Why do schools ask us to do so much extra crap?!?
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Anonymous
You know, my kids’ school manages to create a community without any of this stuff. They celebrate when someone in the school has a new baby in the family and have moments of silence whenever someone has a family member pass away. If they have to bring anything, it’s toiletries for the homeless or my middle schoolers are all having a “feast” to celebrate something they are learning about or an elementary schooler brings in a favorite toy to share with the class. “Twin Day” is fun for a few kids who are really into it. But it makes more kids feel rejected than included. |
Anonymous
| The people who don't like this stuff are the same people who don't like baby showers, or adult birthday parties. |
Anonymous
I'm fine with someone's first baby shower or occasional birthday party. But when well off adults want showers for every single one of their kids, or a party full of presents for every single adult birthday, it's odd. It's like they never grew up and became adults or something, and learned to buy stuff they want for themselves with their own money. So yeah, I guess I am one of the people you are talking about. Most of the time the stuff at school is fine and can be predicted, but sometimes it's excessive. |
Anonymous
Yeah. None of these things make my kids feel bad about themselves. |
Anonymous
Everyone in DC lives near a public park that currently has something in bloom. If a kid asked me for a flower from my yard to take to school, I would say yes. If my kid asked my neighbors for a flower, they would say yes. |
Anonymous
It’s not ok to pick flowers from a public park. Maybe you are ok with your kids starting their inevitable criminal career early, but some of us have standards for our kids. |
Anonymous
| I thought I was the only mom who hates this extra crap. My 6 year old is in kindergarten and I cannot tell you already how many times she needs things like Pajama Day ( this was 3 times already), St Patrick Day- wear green ( which of course, she didn't have except 1 green T-shirt that was a little small on her, but I still put it on), Spirit Day etc. Then, all these e-mails from room parents who collect money for T-Shirts and God knows what else. I work full time, my husband works part-time, I truly don't have time for this. |
Anonymous
+100% Agree! |
Anonymous
I hate stuff like this and like baby showers and adult birthdays. As others have said, it's the lack of adequate notice that I resent. If you want me to do something, email me about it at least a week in advance so I have time to Amazon something, and not buried in some interminable email about all the things happening this week/month. Schools need to communicate better in general and figure out how to highlight action items. Like most people, between home and work I get hundreds if not thousands of emails a day and have virtually no free time. |
Anonymous
Why isn’t your husband handling it? |
Anonymous
I was going to say the same. You truly do have time for this. Your DH works part time. Isn't this the reason he doesn't work full time? |
Anonymous
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DC is in a school with uniforms so dress up days are a treat for them. The school always gives enough notice, assuming I read the emails sent in their entirety the week prior.
When we have special requests to bring things in there is usually a text from friend group that they are heading to store to get x,y,z asking if anyone need anything. This is priceless. We have been that family that forgot to bring in flowers. We have also been that family that brought in a half dozen to hand out to others who may have forgotten. |
Anonymous
Go pick flowers in a public park? The entitlement here is astounding. Have you ever heard of the Tragedy of the Commons? |
Anonymous
DP. If I were to delegate this stuff to my DH, it just wouldn’t get done. He thinks it’s even more of a waste of time. |
Anonymous
So then it doesn't happen and it's fine right? |