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Anonymous
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I know that I am likely to get flamed for this, but one annoying thing that I used to see when I dated was men who would split the bill at the end of the meal. I just found it to be the most emasculating thing. All of a sudden, that man became a boy in my eyes.
I would sometimes just pay the whole thing to insult them then that would be the end of it. To me, if a man has financial problems, either he should pick things to do that aren't that expensive, or get his finances in order before dating. |
Anonymous
| Sometimes I wonder if these posts are real or just bait laid out by trolls . . . If it's the latter, rant and rave on craigslist may be a more appropriate forum |
Anonymous
| Have you considered that (1) maybe the man [men] did not like you, and simply did not care how you felt? Or (2) they were secure in their masculinity and could not be "emasculated" by the mere fact of splitting a check on a date? Or (3) they had glanced at the calendar anytime in the last decade and realized that it was the 21st century and they did not need to treat women like helpless unemancipated fools? Or (4) they perhaps had lower salaries/incomes than you and felt that it was only fair to ask you to divvy up the check? Or (5) some combination of the above? Or (6) maybe you shouldn't make such grotesque assumptions based on such small incidents. Or (7) maybe you should be please just give the rest of the women on earth a break and shoot yourself in the head because right now you are making me want to puke. |
Anonymous
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This is the worst day you've ever had...he won't pay? So the best day is when he pays?
In other words...you're a prostitute. |
Anonymous
| I must say, that there is something nice about a man's kindness in this area. It is a good sign when they show any amount of generosity. |
Anonymous
| Hostile responses. I think if the guy asks the woman out, he should pay. If the woman asks the man out, she should pay. If the man and woman find themselves out informally, they should split the bill. |
Anonymous
| Very good response pp. Most of the time men ask women out, but in the reverse situation, she should pay. |
Anonymous
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If this thread had not been entitled "worst date...he won't pay," and had the verbiage about emasculation and financial problems not been included, I would have agreed with OP. But that's just so over the top.
Maybe if you had entitled your thread something like "Isn't it annoying when he asks you out but offers to split the check.." And "emasculated" -- what is that about? And why would you assume he had financial problems? |
Anonymous
| I agree. The one who asks should pay. I used to think it was regressive for women because the man usually asks for the date. But it's like the cost of making a contact kind of like a business dinner where the dinner is the cost for the other person's time and company. |
Anonymous
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That's the worst date?
I would think that the dates where he pays for dinner and therefore thinks he "bought" something else would be worse for you. |
Anonymous
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The men that use the line "I forgot my wallet", or the ones that try to go to places that they can't afford, or carve out the $2.41 that the woman owes out of a $22 bill, are annoying.
I have experienced all of these. |
Anonymous
| How about the woman who gets you to pay for her dinner, then says she has to go home and call her boyfriend. |
Anonymous
No! are you being serious. Has that really happened? |
Anonymous
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Anonymous
| How about the friend you go to dinner with and orders a dish for $9.95 and when the bill comes pays $10. No tax and no tip included. |