gets sick for 7-10 days and misses
work due to a cold or if your whole family ends up on meds for a routine illness, perhaps you should talk to your Dr. about your immune system. That’s not normal.