When new supervisor takes against you
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Anonymous
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I’m managed by multiple people. I’ve received great reviews and have good relationships with everyone. I get along with my coworkers. I’m a bit of an unusual thinker but that attribute has been praised repeatedly by my managers. Fast forward, there is a new manager who I am not a match with. I sensed this but didn’t make much of it but she has written me up and had a private meeting with me about decorum and my personality. I’ve attempted to integrate her feedback. I spoke with other supervisors, and they disagree strongly with her take but it’s all very awkward. I would be fine to let it be but she seems committed to going out of her way to critique me and make my life difficult. WWYD? I will continue talking to my other managers. I’d prefer not to turn this into a big issue but I feel that she’s forcing my hand. She’s a fine person she tends more toward rigidity and I’m the exact opposite. |
Anonymous
| By talking to the other managers about her you are actually the problem, not her. Stop talking about her and your problems with her or you will find that you talk yourself out of a job. |
Anonymous
She has Cc’ed them on emails and approached them to talk about me. |
Anonymous
This is a stupid take. Managers, more often than not, are wrong because they're poor leaders. I'd go to other people in my org to and ask 'hey whats up with (jeroffmanagersnamehere) am I doing something I need to fix?" |
Anonymous
| It seems she has started a campaign against you, especially if she is cc’ing your other managers. If at all you can request that you not report directly to her, as a first step do so. You don’t want her having direct authority over you. If that doesn’t work, then you ve got to start playing offense. Don’t know what that looks like in your situation, but you shouldn’t allow yourself to be a sitting duck. This may require you to tone your personality down a bit as she will likely turn that against you as being unprofessional, but you indicate she’s done that already. |
Anonymous
| If she doesn't like you, find another job. |
Anonymous
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I was a high performer and the new boss had it out for me and others. My guess is she felt threatened by us. We were a high-performing team that had brought in a lot of revenue for the company. By hiring her, the company lost millions of dollars and a bunch of people, including me.
Your new boss is probably jealous of you, because you are well regarded. My guess is you are also smart. Insecure people don’t like that. She won’t be fixed. You’ll have to assess whether the company will get rid of her or if you need to find a new job. I worked for a sociopath, as well, and the company kept him while the employees quit one by one. At another company, five of us resigned (unplanned) due to the boss, and the company still kept her for ages. Eventually, they laid her off years later… My experience is that insecure and unqualified people become managers and, if they don’t seek out personal development and training, they keep acting like an individual contributor instead of transitioning to what a leader needs to do. |
Anonymous
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Sending virtual hugs. Going through the exact same thing now. Was always A+ top performer. New boss only sees the bad in everything.
My new technique is to reduce what I say. Statistics only. Focus conversation back on them. Wait it out… |
Anonymous
| “Decorum and your personality issues”. What exactly did she say is the problem? This is vague. Off color jokes? Are you too loud? |
Anonymous
| Is she your direct supervisor? I guess I’m used to working in a more “straight line” organization. I don’t understand the part about cc-ing other managers. |
Anonymous
Np and sending a virtual group hug request  . I am going through a similar issue at my job with a team of new managers. I am so baffled with why I am being targeted after years in my position with no problems. I am actively trying to leave.
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Anonymous
| Do you undermine her authority continually? Might set her teeth on edge |
Anonymous
I suspect you are the problem. She is probably just the first one willing to go through the headache of questioning your style and performance. |
Anonymous
I agree, and I say this as someone who knows that the minute we have a restructuring or my boss leaves that I am going to have to shape myself up and tone down my style. I’ve gotten by for years with a flexible boss whose known me for eons. Take a good look at your style and mode of communication. Many, if not most of us, have had to re-adjust at some point. |
Anonymous
I agree with the other posters. You are the problem for the simple fact that you went to talk to other supervisors about your new supervisor. As a rule of thumb "never talk about your supervisor/manager to others in a upward positions because they could be coming back and talking to your manager. Right now, you are creating drama or office gossip. If you need validation, then the new manager concerns about you must be true. |