cheating Q

[Anonymous]

If your MIL told you that she had proof that her DH was cheating on her. (phone records, receipts at hotels) Then she passed away and your FIL ended up marrying the woman he cheated with. The right way to move on is to keep that info to yourself, right?

[Anonymous]

Now that MIL is gone and knowing and disseminating that information would only cause friction then yes, I would drop it.

[Anonymous]

You don't speak of it. MIL had the proof not you, correct?

You risk causing friction between you and your spouse, too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You don't speak of it. MIL had the proof not you, correct?

You risk causing friction between you and your spouse, too.

Agree but isn't it crazy to think FIL's current wife will never know. She's just living her life without that fact. I'll never speak of it but if ANYONE ever knew that my DH was cheating, past or present I would want to know, personally.

[Anonymous]

Yes. Keep it to yourself.

[Anonymous]

You never saw proof, so you do not KNOW.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You don't speak of it. MIL had the proof not you, correct?

You risk causing friction between you and your spouse, too.

Agree but isn't it crazy to think FIL's current wife will never know. She's just living her life without that fact. I'll never speak of it but if ANYONE ever knew that my DH was cheating, past or present I would want to know, personally.

She knows doesn’t she? Sounds like she was the AP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You don't speak of it. MIL had the proof not you, correct?

You risk causing friction between you and your spouse, too.

Agree but isn't it crazy to think FIL's current wife will never know. She's just living her life without that fact. I'll never speak of it but if ANYONE ever knew that my DH was cheating, past or present I would want to know, personally.

FIL’s new wife was his AP. What’s there to tell her?

[Anonymous]

Maybe I listen to too many true crime podcasts, but the only reason to tell someone would be if you suspected foul play in MIL's death.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe I listen to too many true crime podcasts, but the only reason to tell someone would be if you suspected foul play in MIL's death.

Agreed it's always a possibility.

[Anonymous]

Whatever you have just destroy it and throw it all away; this will only hurt your husband or maybe your kids depending on who finds it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You don't speak of it. MIL had the proof not you, correct?

You risk causing friction between you and your spouse, too.

Agree but isn't it crazy to think FIL's current wife will never know. She's just living her life without that fact. I'll never speak of it but if ANYONE ever knew that my DH was cheating, past or present I would want to know, personally.

She knows doesn’t she? Sounds like she was the AP.

From what I understand as an adult now, FIL probably told his AP half lies about his situation.
AP probably believed most of it and may have theoretically thought she was engaging within a period of a safe zone when in fact he was still very much married with a family.
Or maybe that's giving her too much credit? and she knew but still proceeded?
Either way there was overlap in the time they started their relationship. FIL was still going out with his family and holding and kissing his wife while also cheating with AP.

[Anonymous]

OP = AP in this scenario.

[Anonymous]

Good for the FIL to able to move on and find true love so quickly. MYOB.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Good for the FIL to able to move on and find true love so quickly. MYOB.

Yeah, like while still married JFC