potty training & daycare

[Anonymous]

I'm interested in potty training my 20 month old DS. He's in full time daycare. For those who have navigated potty training and daycare - what has been your experience? Is daycare supportive this early on, or no? Can you do potty training at home but diapers at daycare or would that just be terrible?

[Anonymous]

That would just be terrible. Either take a long weekend and send him back fully trained (even if there are a few accidents). Or wait.

Daycare and home need to be on the same page with this.

[Anonymous]

Talk to your daycare -- mine wouldn't support the process under 2, but I think they'd have been somewhat okay if I'd pulled my kid for a week or two and sent her back fully potty trained.

[Anonymous]

Hi, this is OP. Yes, of course I was planning on taking time off and sending him back after that - but he still would not be "fully trained" even if I took a week off! I would expect that there would still need to be support from daycare. I am planning to talk to my daycare and coordinate about it, but just wondered what experience others have had with it. I'm reading that Oh crap book that is recommended and it says there is a window. in which to do it, so I want to do it in that timeframe.

[Anonymous]

Just ask. At our daycare they regularly sat kids under 2 on the potty. When DD started going pretty consistently around 22 months they suggested sending her in pull ups rather than diapers. We didn't really try to fully train until after she moved to the 2s room at 24 months (I thought a big change would set her back) but then we dropped pull ups over a weekend and sent her back in underwear and it was done. Both the toddler and 2s teachers were really encouraging about it.

I know people here hate pull ups, but I found them helpful before she was actually trained. But we weren't really trying at that point. I don't think diapers at daycare but underwear at home would work.

[Anonymous]

Ideally daycare has a time when they start working with the kids on it. If it is soon, I would wait to allign with them. Otherwise ask for their suggestions.

[Anonymous]

Ask your daycare. My kids went to an in-home where they would work with you if you had started training at home, but other places may have different philosophies.

[Anonymous]

My daycare suggested it when DD was around 22 mos (and brought it up before I did) because they saw her showing interest. There were other kids in the class potty training and she wanted to try it too. Ask your daycare teachers -- they will let you know if htey think she is ready. I would not do different things at home vs. daycare. It is important to be consistent and inf act, my daycare made me sign a form that said we would be on the same page about potty training.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My daycare suggested it when DD was around 22 mos (and brought it up before I did) because they saw her showing interest. There were other kids in the class potty training and she wanted to try it too. Ask your daycare teachers -- they will let you know if htey think she is ready. I would not do different things at home vs. daycare. It is important to be consistent and inf act, my daycare made me sign a form that said we would be on the same page about potty training.

sorry, he*

[Anonymous]

Our daycare was terrible about this. DD potty trained herself at 22 months but there was no potty in the twos room. We bought them two potties (one travel and one regular) and they told us they would not use them. The travel potty had bags so it was easier than changing a diaper. They also refused to bring her to the bathroom even when she cried to go. She was in diapers, demoralized, for a month when we bugged them so much they mobed her to the twos room early.

There are parts of daycare that I absolutely loathe.

[Anonymous]

So, asking daycare is great. In my experience, if you are very wishy washy “we are trying, could you try too, do whatever you want, do diapers if it’s easier, don’t want to be a bother,” it isn’t going to work. For us, this just led to daycare taking an “easy way out” (this isn’t meant to be a criticism, it’s just reality with that many kids.” If you are in a 2s room already, they have access to a potty. Be very specific about what you want them to do, and expect them to do it half of the time and not be able to the other half.

[Anonymous]

We trained at 24 months and sent DD in underwear, but daycare kept putting her in diapers despite our request to only do underwear. DD has totally regressed because of the weekday diapers, so we will be retraining this summer when we move to a new childcare setup.

I suspect the answer is don't train until daycare decides it's time.

[Anonymous]

Is your child interested in potty training? Are they showing signs of being able to go?

[Anonymous]

It’s up to your daycare and not your child. In our daycare, there wasn’t even a bathroom available until the child was in the 2’s rooms.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s up to your daycare and not your child. In our daycare, there wasn’t even a bathroom available until the child was in the 2’s rooms.

+1. One of the sad things about group care. It’s not about the child.