I agree with positive and mindful parenting but..

[Anonymous]

… and I usually do well. I don’t want to shame or punish; I never yell… except sometimes, Jesus, my 3.5 yr old does something that has me screaming, “Stop! God, why the hell would you do that!!!” Today he tried to dump wet sand on another little kid’s head - I mean actually followed the kid to put sand on his head - and then later opened his car door while I was driving (apparently the child-guard lock isn’t working). He’s generally a thoughtful little boy and follows direction well so the sand incident threw me. His car door opening scared me. He knows not to touch stuff in the car.

Please tell me I’m not the only parent committed to positive parenting who loses it occasionally.

[Anonymous]

Age four will certainly test the positive parenting dedication. I think the occasional slip up shows you are human and that there are limits to mommy's patience.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, I yell at my kids, they deserve it. Whether it's because they are being jerks, or taking part in dangerous activities, I've been unsuccessful in figuring out any other way to get it to stop.

It's possible I'm just a shitty parent, but I choose to believe that parents that for real don't yell at their kids don't spend much time with their kids.

[Anonymous]

3.5 is the pits for some kids. It’s like they want you to lose it.

[Anonymous]

OMG 3.5 is the worst! I had a shoe thrown at me while driving up the GW Parkway. Hang in there.

[Anonymous]

It happens, OP. I’m a totally zen, crunchy, mindful mom and I’ve lost it on my kids at times. I apologize, explain, and move on.

The sand-on-the-head made me laugh. He thought it was a good idea at the time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OMG 3.5 is the worst! I had a shoe thrown at me while driving up the GW Parkway. Hang in there.

+1.

[Anonymous]

I get it! It’s so hard when the kid does that “WTF!” thing that throws you. DS at that age kicked his then baby sister really hard once and knocked her backwards and she hit her head. Completely out of the blue. I lost it and yelled at him and sent him to his room. In all honesty I wanted to hit him. I was shaking I was so angry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I get it! It’s so hard when the kid does that “WTF!” thing that throws you. DS at that age kicked his then baby sister really hard once and knocked her backwards and she hit her head. Completely out of the blue. I lost it and yelled at him and sent him to his room. In all honesty I wanted to hit him. I was shaking I was so angry.

DD at 3.5 knocked over her baby brothers high chair with him in it. I totally lost it. I punished her way more severely than I should have.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, I yell at my kids, they deserve it. Whether it's because they are being jerks, or taking part in dangerous activities, I've been unsuccessful in figuring out any other way to get it to stop.

It's possible I'm just a shitty parent, but I choose to believe that parents that for real don't yell at their kids don't spend much time with their kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, I yell at my kids, they deserve it. Whether it's because they are being jerks, or taking part in dangerous activities, I've been unsuccessful in figuring out any other way to get it to stop.

It's possible I'm just a shitty parent, but I choose to believe that parents that for real don't yell at their kids don't spend much time with their kids.

I can honestly say I have never yelled at my kid even once. But here’s the catch… I only have one. And there’s another parent, so I can walk away whenever I need to. I think if I had more than one, or if I were the only parent, I’d be yelling for sure.

I don’t think you’re a shitty parent, I think parenting multiple kids is just really really hard.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, I yell at my kids, they deserve it. Whether it's because they are being jerks, or taking part in dangerous activities, I've been unsuccessful in figuring out any other way to get it to stop.

It's possible I'm just a shitty parent, but I choose to believe that parents that for real don't yell at their kids don't spend much time with their kids.

I can honestly say I have never yelled at my kid even once. But here’s the catch… I only have one. And there’s another parent, so I can walk away whenever I need to. I think if I had more than one, or if I were the only parent, I’d be yelling for sure.

I don’t think you’re a shitty parent, I think parenting multiple kids is just really really hard.

I'm a SAHM to two toddlers ie I spend a lot of time with my kids. I have never yelled. But I have a lot of other bad traits as a parent. I just take issue with the idea that all parents yell.

[Anonymous]

Remind yourself that you are doing a great job modeling for your child the full range of human emotion; emotions he will see from others and experience himself. Also show him how you calm down when you are angry, and how you apologize (if you go too far). Being human is complicated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, I yell at my kids, they deserve it. Whether it's because they are being jerks, or taking part in dangerous activities, I've been unsuccessful in figuring out any other way to get it to stop.

It's possible I'm just a shitty parent, but I choose to believe that parents that for real don't yell at their kids don't spend much time with their kids.

I can honestly say I have never yelled at my kid even once. But here’s the catch… I only have one. And there’s another parent, so I can walk away whenever I need to. I think if I had more than one, or if I were the only parent, I’d be yelling for sure.

I don’t think you’re a shitty parent, I think parenting multiple kids is just really really hard.

I'm a SAHM to two toddlers ie I spend a lot of time with my kids. I have never yelled. But I have a lot of other bad traits as a parent. I just take issue with the idea that all parents yell.

Seriously? You have never yelled or raised your voice even once? If your kid was darting into traffic you wouldn’t yell at them to stop? I feel like I yell too much but my youngest tries to kill himself on a daily basis so I am constantly yelling at him to stop.

[Anonymous]

Your kid needs to learn boundaries. Sometimes that requires yelling, and that's okay.