Food for adults at birthday party

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Anonymous wrote:I guess I'm the only one who eats at 5:30, but I don't understand why OP couldn't buy a little something for herself?

Lol I don’t want venue pizza but I do eat at 5:30 like you! I would have gone somewhere else and returned for pickup.

And if there were no places nearby to eat, she could have brought herself a sandwich from home. I'm Indian and it is a cultural thing to feed all the guests, so I order for the adults. But I would not go to a 10 year old's venue party and expect food for adults, especially at 5:30. If it was a party getting over at 7:00 maybe. If they cut a cake instead of cupcakes and offered cake, I would take it, but again, it is not expected. At this age, the invitations are fewer and the expectations are also lower. My kid gets excited whether it is a playground party with snacks or a venue party with pizza. We've been to both kinds.

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Ain't nobody gives a shit. Also why come is you going to a kids party to eats the food? It's for the kids. Eat at your own house yo.

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Anonymous wrote:We have had this debate before. It's a cultural thing. WASPy people think you should skimp on food out of some bizarre sense of moral superiority of austerity, people from non-WASP cultures are horrified at lettings guests (and yes parents are gueats) be hungry.

No, we just know the difference between kids who are guests of a party, and who should be well fed if the party is at meal time, and the parents who are dropping off and picking up.

You would be seeing different answers here if this were a toddler or preschool party.

This. Those advocating that the parents should have been fed are basically saying that if you throw a dinner party, you are obligated to feed your guests' Uber drivers. Absurd.

If the Uber driver was expected to accompany the guest into the room and stay with them the whole time then yes I would expect to feed them. This comparison makes no sense.

Who expects a parent of a ten year old to stay?

Apparently the hosts of this party did, since OP says the kids were 5-10 and it was made clear it was not a drop-off party.

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Anonymous wrote:We have had this debate before. It's a cultural thing. WASPy people think you should skimp on food out of some bizarre sense of moral superiority of austerity, people from non-WASP cultures are horrified at lettings guests (and yes parents are gueats) be hungry.

No, we just know the difference between kids who are guests of a party, and who should be well fed if the party is at meal time, and the parents who are dropping off and picking up.

You would be seeing different answers here if this were a toddler or preschool party.

This. Those advocating that the parents should have been fed are basically saying that if you throw a dinner party, you are obligated to feed your guests' Uber drivers. Absurd.

If the Uber driver was expected to accompany the guest into the room and stay with them the whole time then yes I would expect to feed them. This comparison makes no sense.

Who expects a parent of a ten year old to stay?

Apparently the hosts of this party did, since OP says the kids were 5-10 and it was made clear it was not a drop-off party.

I don’t drop my kids off with strangers and would stay.

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Anonymous wrote:I guess I'm the only one who eats at 5:30, but I don't understand why OP couldn't buy a little something for herself?

Lol I don’t want venue pizza but I do eat at 5:30 like you! I would have gone somewhere else and returned for pickup.

And if there were no places nearby to eat, she could have brought herself a sandwich from home. I'm Indian and it is a cultural thing to feed all the guests, so I order for the adults. But I would not go to a 10 year old's venue party and expect food for adults, especially at 5:30. If it was a party getting over at 7:00 maybe. If they cut a cake instead of cupcakes and offered cake, I would take it, but again, it is not expected. At this age, the invitations are fewer and the expectations are also lower. My kid gets excited whether it is a playground party with snacks or a venue party with pizza. We've been to both kinds.

That time is dinner for most.

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Anonymous wrote:I always made sure there is enough food for the adults when my kids were of drop-off age but the parents rarely ever ate. Maybe a slice of cake but rarely did they eat pizza, etc. So its possible this is not the first time they hosted a party and were left with a ton of leftovers because the parents didn't eat. Who knows.

Also, its possible that the venue will only allow pizza that they order/make and it's included in the package or per kid price. Did they order from outside of the venue or did the venue handle it?

Did you say meals were served to everyone? We always put on the invitation that parents were encouraged to stay, food for all. Everyone almost ate because they knew there would be food. I generally assume there isn't food for adults and minimal food for kids as that's often what happens. I do a huge spread of simple things - salad, pizza, subs or make your own sandwiches, veggies, fruit, chips, hummus, pasta salad and a few other things and most gets eaten. If you have a lot and make it clear food is available, people will eat.

I hosted three kid parties this year and none of the venues allowed bringing in food like this (laser tag, trampoline type places). They offered kid packages with pizza from their own vendor, plus juice according to the number of kids in the package. The only thing you could bring in was the cake.

We’ve done those too and always buy extra food for adults but there are more flexible venues. You can always buy more above the package.

We choose the venue based on what the birthday child wants not based on whether adults would like the food the venue provides!

Most venues can get other food beyond pizza.