| My son is 8 in and in the 2nd percentile for height. When he was 3ish we had him do a round of testing (bone scan, etc.), because he had fallen off his curve from when he was 1-2, but everything came back normal and he's since stayed on his curve. We have a pretty laid back pediatrician, so she hasn't recommended going to an endocrinologist, growth hormone, etc. but I wanted to see if that's the norm? Online calculators usually show him projected to be 5' 4" ish eventually, which I think we can all agree culturally isn't the easiest thing, but just wanted to hear from other parents who BTDT what was recommended to them. FWIW mom is average height and Dad is on the short side but 5' 8". |
| Go to an endocrinologist. You want to rule out any growth issues. |
| OP: GET YOUR DS TO AN ENDO. I’m serious. Do this FOR HIM. I could write a book on this subject. Trust me. |
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Someone has to be the 3%.
It doesn’t mean anything is wrong. There are posts at least weekly here about a mom wondering why her son is so short and what endocrinologist to see. The vast majority of short kids don’t have a medical problem. Good luck ruling things out, but don’t be at all surprised if there is nothing wrong. |
| Yes, it’s the standard protocol for a pediatrician to refer you to a pediatric endocrinologist, often as PP mentioned to just rule certain issues out. |
| I was in a similar situation, with DH and my heights being same as you both. We went the endo route, it's an annual visit, and I think it's a good idea, although they didn't find anything. The bone scan results can change each year, mine was always behind and then magically popped up to normal one year without any change on the growth chart. Now he's in puberty, which he reached a little late, and has gone up on the growth chart to the 15%. I think he's going to make it past 5'4. All this to say, no one knows for sure where your son will land height wise, but it's a great idea to go to an endocrinologist to rule anything out along the way. |
| OP here - thanks everyone; making an endo appointment today! |
| How did this go? We’re there now with our son. My husband is very defensive about it all. |
Exactly. He is no different than the kid who is in the 98th percentile except that we treat them as if they are different. They are simply opposite ends of the distribution. |
Your DH should have sympathy, being 5’4” is really going to be hard. If I had sons I would be all over this with endo. Our DD will be short but less consequence -5’5” DH. |
This. Being short isn’t a medical problem and doesn’t need fixing. As PP said, some kids will be 99% and some will be 1% |
I know a lot of shorter men. I’m 5’5” at some are my height. All successful high level careers, beautiful wives (that is some cases are their height or taller), kids. Height isn’t a problem if you have other good qualities; intelligence, humor, kindness, and have the work ethic to succeed. |
Seriously! This “let’s pathologize everything” bs is going too far. We are a short family - both my husband and I are 5’4” and my kids are on track to be the same. This is life. Deal with it. |
| I'm short at 5'2'' and DH is tall at 6'1''. My DS is tracking more to my height, 5th percentile. I had the same gut reaction as you, pathologizing it etc but I have now made my peace with it. He is a happy and well adjusted guy and yes life is way easier for tall men (just ask DH!) but being short isn't the end of the world. I come from short genes and my dad is only around 5'5'' and is also very successful, for what it's worth. |
NP here. I’m shorter than you are and I’d take a couple of inches in height if they were handing it out for free. Would both you and your husband choose to stay 5’4” if you could change it? I’m not saying I’d do growth hormones but I wouldn’t mind being taller. |