Moving too fast?

[Anonymous]

A man I’m dating recently told me (after four dates FYI), how much he really likes me and how he’s always thinking about me. Great! But then he said something like how he hopes we will work out. Isn’t it too soon for someone to be saying this? Is this insecurity? It kind of gave me a stop in my tracks, even though I like him very much.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A man I’m dating recently told me (after four dates FYI), how much he really likes me and how he’s always thinking about me. Great! But then he said something like how he hopes we will work out. Isn’t it too soon for someone to be saying this? Is this insecurity? It kind of gave me a stop in my tracks, even though I like him very much.

It is too soon for you. Perfect time for some other woman and he's not insecure. I've personally rejected every guy who was "playing hard to get", trying hard not to let on how much he likes me, etc. Because there was always another guy saying "I'm crazy about you, etc" these Rules of Fearing Becoming the Admirer vs Admiree guys didn't stand a chance. Stop counting date numbers, minutes between text backs, etc. and appreciate this man or don't waste any more of his time. Instead find every DIVORCED relationship author (The Rules/Code, Men are from Mars, etc), and date a man more into manipulation than you being yourself. Repeat, the authors are ALL DIVORCED. Guys of mothers who are divorced 4+ times are PERFECT for you--they definitely will have a deeply insecure way of avoiding "too soon" talks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A man I’m dating recently told me (after four dates FYI), how much he really likes me and how he’s always thinking about me. Great! But then he said something like how he hopes we will work out. Isn’t it too soon for someone to be saying this? Is this insecurity? It kind of gave me a stop in my tracks, even though I like him very much.

It is too soon for you. Perfect time for some other woman and he's not insecure. I've personally rejected every guy who was "playing hard to get", trying hard not to let on how much he likes me, etc. Because there was always another guy saying "I'm crazy about you, etc" these Rules of Fearing Becoming the Admirer vs Admiree guys didn't stand a chance. Stop counting date numbers, minutes between text backs, etc. and appreciate this man or don't waste any more of his time. Instead find every DIVORCED relationship author (The Rules/Code, Men are from Mars, etc), and date a man more into manipulation than you being yourself. Repeat, the authors are ALL DIVORCED. Guys of mothers who are divorced 4+ times are PERFECT for you--they definitely will have a deeply insecure way of avoiding "too soon" talks.

Thanks for the advice. I get what you’re saying. But I’ve found in the past that men that also say that were just “love bombing.” Just trying to weed out the dishonest ones.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:A man I’m dating recently told me (after four dates FYI), how much he really likes me and how he’s always thinking about me. Great! But then he said something like how he hopes we will work out. Isn’t it too soon for someone to be saying this? Is this insecurity? It kind of gave me a stop in my tracks, even though I like him very much.

It is too soon for you. Perfect time for some other woman and he's not insecure. I've personally rejected every guy who was "playing hard to get", trying hard not to let on how much he likes me, etc. Because there was always another guy saying "I'm crazy about you, etc" these Rules of Fearing Becoming the Admirer vs Admiree guys didn't stand a chance. Stop counting date numbers, minutes between text backs, etc. and appreciate this man or don't waste any more of his time. Instead find every DIVORCED relationship author (The Rules/Code, Men are from Mars, etc), and date a man more into manipulation than you being yourself. Repeat, the authors are ALL DIVORCED. Guys of mothers who are divorced 4+ times are PERFECT for you--they definitely will have a deeply insecure way of avoiding "too soon" talks.

Thanks for the advice. I get what you’re saying. But I’ve found in the past that men that also say that were just “love bombing.” Just trying to weed out the dishonest ones.

I wasn't familiar with "love bombing", so my sweetie probably has been living in "Love Hiroshima" all these years. You don't have to apologize if it is not a fit--you do you. He's unlikely a "love bomber" and definitely not insecure.

When we first met I would constantly tell him "Whatever happens we will work it out". One day he REALLY ticked me off and he thought I was leaving. "He said I was so angry he thought I didn't want to work it out." When I replied "'Not work it out?' I didn't say that. That doesn't sound like something I would say..." and he quickly conceded I was always ready to hear him out. I have a feeling other couples would be miserable doing this. There is no right or wrong, just wrong for you. Good luck!

[Anonymous]

Men need to stop simping

[Anonymous]

Four dates is not at all early to say how you feel about someone assuming the dates haven’t all been superficial nonsense. At this point in my life my dates cut to the chase of who are you/what do you want/how do you feel pretty quickly.

[Anonymous]

I don't see anything particularly alarming in what he said. He basically said he likes you and hopes to continue seeing you.

He didn't say he loves you are propose marriage.

Honestly, Op based on your multiple threads of this nature I think you should give dating a break and see a therapist so you can build your self esteem and heal from your past dating trauma otherwise you are going to end up sabotaging good relationships and end up with the guys you don't want .