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Is my DC hosed b/c of my negative DCUM comment?
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Anonymous
| Oh, the indiscretions that anonymous boards can bring out. Once upon a time I had sour grapes b/c my DC was waitlisted by one of the big whatevers. I recently posted something negative about the experience that was sufficiently detailed that the admissions person could identify me if he/she read these boards. Fast forward, and DC wants to reapply. What are the chances that I've ruined DC's chances? |
Anonymous
Seriously? Very close to zero. Admissions people have better things to do than read DCUM and find ways for revenge. |
Anonymous
| Actually, i think a lot of them do read these boards. |
Anonymous
| I know ours do. I hope they'd be professional enough to avoid "punishing" people for posting negative stories. |
Anonymous
| I would think that admission folks do read these boards and would hope that applicant families would be professional enough to avoid posting identifying information in a negative comment. |
Anonymous
| I don't think this second post will help with anonymity. |
Anonymous
| If you are this neurotic about posting anonymous comments on a message board, how do expect to survive the rough and tumble of car pool line? |
Anonymous
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I'm assuming the original post was a joke, to stir things up. On the off chance it is not, I guarantee the Admissions staff doesn't comb through DCUM, spend the time and energy to figure out identifying information, and then make a "blackball" notation on your kid's file if you re-apply.
1. They have lives. 2. They are not insane. 3. See above. |
Anonymous
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Actually, a few admissions officers have come here to give there views, even in the past few months when people were applying. Mostly their comments were along the lines of "admissions officers are the fairest, nicest people around", but I digress. (And no, we don't need to apply again, so I'm not worried about being hosed!) Sidwell's head of admissions even came on a year or so ago, identified himself, and offered to answer questions.
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Anonymous
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They absolutely read these boards and while they may not want to take the time to track down individual posters, it seems OP's concerns are that the identity of her child is obvious from the details of her post. I've got to wonder why she would do that, sour grapes or not, because it doesn't serve her child any to post identifiable information about him on the internet.
Frankly, OP, you've got to just calm down. The fact that you were so wound up you felt the need to impulsively post in the first place, and then to obsess about it later, just tells me you are too invested in the process. A step back and a deep breath. |
Anonymous
| To the extent that school AD does recognize your family, they will consider it just one more piece of information. I cannot imagine it would close off opportunity for your child alone and the child is the primary person being considered. But can you really blame a school for finding your behavior unappealling? Everytime you get disgruntled, do you plan to go publicly bad-mouth the school on some anonymous forum? If I was an AD, I would steer clear of you, which is unfortunate for your child. But ADs are professionals, so hopefully you will be okay. |
Anonymous
| You'll never know. Then again, your DC didn't get in last time either so it'd be par for the course if DC was rejected next time as well. |
Anonymous
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Actually, some of these schools' admissions processes deserve to be bad-mouthed. If nothing else, admissions officers will read the comments and hopefully make changes.
OP's mistake was that she put identifying information, not that she badmouthed a particular school. |
Anonymous
What changes are you hoping they will make? |
Anonymous
| I am hoping that collectively they will stop being such star-fuckers, where the admissions cmte. reflexively admits children of bold name media and policy types. |