What is your Body Piercing Policy?

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Anonymous wrote:It's very common in the US: you do what we say while we are paying the bills.

+1. It’s also just respect. Children respect their parents wishes and their bodies. It’s how my husband and I were raised and how we are doing it too. Most children don’t actually want to disappoint their parents.

My brother and I were both model kids and respected our parents. And they never made us feel like they were paying for it.

[Anonymous]

My DD is 14 and just got her 3rd set of holes in her ear. She's been asking for a nose piercing for a few months now. Two of her friends have them (small stud kind, not septum). It's like all of a sudden a nose piercing is the new bellybutton ring from years ago.

My oldest DD, who is 20 and in college, pierced her nose with her best friends in HS when they were all 17 during a sleepover. One of the girls bought a gun off Amazon and pierced all of their noses. I was pissed at first and wanted her to take it out immediately, but then I realized she was a few months away from 18, so I let her keep it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It's very common in the US: you do what we say while we are paying the bills.

+1. It’s also just respect. Children respect their parents wishes and their bodies. It’s how my husband and I were raised and how we are doing it too. Most children don’t actually want to disappoint their parents.

My brother and I were both model kids and respected our parents. And they never made us feel like they were paying for it.

So were my sister and I. But we knew better than to come home with extra piercings or a tattoo (!!!) My mother is deceased now but even as an adult I never wanted to disappoint or embarrass her. She was very proud of both of us.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It's very common in the US: you do what we say while we are paying the bills.

+1. It’s also just respect. Children respect their parents wishes and their bodies. It’s how my husband and I were raised and how we are doing it too. Most children don’t actually want to disappoint their parents.

My brother and I were both model kids and respected our parents. And they never made us feel like they were paying for it.

So were my sister and I. But we knew better than to come home with extra piercings or a tattoo (!!!) My mother is deceased now but even as an adult I never wanted to disappoint or embarrass her. She was very proud of both of us.

But why not a non-visible tattoo or piercing? Your parent would never know.

[Anonymous]

My son wants his lip pierced (16), but I am against the idea because he plays travel soccer and rec basketball, and I'm concerned about potential injuries. Otherwise, I wouldn't care too much. He could always take it out, it's just not a great idea with as much contact sports as he plays.


Even earrings must be removed for soccer. So your fear of his injury really isn’t valid in this situation.

You can't take it out while it is healing, it will close. Also, my daughter wears small diamond studs while playing travel soccer, and no one has brought up any issue with it.

[Anonymous]

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My son wants his lip pierced (16), but I am against the idea because he plays travel soccer and rec basketball, and I'm concerned about potential injuries. Otherwise, I wouldn't care too much. He could always take it out, it's just not a great idea with as much contact sports as he plays.


Even earrings must be removed for soccer. So your fear of his injury really isn’t valid in this situation.

You can't take it out while it is healing, it will close. Also, my daughter wears small diamond studs while playing travel soccer, and no one has brought up any issue with it.

Another way to preserve the piercings but make it nearly invisible, is: clear fishing line threaded through the skin, and then trimmed back.

It’s an old trick we used back in the National Guard.

[Anonymous]

My policy is “you aren’t allowed to punch holes in your body until you are 18 and/or move out.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My policy is “you aren’t allowed to punch holes in your body until you are 18 and/or move out.”

But isn’t the danger here that they’ll be the kid who goes overboard and gets all 12 piercings within a few months of turning 18?

[Anonymous]

12 types?

There are dozens of types of current piercings, not just 12, it turns out:

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_body_piercings

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My policy is “you aren’t allowed to punch holes in your body until you are 18 and/or move out.”

This is my policy as well. Although I've added no piercings or tats or I'm not paying for college, so that gets my kids beyond 18.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My kids would have a heart attack if they knew about my piercing that they can't see.

My policy is make a case, I will listen, we can discuss pros and cons, then go from there.

Go on...

I have a hood piercing

Is that something you get on your car?

Do you really not know the female anatomy?

Do you really not know sarcasm? -NP

You don’t know sarcasm either. That was simply a lane attempt at humor, not sarcasm.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Regular ear piercings but anything else has to wait until they're 18 and pay for it themselves. We've gone over extensively the piercings that can be more problematic like tongue piercings.

Not trying to call out this poster specifically, but I see a lot of references like the bolded. And I find it interesting. It seems that much of the concern is based on doing something that society does not view as "regular." Of course, there are issues with certain piercings that can lead to permanent damage, but most do not- nose, cartilage, navel, etc. The only difference is what is "regular" or "normal." I side on letting my kid (15yo) get whatever she wants that she can pay for, so long as it isn't permanent. I don't set up conflicts on things that are personal expression. I have LOTS of battles to fight elsewhere!

Your post brings up an interesting point, many of these opinions are based around white, fundamental Christian norms even if the posters are not aware of it. For example, the idea that more than one ear piercing or a nose piercing is trashy.

That very well may be, but I challenge you to go into professional setting and observe if the people running things have a bunch of piercings in their face or tattoos all over their body. My GYN is not white or male. Neither is the cardiologist I saw a few years ago. And pretty much all of the people I work with in the USG (more white and male than elsewhere, but not entirely) don't have visible piercings or tattoos.

The simple truth is that people don't take you seriously as an adult if you are all tatted up and punched full of holes. Make of it what you will.

Sure, but your 17yo isn't currently a cardiologist, so the nose stud won't matter. And I'm willing to bet that a good percentage of those doctors you go to have a tattoo somewhere, and may have had more piercings when they were younger....

I doubt this will be true anymore when our children grow up. This generation is very levelheaded and much more tolerant.

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Anonymous wrote:My kids would have a heart attack if they knew about my piercing that they can't see.

My policy is make a case, I will listen, we can discuss pros and cons, then go from there.

Go on...

I have a hood piercing

Is that something you get on your car?

Do you really not know the female anatomy?

Do you really not know sarcasm? -NP

You don’t know sarcasm either. That was simply a lane attempt at humor, not sarcasm.

No

[Anonymous]

One hole in each ear until 18. Not budging on that

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Once they are teens, it is important to teach them to be responsible for themselves.

Their body, their choice.

OP did specify “body” piercing; not just ears and face.