Wedding Expenses

[Anonymous]

How much money are you willing to spend on your children’s weddings?

[Anonymous]

Depends how much control they want to yield over the process. Local wedding that includes my friends and family? $$$$$. Destination wedding in Hawaii? $.

[Anonymous]

Just average upper middle class wedding in general.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How much money are you willing to spend on your children’s weddings?

I had a big wedding with all the trimmings and it cost my parents $10,000. So, $10,000 for a dress worn only once, a 5-hour party--mainly friends of parents--what a total waste of money! I have told all three children, two sons and one daughter, that big weddings are ridiculous and to use that money to save to buy a house. I will give each $10,000 and if they are smart they will have a tiny wedding and save for good down payment for a house. We are paying for their bachelor's degree but graduate degrees they are responsible.

[Anonymous]

My wedding in 2000 was probably $12,000 all in. I assume my daughter’s wedding will be about $35,000, similar to a year of in-state college.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How much money are you willing to spend on your children’s weddings?

I had a big wedding with all the trimmings and it cost my parents $10,000. So, $10,000 for a dress worn only once, a 5-hour party--mainly friends of parents--what a total waste of money! I have told all three children, two sons and one daughter, that big weddings are ridiculous and to use that money to save to buy a house. I will give each $10,000 and if they are smart they will have a tiny wedding and save for good down payment for a house. We are paying for their bachelor's degree but graduate degrees they are responsible.

You got $10k way back when that paid for a big wedding and you’re giving each kid $10k in today’s dollars? Yikes!

[Anonymous]

$20,000

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How much money are you willing to spend on your children’s weddings?

I had a big wedding with all the trimmings and it cost my parents $10,000. So, $10,000 for a dress worn only once, a 5-hour party--mainly friends of parents--what a total waste of money! I have told all three children, two sons and one daughter, that big weddings are ridiculous and to use that money to save to buy a house. I will give each $10,000 and if they are smart they will have a tiny wedding and save for good down payment for a house. We are paying for their bachelor's degree but graduate degrees they are responsible.

Hopefully for your kids sake you’re more realistic about today’s college costs than you are about weddings

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How much money are you willing to spend on your children’s weddings?

I had a big wedding with all the trimmings and it cost my parents $10,000. So, $10,000 for a dress worn only once, a 5-hour party--mainly friends of parents--what a total waste of money! I have told all three children, two sons and one daughter, that big weddings are ridiculous and to use that money to save to buy a house. I will give each $10,000 and if they are smart they will have a tiny wedding and save for good down payment for a house. We are paying for their bachelor's degree but graduate degrees they are responsible.

You got $10k way back when that paid for a big wedding and you’re giving each kid $10k in today’s dollars? Yikes!

+1. Cheapskate

[Anonymous]

I plan on giving my kids either a house downpayment or a wedding. I hope they choose downpayment help. Likely 50k, but it might be more by the time my kids are old enough to marry.

I also think in the future that both sides should split wedding funding. I plan on giving my son money and I hope my daughters marry men whose parents feel the same. I always thought it was sexist that people only pay for women's weddings. When my grandma was young, men got college paid for and women got weddings. My grandma was upset about how she couldn't go to college her entire life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I plan on giving my kids either a house downpayment or a wedding. I hope they choose downpayment help. Likely 50k, but it might be more by the time my kids are old enough to marry.

I also think in the future that both sides should split wedding funding. I plan on giving my son money and I hope my daughters marry men whose parents feel the same. I always thought it was sexist that people only pay for women's weddings. When my grandma was young, men got college paid for and women got weddings. My grandma was upset about how she couldn't go to college her entire life.

Sort of ironic the sexism is obvious to you but your classism isn’t. My parents could never have given me $50k when I married. I suppose that would have made me a disappointing spouse to your kids to you.

[Anonymous]

I paid for expensive undergrad & grad degrees and new cars. I got nothing more to give for weddings. They are working and their partners are working, they should have weddings then can afford. I’ll give a gift check but not spending my nursing home payment for wedding extravaganza.

[Anonymous]

It doesn’t matter who is paying, expensive weddings are simply stupid. I know because I had one and my parents spent their hard earned and frugally saved money on it.

[Anonymous]

I feel like I SHOULD give as much as I spent on braces, so $5-6,000.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How much money are you willing to spend on your children’s weddings?

I had a big wedding with all the trimmings and it cost my parents $10,000. So, $10,000 for a dress worn only once, a 5-hour party--mainly friends of parents--what a total waste of money! I have told all three children, two sons and one daughter, that big weddings are ridiculous and to use that money to save to buy a house. I will give each $10,000 and if they are smart they will have a tiny wedding and save for good down payment for a house. We are paying for their bachelor's degree but graduate degrees they are responsible.

Did you get married in the 70s?